Dating thread 164. Fortune favours the brave

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Sunshineandflipflops lol! I'm trying to shake off a lifetime of prudishness one shag step at a time.

@AverageGuy a paragraph or two is quite a lot, I never got that much from men I dated. At this stage I would try not to read anything into it, she could be breadcrumbing you but also she could be really busy. Before I have dated two men I have had phone conversations so you could either ask to whatsapp or speak to her.

Yeah I would usually say ditch the pj's but it depends what they look like... Miss H brings her 'pj's' occasionally which consist of a little pair of shorts and snug vest tops I think she knows what she's doing 😂

JeSuis great update post, sounds like everything is perfect!

I look better with nothing on than a snug vest top and no bra

This is why I celebrated the end of school for my DC so hard - teachers talk shit too often.

morenice seriously, no PJs should be required.

averageguy I find the lack in interest you’re getting perplexing, as you definitely sound like the right side of average. PM me if you’d like me to feedback on your profile (I’m your age and I’m the SE). Re your iron - paragraphs is too much, sentences in response is too little. Suggest a phone call to her?

It's a vest and shorts set with a silly saying on the front, barely covers anything

I'm flexible, we'll see how it goes.

sunshine ahh, but it's all about the imagination (imho)

Cassetes Thanks. I'll do that.

I look better with nothing on than a snug vest top and no bra

This with bells on - the thought of my norks making a bid for freedom out of the armholes of a vest top with no bra on if I lay down would be more than I could cope with. I once tried to put on a nice silky shorts and cami set to sleep in when I had my period (tmi) in case of of leakage. When I got into bed MrC asked wtf I was wearing and said "JeSuis, get those off and get into bed, sheets can be washed" - nakedness all the way for us

@AverageGuy When you have ample assets, are 40 and have had 2 children, a flimsy vest top leaves little to the imagination. I need scaffolding!

@JeSuisPrest Haha - ditto!

JeSuis

sunshine A t-shirt then? at the scaffolding...

@Sunshineandflipflops you sound very similar to me - my norms can't be controlled by a flimsy vest. Need a substantial support!

*norks!

I’ve been trying to buy bikini tops (online, because for some reason it’s even worse in the shops). It’s a depressing thing. I can barely get my boobs into the bloody things (but still the backs are roomy). Why are bikinis manufactured on the basis that is you have boobs of any description you must also have a very large rib cage? I don’t want to have to buy the kind of obviously scaffolded things that Bravissimo sells in a 28G/30FF. They look almost matronly on the models, so imagine what they’ll look like on nearly 40 year old me.

Naked is definitely the way to go for sleeping. If there are kids about, I’ll put PJs on in the morning (or just steal a T-shirt).

wooMaWang sounds like you have just discovered a niche in the market! Dragons Den anyone?

I think half the women in the country have discovered this niche. It’s a shame swimwear designers haven’t realized that you can be reasonably slim and still have boobs.

Relatively slim, @shitwithsugaron. The relatively is key.

Anyway, I’ve seen a photo of you. So I don’t know what you’re talking about.

Or even reasonably (with the unstated caveat ‘for a nearly 40 year old mother of two who likes wine and chocolate’) slim.

Ah you ladies are giving me a chuckle. I am 38 and have boobs that have been inflated by breastfeeding more than once - it shows! Sadly I don't really sleep well naked, but maybe that won't matter either.

I never thought that I slept well naked. Turns out I sleep wonderfully naked with the right person. 😂

morenice I have breastfed 2 kids in tandem for over 2 years, only stopped in jan. mine are like deflated tiny balloons that need holding up in place 😂

I could probably roll mine up like a scroll tbh!

This conversation is making me feel utterly normal and I love it.

@WooMaWang The only time I have slept in anything but my birthday suit since the age of about 17 was a hospital stay. Never again, far too hot and you just end up with a wedgie.