Split up, but I am gutted. Please prop me up.

[charliecat]

Been miserable for a long long time, split with dp a couple/few days ago, dont know, time merging into itself.
Feel a weight has been lifted, know its best all round, but am gutted inside.
He was the bloke for me, and there wont be another, but it seriusly wasnt working, and wouldnt so theres no but ifs.
Wish i could fast forward 6 months, but cant.
Sympathy please.

Hi charliecat - something similar happening here - but havent really cried - think i did too much of that over the last 20 years

Lots of people on here sadly in a similar situation, youll get lots of support from some lovely people

Its a GORGEOUS day today, suns out, feeling much better today. Xdp has learnt how to send nice text messages all of a sudden, but hes talking in the sense of we are over so thats good, and more positively.
Aware that may feel like a ton of bricks has sat on me tommorow, you cant trust your heart!
Fubsy Havent came across your thread and somehow havent found time to read all of yours yet isheisnthe....maybe thats why im feeling better, kept busy

it will get better cc x

Cheers lou, good god how many of us are there???!!!
How are you?

It will get better, especially when he has actually gone. Do you know when he will be going ?

Well he says he will be out of my hair by the 1st, thats when hes paid the rent to and gets paid again.
Hes got 3 choices to go back to mums in scotland - rent free and jobless.
To go to his brothers flat in Ireland £250 rent and jobless.
Or get a flat round here £500 per month out of 1500 wages and see the kids as much as he likes.
He says he cant think far ahead enought to make a decision.
I feel like pinning his against the wall and MAKING his stay nearby as you really shouldne walk away from your kids.
If he goes to Scotland/Ireland, even if he visited everymonth, thats 12 times a year.
Not enough, and reality kicks in and it turns into every 6 months, once a year...oh shit busy this year, maybe next
Oh sorry...rant

how am i wrt my twatty exh or my lovely exbf? lol

exbf?? lol

still miss him just as much

Oh gutting A time warp 6 months forward would be handy wouldnt it?

it sure would!

i didnt feel like this when i split with exh, thats for sure

CC - so sorry to hear this. You seem to be very sure of everything, so that is good. We will be here for you on those 'collapse in a heap' times xx

charliecat..good luck..i remember your thread from while ago..

...and..hey, your laughing so it aint all bad..good on the keep busy front...and same old stuff it is just time....
hope it works out well for you all

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hi cc - it does get easier, I know totally where you are re fast forwarding - Its because you are unsettled and unsure of the future but that will pass - I bloody hope i does anyway!

Still hanging on in there, its lovely outside but ive nowhere to go. Seem to just been sitting here in a slump.
No tears tho.
Numb.
It is ssssssssssoooooooooo for the best. It just hurts.
Harman, ive got a diabetic cat that needs injected 8am and 8 pm.
Cant do do overnights, but would like to meet up over HT

where are you CC? maybe we could meet up for coffee?

Tunbridge wells Kent, where r u?

PMSl at the thought of 2 disheveled looking woman sniffling over coffee in between bouts of hysterical laughter at the madness of it all

Surrey - a bit too far me thinks! bummer

Cough Cough, Im glad you know the distance between them because I dont.
Is lou33 not in Surrey?

not sure where she is??

I thought it was surry, no idea why...
...link for harman, im trying to sell her my moistiser...she will see it here
you need some...
Actually, the truth is you dont, and im

Oh My...me and links just dont get on at all

i am in surrey, you are corerct