Dating thread 159 - Should I Stay or Should I Go Now

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Another listening ear if you want to pm here Coco

I'm another mirena user. Random bits of spotting but no proper cycle, works well for me.

Going swimmingly with Mr Far here. Had random texts from an old iron this morning, had a friendly chat and brushed him off.

Hah! Well he didnt call. Classic him really, totally incapable of any decisive action. Expecting a pathetitext tomorrow saying he got in late blah. This makes it a ton easier to just move on tho.

super probably a good thing as reinforces your decision to move on

At least you can be sure that he’s a flakey nightmare @supercali77. You definitely don’t need one of those. 😂

Thanks coco and crustaceans.....I'm back on tinder. With that familiar sinking feeling in abs city. How long has it been ok for men to pout In profile pics? No wine in the house

Men pout now? Like actual duckface?

@Crustaceans sadly yes 😂

I shall look forward to getting back on the apps and keeping an eye out for dickduckfaces

Come and join me on the OLD bench @supercali77 I've just unmatched a guy as soon as we said hello he gave me his number and said ring me so I cum whilst listening to your voice.

Oh and best question of the night

"Strangest place you've woken up in the morning after a drunken night?... mine was a wheelie bin last week"

over the age of 40 also 👀

No the wonder I'm convinced I'm single for the rest of my life.

@CocoKoko123 hahaha. Trying to complete tinder.....wondering if this Is emotionally healthy

@lifegoes on the bench with ya pal. Single men over 40 should be banned 😂, sorry men over 40 on this thread....bitter woman for the next 48 hours

In the past I found I got bored of swiping on tinder and just wanted to get to the end but then every time I did get to the end I'd be disappointed!

Not sure I've got it in me to go back on the apps-would be great to just meet someone IRL. I too think I am destined for singledom forever more!

@supercali77 it's acceptable to be bitter for a short time.

@CocoKoko123 I much prefer real life meeting to OLD I must admit.

just deleted all my accounts fully and reset them back up. I've lost a lot of conversations on tinder. But thought a fresh start was needed.

Can't wait for a few weeks time when we are going on dates and sat laughing about how we were feeling sorry for ourselves 🙏🏻

Oh fuckety fuck. Mr C is having a BBQ on Sunday and guess who's going to be there? Beach woman. He checked last night I'd be OK with it. I did a twinkly little laugh and said "Of course darling, it'll be lovely to meet her!".

I am an intelligent, articulate, attractive woman. I can do this without making a twat of myself. I've only got to be nice for a few hours... or I'll realise that she really does have a thing for him and be my most passive aggressive possible self. What could go wrong? 🙈😂

Oh no jesuis! Mind you must be quite intrigued to see what she is like? Nothing will go wrong you shall be as cool as a cucumber!

I've woken up gutted by it all. Its myself I'm most upset by. When I list the things I ignored and put up with....the disrespect all because he 'said' I respect you. And I knew all along. I've never ever done that before. E.g. completely ignored my best instincts. Very disappointing. Come back off the apps for now. Too soon.

I mean, I've ignored red flags before but not that many, not so completely

jesuis come on here on Sunday if you're feeling stressed and we'll talk you down.

You are a fantastic, funny, sexy lady. He is lucky to have you.

supercali I get that - mine also said 'I respect you' and I just thought no you don't you're being a headfuckery fuckwit!

jesuis meeting her is a great thing. It will demystify her and once you see how Mr C is around her you will know you never had anything to worry about. Plus she sees he's invited you as his girlfriend. 👍

supercali but you took charge and did listen to the red flags. You may have been slower than you'd have liked but you ended things after 2 months. You've been awesome.

Men really talk a lot of shit that they don't mean, it's natural to feel hurt by it

I'm on the bench too, a few OKC matches I might fancy but that preliminary chit chat is so boring, feels like being at square one

Also signed up to Guardian Soulmates which seems to be empty despite the number of men in my 'matches' list. I've fired off a few likes but apart from some men out of my age range, people are looking at my profile and toddling on, or not online at all.

I'd say the warm weather & impending bank holiday are to blame - that would be the perfect time to roll around with an exciting new fella or be with someone special.

So going to have to make some plans to be out and about. Trying to remind myself that you don't get anything by complaining about it...

Help! True guy I am talking to on tinder has just asked to see me as I am now.
Is that normal?! My main photo was only a couple of months ago so so I just say that or take a photo and send it?!

@supercali77 dont be too hard on yourself. All the red flags you've ignored just reinforce in your mind what you should not accept in future relationships.

@Notcoolmum thank you. I needed to hear that x

@CocoKoko123 is it over between you know or just end stages?

As expected. Text this am. He got back late, was I still up. Hows it going. It's amazing, the capacity to know you're not behaving properly but be friendly so you can walk away saying...but I was always nice.

@JeSuisPrest thanks love, I know this will be a good lesson in the end.....its just a bitter pill right now

@Sunshineandflipflops I consider myself normal. Never asked anyone to send me pics. I can see what they look like from profile pics.

To the thread - does it happen a lot and do you oblige ? Do you ask the same of guys ?