Thanks for all your lovely comments, you're very kind. I think I'm swaying towards the black. I asked my 8yo and she said "The red one would be OK for dinner, but the black one is like you want to meet a boy at a party" 
Yes, and I have my eye on one boy in particular...
Dresses both from H & M in the sale this weekend - black one £10 and red one £15. I do love a bargain 
So I'm still in love, he still isn't but we didn't really talk about it - just carried on in our usual way and had a lovely few days/nights together. I did buy him a new t shirt but told him if he ever wears it on a date with another girl I hope he gets knob rot. He assures me he's not looking to wear it out with anyone other than me.
MrC was supposed to be meeting my DD next month whilst we are holidaying in Cornwall for a week, but I've told him that's not happening now - I only want her to meet someone who's in it for the long haul, and until I get a bit more than "you're so special to me, I'm glad you're in my life" it won't be happening. It took the wind out of his sails a bit, but said he understood.
@Ant330, @BatshitCrazyWoman and @Sidge I love reading your updates, you sound absolutely smitten.
@shitwithsugaron The getting him to fuck me isn't a problem 
- I want him to look at me and think "I don't want any other man to take her away from me. Ever."
@crankyassnoperope I think the best you can do is just be honest with whoever you end up meeting - tell them you're not looking for a long term commitment, just someone to go on dates/have a FWB arrangement. You never know what will develop from there. You don't have to settle down with the first guy you meet - just be kind /don't ghost if you're not feeling it.
@Lillyrose19 I don't think he will change 
and you can't will it to happen enough for both of you, however much you want to. 3 days between texts? My bank texts me more than that! I'd start swiping again - wanting communication and actually meeting someone more than every 3 weeks is not being needy. Somone will want the same as you, you just need to get yourself back on the apps and start looking.
@Nurs123Bubbles This is a really supportive thread - we're all in different situations, you can say things kindly and still get your point across. A lot of us have done things we'd change with 20/20 hindsight but we live and learn from them. @butterflyFed I think you need to take a step back from MrChef - you're not on the same page - you're still in the "looking around" phase - that's absolutely your right, but he needs to know that's what you're doing so he can make his choice as well. 