Dating thread 159 - Should I Stay or Should I Go Now

[DaffoDeffo]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

[vwman]

@DaffoDeffo I am a really very funny man IRL with a sharp wit and I have people just cracking up when they meet me I can get people laughing within a few seconds of meeting someone. I often think I should write comedy.

But I think there may be something in what you say. Face to face people can see the smile on my face, I am crap with the use of emojis etc, its a different generation and different communication channel. Sometimes perhaps women don't get me online and think I am being serious. But there isn't any sex talk.

[DaffoDeffo]

How old are you vwman (roughly if you don't want to say!)

[vwman]

I am in my 50's

[DaffoDeffo]

See it as a compliment lifegoes :)

You are not that old vwman! A lot of men your age don't do emojis etc but I wouldn't see that as an issue. Maybe you are trying too hard or just not on the right dating site if the women on there aren't getting you.

[vwman]

DaffoDeffo my profile was very funny, this was it, you won't see it now of course and I may change it when I go back on, I was hoping it might set the tone of any conversation so they would get me.

I am a business owner, providing services to businesses I am so organised I sometimes wear matching socks. Running a business allows me to exercise my skills: leadership and communication. I would like to tell you about the time I had a shower with Frank Bruno, which is true, but it's important to me that you know I'm honest, so I'll save the wilder parts of my life for another time. Needless to say the paparazzi have been after me ever since.

I love travel but for my holidays last year I threw a dart at a map of the world and decided to go to wherever it landed. I had to have two weeks sitting next to the skirting board.

I love to laugh, tease and have fun. I am a very playful. Like an onion, I have layers you will spend a long time before you know me but I will not make you cry.

[lifegoes]

Is that what you have on your profile @vwman ??

[DaffoDeffo]

Do you want us to be honest vwman?

[vwman]

Go on, I can take it

[Notcoolmum]

I have thought you were a troll since you joined this thread vwman. Assuming for one minute you are serious I have found some of your posts highly misogynistic and they have made my skin crawl. So I can fully understand why you might get blocked on PoF.

I’ve never been asked if I do anal. What am I doing wrong? 🙈

Ooh lifegoes you must be looking very youthful 👍

[lifegoes]

@vwman I personally really don't like that, I think it makes you look like an utter prick. Your business and what makes you great, dropping names.

I'd stop at the second line and move on.
But that's just me.

[30somethingandsingle]

So I think I managed to totally self sabotage and fuck up things with MrFox.
Oh well. Back to sitting in the corner drinking gin being single I guess

[lifegoes]

Hahaha @Notcoolmum whilst I do always get told I look younger than I am. I absolutely do not look young enough to live with my mother still. However he can cut my grass, as he was quite dashing but small. So I can perv from my window 😂😂😂

[DaffoDeffo]

Yes I would agree. You are trying way too hard vwman. You lost me at matching socks. And never say anything about wanting to be seen as honest as it immediately screams dishonesty.

[ccgirr]

Vw - waaay too long for me.
30 something- what’s happened??

[vwman]

Ok thanks I will tone it down, thanks

@lifegoes I guess I forget my dick belongs in my pants, not my personality

[Crustaceans]

Oh no. What happened @30somethingandsingle?

[Crustaceans]

I wonder @vwman, if you might consider trying to convey some kind of humility. I think it might come across better.

[SimonJT]

@shitwithsugaron I may have suggested he could service ‘it’ himself next time, he knew I was joking obviously.

Now I have to work on my poker face for when I watch it with FWB on Friday night.

[StealthNinjaMum]

vwman its braggy and not very warm. I write too formally and have changed that because of feedback from here. I like funny men but you don't seem very relaxed.

[putastrawunderbaby]

Are you okay 30something?

[lifegoes]

Ha sorry @vwman it's just a bit much for me.


@30somethingandsingle what has happened

[SimonJT]

@vwman as someone who has English as a second language I found it very hard to tell which bits were serious and which bits weren’t. I have no idea how it would compare to any other online dating profile, but I doubt I would be the only one to find the writing style confusing. I also don’t like the use of the word tease.

[30somethingandsingle]

He cancelled our plans for tomorrow and rearranged for Saturday.
Instead of saying how I was feeling (I wrote about it on the previous thread) in a phone call or waiting until I see him, I sent a message which more or less said that our communication styles/needs are different, he doesn't give much away and I'm not sure where he sees us going but that I am not sure where I see us heading. He read it but hasn't replied 🤦‍♀️

[putastrawunderbaby]

vwman I'm never sure how to take your posts and your style reminds me a lot of my son who has autism. While I'm not suggesting you're autistic, I do think you come across as direct and not particularly emotionally aware. You come out with some sweeping generalisations about women. Perhaps written communication is not showing you to your best advantage. I think your profile needs work, to put it mildly.

[lifegoes]

@30somethingandsingle how long ago did you send it?

I don't see what you've done wrong?! You are being honest about how you feel. Why is that bad?