Creepy things that males have said to you in any context.

[NoMoreDickheads]

One I saw a couple of times a while back- he seemed a nice guy so IDK why he came out with this.

Me:- I don't like X (sexual act) it just makes me feel ticklish.

Him:- I'm going to make you laugh and laugh.

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Luckily he didn't go on to try the thing. Brr!

My mum was born in 1929 and she often told me and my sister of her experiences and why we should be wary of men and keep our keys between our fingers and not to be afraid of knocking on a door if we thought a man was following us. This stuff is forever old

Could have been worded better though, eh, timeisnotaline? Whaddya think?

Fucking nora

Yes I said totally creepy and not ok!!

When I was severely unwell, and he was worried I would die: “If I come back and you’re dead but still warm, I’d fuck you just so I could feel you and be with you.”

I was 19.

Most women have a long list of incidents starting from a young age, ranging from the mildly offensive to the downright terrifying. The suggestion of the book has already been done - Everyday Sexism (Bates) and website of the same name where women/girls can record the stuff that has happened to them.

I have my own long list, starting from when I was very little, and a lot of them have left scars which have affected my whole life.

The thing is, a lot of men do this. A lot. Even ones you would never consider being in anyway detrimental to women. They desire females, but they don't see them as equals. They hate the fact that some females are out of their reach, or who require a relationship of some sort before they have sex with them. Or they just want to exercise power over somebody who they see is weaker than them.

If you have ever overheard conversations between men about women where they did not realise they were being heard, it is depressing. The worse ones for me who are affable types, Guardian reading lefties who seemingly respect women. Out of earshot of females they are no better than the guy leaning out of his van shouting out show us your tits. At least with the latter they have shown you what you are.

Returning home on a Sunday morning from a sleepover with my cousins. I was waiting for my bus on a deserted platform when an old man came and sat next to me and began chatting about how cold it was. I had been brought up to always be polite and respectful, especially to older people, so while I felt a bit uncomfortable I stayed put.

He asked me if my hands were cold and I said they were a little bit cold. He then proceeded to grab one of my hands and shove it in his pocket which had no lining, but direct access to his penis.

I pulled my hand out, said something like "oh, I forgot, have to meet my cousin on another platform" and ran. I ended up just walking around and staying where there were a few people waiting for buses until mine arrived.

I never told anyone until I was in my 30's, and my parents and wider family still don't know. At the time I was worried that if I told my parents they would tell me off for being rude to an old man by running away 🙄

Regarding the above post, I was 11 or 12 years old at the time 😥

I went to high school 88 and it was the norm for boys to try and feel you up whilst stood outside waiting to go into class. When you are all crammed in together.
Used to piss me off. Wouldn't happen now.

My mums boyfriend was weird and used to want to play a game when I fell back and he caught me by the arse! Looking back it was awful with sexual harassment. I know we still get it but at least we recognise it now!

Too many to mention.

Happens very rarely now, as I've reached the middle-aged invisibility stage of my life. Plus I am blessed with resting bitch face so that tends to deter all but the most persistent offenders.

For those who do try their luck, I am very quick with a response, have a complete potty mouth and am not remotely embarrassed to reply at full volume so that passers-by get the full benefit of what's going on. The last bloke that tried it on, got such a face-full back from me that he ended up apologising.

It’s a shame that middle-aged invisibility strikes just as you become adept at telling these men to fuck off.

Last year I was on the escalators at Waterloo and a man behind me started saying “Hello, hello you are nice” I ignored him so he stepped up a step and pressed his erection against my leg. I was so shocked I just stood there! So angry now!

@Sarcelle

I am right with you on your posts. Particularly on Guardian reading men who claim to be liberals. They are worse than their more right wing counterparts!

Anyway like everyone else here I had this from 13. It generally puts you off men. It’s so common we as a society just ignore it.

I have never had equivalent behaviour from women. Though you can meet a lesbian chauvinist who can be unpleasant in a similar way about sex, I think that has happened to me once in my life , and it was made clear that arse groping before even saying hello would not be tolerated.

I am another who is so angry about the way men (complete strangers and men known to me) have thought it ok to comment on my body or said sexual things designed to humiliate me.
Even at my advanced age I've had a few comments and to my chagrin, a revolting man who touched me on my breast so fleetingly and expertly I had to question myself did it happen at all? But it had.

My XH's marriage proposal...

He'd already been married (and divorced). He came up to me one day and said, "How'd you like to be the next Mrs Hissirname?"

God only knows why I said yes.

Yes it starts very early and continues.

I can't imagine what life would be like without the haraasment and abuse from men.

Men are predators.

Loads too obscene to type out - men are disgusting

Working in a pub when I was c.18

"That's a nice pearl necklace you're wearing. Would you like me to give you a real one."

My friend told me what a landlord had said to her when he found out she was only 16. As he served her drink he said ‘old enough to bleed old enough to drink’ shudders

I was walking with my older friend she was pushing her baby in a pram I was about 15/16 white van with a couple blokes inside shouted I could give you one of them too darling.
More creepy comments from my dad’s friends and older family member but won’t go there grim

@NoMoreDickheads

Oh and there was the time a taxi driver thought it fine to run his hands up and down my thighs.

Taxi drivers are really bad for sleazing in my experience (at least in the Midlands.) This will sound weird to most of you maybe, but I never thought of sitting in the back. I sit in the back now on the opposite side to the driver, so it's a bit better. Also less of it now I'm in my 40s.

Sitting in the front is the norm in small towns. Sitting in the back seems to be a city thing. Where I come from, if you sat in the back they'd think you thought you were the Queen with her chauffeur.

One of my friends was asked if she wanted to 'pay in kind' for a taxi drive in the 90s. It's the only example I know of so I hope it's not that common.

Just remebered, being about 16 on holiday at the seaside, got friendly with a 19 year old lad who was also on holiday. Sat on beach talking and he was chatting about his ex, came up that she was 14, I pulled a face and said something about being a bit young for him and his response was "old enough to bleed, old enough to be butchered" instant revulsion! Regret now not getting his name and reporting the dirty sod to the police. But teenage me just wanted away from him immediately.

Was it Greer who said 'women don't realise how much men hate them'

I worked in London pubs in the '80's. I usually had to shower just to get the 'creep' off me. So many men always asking for bottles from the bottom shelf. I soon learned to crouch to get them rather than bend. Regular 'show us your tits' ugh.

The manager who always stood by the hatch so I'd have to squeeze past and tried to 'tit me up' as I went through.

Worst thing was the entitlement! Going out to dinner and they'd expect to be paid back in kind. So I always went Dutch.

Men frotting against my bum on the tube! My revenge was to always carry an umbrella with a spike and jab it into their feet from between mine when I felt them press against me. Or stepping back onto them with my lovely pointy stilettos.

Now I'm middle aged and fat it seems to have stopped

I remember being in class at school age about 14 and a boy sat behind me asking me and my friend which one of us was "tighter".

Also, walking home from work one day and a man out the front of the pub with his friends yelled that he wanted to see my cunt.

Someone I used to work with enjoyed asking any female if they wanted ‘a hot wet one’ when referring to a hot drink. Also used to steal things (pens, pads, mobile phone etc) and put them in his lap so they’d have to get them from near his crotch. All the while pissing himself laughing like it’s a huge joke.

He never did it to me as he knew I’d probably punch him but he’s done it loads to female colleagues over the years. How he’s not been sacked for sexual harassment I’ll never know!

Sitting in the front is the norm in small towns. Sitting in the back seems to be a city thing. Where I come from, if you sat in the back they'd think you thought you were the Queen with her chauffeur.

@Gwenhwyfar Maybe that was the thing as I was brought up in a village rather than the city. Honestly they are often awful here though and you have to do what you can to protect yourself/make an unavoidable journey more bearable.

They are almost all Asian men and it is an unfortunate fact that a lot of them have a nasty opinion of white women- that we're easy/fair game etc. I had an Asian therapist and she had never experienced it (as they would never treat Asian women the same way.) She thought it must be that I looked like someone who could be bullied or something, but it's not. They're almost all married and talking like this, too.

One of my friends was asked if she wanted to 'pay in kind' for a taxi drive in the 90s. It's the only example I know of so I hope it's not that common.

The sleazing is very common in one form or another.

I was working as a reiki healer (bollox I know) at one time- a driver asked what I did for a living and when I replied, claimed to want a session. I had a bad vibe about it but didn't know how to get out of it (should've given a fake number I suppose) and was trying to start to get work so I gave him my number. He phoned and asked if I offered 'extras.' Bad enough for other services, but as if people ever tend to offer extras with reiki. (!)

@wizzbitfartface Eeek!

As to a book- Not that we should necessarily get round to it, but yes there has been another book about sexism, but there are very few subjects where there are only one book and that means no-one else makes a book. Everyday sexism is a wider subject which isn't just about how men talk/act about sex, such as with discrimination at work, men's voices being listened to more than women with more experience, etc etc.