Creepy things that males have said to you in any context.

[NoMoreDickheads]

One I saw a couple of times a while back- he seemed a nice guy so IDK why he came out with this.

Me:- I don't like X (sexual act) it just makes me feel ticklish.

Him:- I'm going to make you laugh and laugh.

!!!
Luckily he didn't go on to try the thing. Brr!

Also had an event attendee motorboat me while I was collecting glasses.

These are so awful. Men.

@thenightsky I think that's true.

I wonder what good men think of all the creepy ones? They let down the male population, I think about 40% of men are creeps, the amount of men that would sleep with a 16 year old because ‘it’s legal’ is pretty high and even men that you think never would, probably would, it’s like having testosterone is dangerous in some men, it really is.

I wonder what good men think of all the creepy ones?

Honestly I think they are secretly relieved they exist. With them they look like the good guys. Without them they basically just function like what we expect of regular basic decent human beings.

With the bar set so low by the creepy guys they look so much better alongside them.

I wonder what good men think of all the creepy ones?

I doubt they approve but I reckon they think creepy occurrences happen rarely, or if ever, compared to the true reality where it happens practically daily for some girls/women. They probably can’t fathom that many blokes that are “sound” towards them are the same men carrying out such harassment of girls/women. Then you’ll have a minority of men who think this is harmless/banter/“boys being boys” and not that serious

throw

For some reason men take it personally. So they are more angry at women who report the stuff for making them look bad than they are at the men doing it. The only time they call it out is when they want to appear to be chivalrous/half decent in front of women.

When that workman said that comment to me then his workmates looked pissed off and I get the feeling that when I was out of sight and earshot, then they probably said to him that he was an arss, at least I hope so but I’ve a feeling they did.

Being a waitress in the 80's and ordered to wear a miniskirt for work by the boss. Also having guys trying to slide their hand up my skirt while I was trying to clear the table. If I said anything, they'd yell for the boss and tell him I was trying to accuse them of crap to get a better tip

I'll never forget the face of one guy when I accidentally spilled hot soup over his 'lap' when he startled me by groping my boob as I leaned over with the soup though ! Lol, Now HE actually GOT a 'hot' time from me, lol.

@SarahTancredi

That’s interesting. I’ve noticed that on Twitter. You see men my age (20s) tweeting about how this stuff is awful etc and playing up for their followers. Then when one of their associates is exposed as an abuser, they’re either silent or demanding 100 separate pieces of detailed evidence and assume the woman is lying

I will say though, the other week a group of teen boys were shouting compliments at me and asked me to come over. I ignored them, just carried on walking. One of the boys said “you’ve scared her, that’s why she’s walking away”. I think he told his mates off as they immediately left me alone. I wasn’t scared of them, but was definitely surprised that he spoke up.

You wouldnt have been surprised if it wasnt outside the norm though which kinda proves the point.

I have certainly noticed over the years that apologising for mates is a very common "way in"

I mean let's face it who would be friends with people who acted like that of you were so against it? Are we to believe that's the very first time in all their nights out together and days at work together that they have ever exhibited such disgusting morals ? And that it just so happened to be at that precise moment when a woman was around to hear it ?

Nah...

Mnthrowaway20202

It's the 10th rule of misogyny, that the worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.

Once when in a club, dancing and a guy I'd never met creeps up behind me and whispers " I've got a big dick" 😳
I was so shocked so just moved away from him whilst saying "good for you"
Never saw him again .. thankfully

I will say also throw that this stuff starts in school.

At no point will you hear on any of these threads really of it happening for the first time in 20s and 30s. So when these people act surprised and call out their mates in front of you, at your age well it's very unlikely the first time they have done it which tbh gives any speaking up zero credit really because chances are it's just for show

Another I just remembered, once getting on the bus,( I was about 21, but looked younger) pervy old bus driver asked me for my number as he had always liked me 🤢

Another one!
I was travelling in Australia and rented a room in a guys house. He walked round the house naked purposely when I was there claiming to not know I was in the house then after a week or so text me asking if I’d be interested in cheaper rent by performing sexual acts.
Safe to say I packed my shit and left.

"I've been watching you all night. I always watch you. And now I know what job you do, it makes you even more attractive...." this was on a random night out a few years ago.

I had a friend at uni who is now a very powerful woman in her field. She used to have to take the tube to school and men were always trying to feel up her and her friends. She said she waited once until a man had his hand right between her legs and then grabbed it from the front and yanked it, shouting, 'Anyone know who this hand belongs to? I just found it between my legs.' I have always admired her for doing that as a schoolgirl. She was/is a really unusually powerful and confident person. I wish we could all be like her.

@Aprilbaby2020 I have heard so many horror stories where men have tried to get sexual favours in exchange for rent, boils my fucking blood so it does.

I was in my school uniform on a bus eating an ice lolly in my early teens and a guy who must have been in his 40s/50s said "I wish that was my lollipop you were sucking on". I got off the bus at the next stop cause I felt so horrified. The next day he was standing outside the school gates but he didn't say anything to me just watched me. It was really creepy and scary but I didn't tell anyone.

When I was younger, I was in a group of friends. One of them told me he fancied me , I told him I wasnt interested.
Not long after, he started going out with my friend. Fast forward, they get married. At the reception, in her house afterwards, he followed me out as I was leaving. In the hallway, asked me for a kiss, then jammed his tongue in my mouth and said he hoped we could meet up soon. I was absolutely revolted. No one saw what happened, but I couldn’t get over how he could behave like that - And on his wedding day.

I was followed home very day after school by a group of men in a car, in secondary school, aged 13 and obviously wearing uniform

Men working near the school offered me money to go in their hut, school knew but nothing was done
In hospital aged 15, a doctor that all the young nurses fancied (they told me), examined me and put his fingers on my nipples and stared at me, I was confused and frightened. Begged my parents to get me out of there. I was transferred to mental health ward
A couple of years ago, a teacher at my dc's school started watching me and followed me to my car at drop off. When he started making lewd comments and faces, I complained to the LT, and was promptly referred to social services. That was the most shocking out of everything that has happened to me, because I thought that adult women, in a professional environment would deal with the problem teacher. Instead they accused me of flirting with him, blamed my dress sense, and then tried to push for my children to be placed on the CP plan. They started a campaign against me when that didn't work. Staring, pointing and laughing. Just shocking. I filmed it to show my friends the extent of it. I'm still not over it

And they're probably on here, and this is possibly outing. After the complaint, they found my posts on here where I ask3d for advice, and posted on my thread, insinuating that I may be mentally unwell
I'll be name changing now

I wish there was a law against this type of behaviour