Creepy things that males have said to you in any context.

[NoMoreDickheads]

One I saw a couple of times a while back- he seemed a nice guy so IDK why he came out with this.

Me:- I don't like X (sexual act) it just makes me feel ticklish.

Him:- I'm going to make you laugh and laugh.

!!!
Luckily he didn't go on to try the thing. Brr!

I was 12 walking down a side street (and I was young looking so looked about 9/10). A man sat in a car on the side of the road said to me ‘you look like you’d be a great fuck’ whilst licking his lips and looking me up and down.

Years later I still remember feeling terrified. Wanker

You know, I think some men actually believe they are complimenting us.

The guy said to me that I looked so good he could rape me, I'd bumped into in a shop. He said it in front of the guy at the till and another customer. I saw their faces; all three of us were stunned into silence.

I could only think to reply, "you say that like you mean it as a compliment".

His reply?

An emphatic, "oh it is a compliment."

Ex, after sex on day said 'you'd make a really good prostitute'. When I was staring at him dumbfounded, waiting for some kind of backtracking, explanation, or even a punchline, he went on to assure me I would.

Two years ago when we had that really hot summer, I was living in a ground floor flat alone. One evening I was sitting watching TV when I heard a low, gruff male voice say: “I’m watching you.” I turned round to see a guy standing at my open window just staring at me with his hands down his trousers. I screamed my head off and he fled. I logged it with the police but he came back several times over the course of the summer, and he escalated to exposing himself to any woman who he could see was alone in the ground floor flats. One night he even tried to climb into someone’s window but was chased off by a male neighbour.

The police were great and they had the dog team out one night looking for him but they never caught him. Still makes me shudder when I think about it.

I was 16 working in a pub that did food. I looked far younger than my age back then, probably 13 at most. I was prepping some salad and while quickly rolling down the plastic wrap on a cucumber, the chef who was in his mid 40s came up close behind me and said ''you look like you've had a lot of practice at that''.

While walking home from school as a teen in the mid 90s, so in my school uniform, the amount of men that beeped that car horns at me was unbelievable. It seems hard to believe now but it was common then. I wasn't wearing a short skirt either, had no tits, I only looked about 11.

Aged around 14 I was playing tennis with my cousin in the park in the summer holidays. Birmingham in the mid-nineties. Two blokes, quite nice looking in around their twenties asked if they could play doubles with us. We couldn't really be arsed but felt it would be rude to say no. After the game they kept trying to persuade us to go for a drive with them, to ''see the sights and have a laugh''.

I’ve had that “you’re so pretty you could be raped” comment too.

The person that said it was a naive teen (this was back in school 2012-3) - he genuinely thought that was okay to say and that it was somehow a compliment. He said it amongst a large group of us but no one was particularly fazed by it. Even I wasn’t, thinking back, I think low level sexual harassment was normalised back then, boys slapping your bum or graphically commenting on your body happened all the time.

It’s just so eye opening when I look back

MarigoldHotel

Your post has left my heart racing.

I was raped nearly 25 years ago by a man who climbed in through my open, ground floor bedroom window one hot summer night. I was asleep in bed at the time.

You must have been terrified to see him

When I was about 12 or 13 we were all ready to go out somewhere and all the extended family were there. I was dressed up a bit and had tights on. My uncle, out of earshot of everyone else in the room said something like, 'you look nice today in those tights. Maybe a bit thick though? You could get thinner ones next time.' I smiled and said thank you, but it was really creepy the way he was looking at my legs so closely and in retrospect he would never have said that if anyone could have heard him. It was such a small thing but it's stayed with me for many many years. The creepiness of it, the underhand way he said it, the look he was giving me. Urgh. I didn't tell anyone of course because it was something and nothing.

Last year I walked past a man sitting on a bench, he was creepily staring at me. I went to a different bench to set my handbag down & took my jacket off as it was about 30 degrees in London.

I intended to walk off after but he came up to me and made a comment about the hot weather as he had watched me take my jacket off. He then said how “fuckable” I was and asked my age.

I said 14 (believable lie) to get him off my back, but he still persisted! He asked me if I had a boyfriend and again I said yes to get him off my back. He said “yeah, of course you do” in such creepy voice and did that “blowjob” gesture (stuck his tongue to the side of his mouth). This was a grown man who thought he was talking to a minor.

@Onalake- my great uncle did that to me when I was about 8. I didn’t know what the thing in his pocket was until a few years later, but I knew I felt uncomfortable.

You're more fun when your drunk.

Said a few days after hed been buying me doubles when I was out in the pub I worked in( I thought they were singles. ) and walked me back let's just say I sobered up just in time and threw him out.

In fact I've worked in 2 pubs , theres very little men havent told me, everything about their dicks their sex lives their girlfriends their medical issues.

Been asked repeatedly if I'd have or have had a threesome.

Been asked if my arse is real

" I want to get involved with you if that's ok" said by a 19 yr old to 14/15 yr old me on a residential school trip he was staff as well. He also stuck his tongue down my throat

These stories are gross, but almost reassuring in a way, sad though that is. I've had the creepy middle-aged driving instructor "you don't want to be scared of the car, love, you want to be scared of me getting you in the back seat and giving you a good seeing to" - I was 17.

When I was a newly qualified staff nurse in my first job, a consultant surgeon unzipped the top of my uniform, peered at my boobs and said "you'll do" - I complained to my nursing officer (a woman) who told me I should be flattered, he doesn't do that to everyone. That was in 1982.

I know NAMALT but my God, there are a lot of that are like that.

By A very senior male professional boss to me when I was lowly early 20s graduate: would you Like to come and rub baby oil all over me? Er no thanks. I’ve had all sorts of other similar stuff from other men In work situations but it all starts to blend in after a while.

My scariest one was totally misjudging a friend's boyfriend. Everyone in my friendship circle had him pegged as "gentle giant", myself included. So when he offered to walk me home from the pub I didn't think twice. On seeing me into my house, he then said "Things aren't going well between me and Friends-Name. You know, I've really had to break her spirit. But now I think we're going to split up. I'd really like you to be my next girlfriend."

Cue half an hour of talking him down and out of my door which I locked very quickly. I was bloody lucky he could be talked down.

@coronaornona that's awful. Just today I was listening to Lily Allen's 'foundations' and thinking how abusive it sounded.

Sorry you went through all of this

When I was younger in a nightclub - I was dancing with a guy, pretty innocent, not sexy or close to one another, suddenly he leans towards me and asks me with a serious face if I wanted to ‘go outside and f*ck....
Needless to say I told him to piss off and dance somewhere else.

An old work colleague told me he’d imagined pulling my hair whilst having sex with me...I had a bf ( who's now my DH) so it was a pretty weird thing to say, it came from nowhere!

Another work colleague was VERY drunk or had taken something on a night out , we had actually been good mates up till this point..he was being abit weird all night then started saying odd things to me, like how ‘I must know how he feels, listen to me’ repeating it over and over, then he starting getting angry at me and pulling me towards him.

If I was your dad I'd still be bathing you.

Bernard Manning in a live show whilst I was sat next to my dad

Can I hold your cardi?
By a much older husband of a family friend at a party. I was wearing the cardi buttoned up as a top 😡

I swapped numbers with a man from Tinder. Within 5 minutes of messaging, he was telling me how he wanted to lose 5 stone and then proceeded to send me a few nearly naked pictures. It was creepy AF! 🤮

Sitting on the beach trying to breastfeed my month old baby - I was behind a small building so not exactly showing off - a group of young Australian men walk past, one of them says loudly 'look at that baby sucking it's mum's tit it's turning me on' then SINGS 'ooh sucking on a titty tonight'

I could hardly believe it and I've never forgotten it. I've had many a creepy disgusting thing said to me by men but that was one of the creepiest.

My friend and I (both in year 10) were sat outside at lunchtime. I wanted a new piercing and we were discussing the different piercings I could have done (different parts of the ear mostly, but also mentioned having a nose piercing).

A teacher walks past and my friend shouts to the teacher 'what piercing should Georgia have done, ear or nose?' He says something like 'you should have a piercing in each nipple and a piercing in your cunt and connect the three with a chain'.

At work - I can tell that you have a beautiful body underneath that uniform

@Daffodil21 it was Kate Nash!

At my 13th birthday party I was waiting outside the church hall with a friend and a man pulled up in his car and asked us to get in... I told him to fuck off or I'd get my dad

I was coming home once from a night out in a club and as the taxi driver pulled up he said to me "I think someone followed you back here". Got out to walk up to my house and a man came up behind me so I started screaming and he said he'd followed me home because he thought I was "fit" and wanted to talk to me. I said I'd call the police if he didn't do one and that the taxi driver was waiting and watching with his phone recording everything.

2 examples of so many I can't even count

English teacher and school counsellor in high school asked us all to describe our sexual fantasies. We were 14/15.

A man licking his lips and mouthing 'I want to fuck you'.

When I was 13 a boy I knew very well sent me pornographic letters and drawings describing what he wanted me to do to him, then ranting letters calling me frigid.. then he flashed me.

Old man slowing his car right down, window open licking his lips.

Random man in pub telling me I had nice lips and he bets I am amazing at blowjobs.

I am sure there are many more..