have no one to tell and im feeling very bad also newley wed last week,and need some advice

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well first i wanna say im very ashamed and angry with myself,my husband is from dominica i met him over a year ago in england but his visa run out feb so he went home,we was going to get married but at a later date but what with his visa running out i flew over there and married him a lot sooner then we planed. i married him on the 24 april and came home having to leave him in dominica till a later date hopefully only 2 weeks till he comes home.well the bad bit is and i feel very upset about it i got very very drunk on friday and a friend of mine that i have know for over five years came to watch the wed video with a glass of wine,well i ended up haveing sex with him and now i feel so so bad i cant tell my husband coz it will mess everything up but it was a very big mistake and i cant belive it happened i just cant get what i did so wrong off my head and i love my husband very much i just need a chat as im alone and have noone else to talk too please help??

assuming that you slept with this other man to get pregnant this cycle then

'live on the comp'
What's that when it's at hjome then?

so what exactly did you expect people to say to you? i mean fgs, just don't tell your husband and hope to god he never finds out.

but, you have to figure out what your problem is. why did you sleep with someone else? i wouldn't do that to someone i love. and i don't get so drunk that i can't remember what i'm doing. you need to get some control over yourself.

If this is how you act sober then it's no surprise you can't handle your drink.

Grow up and take you marital vows seriously did honestly expect people to say "there there honey just forget about it" you did something stupid and wrong and you are supposed to feel guilty about it so you just have to live with it i'm afraid

what help do you want? Do you want to know whether you should tell your DH? Only you can decide that ... can you live with the guilt of knowing you cheated on him an week into your marriage. How would you feel if your DH did this to you - not great i imagine

i can't imagine you will get much support om here vvvvvvvv.

Yeah, but nooo.. but....

pmsl @ this thread

im out off here i never thought i would get judged i feel gilty as ever thats why im on here trying to talk to someone about it as its killing me and i feel to just tell my husband im sorry and to let him find someone better in fact thats what im going to do now as i cant live with myself

Why hurt him, if he will never find out. If you love him dont tell him, as it will hurt him no doubt. It was wrong and you should feel guilty but if you are going to tell him don't do it when he is another country!

im very much hurting and it was a big smack in the face to here the truth from all you guys im a cunt and i hate myseklf i want to die ikm soo soo sory for him i think i should tell him and let him find someone better as im a pice of shit

I dont think you should, at least not tonight, when your emotional.

You are a bit idealistic, really, did you honestly think to start with that Matey from Dominica wanted to marry you because you are so lovely...... Durrrrrrrrrrrr. You are a bit daft imho.

Your husband only married you for a British passport anyway. So why are you worried??????

well im gonna WAIT FOR A FEW WEEKS TILL HE COMES HOME SEE HOW I FEEL THEN IM GOING TO TELL HIM THO AS I FEEL VERY BAD BELIVE IT OR NOT I LOVE HIM VERY VERY MUCH

you're a bunch of meanies

sorry this has happened vvv, have a hug x

Bloody hell UCM.
Thats a bit of a low blow...

MOLESWORTH THANKYOU SO MUCH ITS NOT HARD TO BE NICE THANKS.XXXX ABOUT MARRY ME FOR A PASS PORT YOU HAVE IT ALL WRONG LOVE I KNOW HIM I WAS WITH HIM FOR A LONG TIME AND HE WASNT DEPORTED HE LEFT ON HIS OWN BK SO HE COULD COME OVER AND STAY FOR LONGER I WANTED TO MARRY HIM OVER THERE AND ALSO HE CAN COME OVER HERE OFF OF HIS DAD AS HIS FAMILY LIVE OVER HERE SO GET IT RIGHT GIRL NOT ALL MEN ARE CUNTS YOU KNOW AND I KNOW WHAT IM DOING SO THANKS BUT NO THANK. STOP BEING SO SMALL MINDED

for what it's worth, I wouldn't tell him

it was a mistake, he doesn't need to know

unless there's any chance the friend you slept with might tell him (or someone else)?

Pennies - lol!!

on a different thread u said he was asked toleave the uk.

where was your DD when you were sleeping with this "mate"?

I am sorry if it seems harsh, do you know how many girls I know that this has happened to. Inexperienced young girls being preyed on , bollox, I want to stop it. I will lay money on Matey coming over, spending as much time as he needs with the OP and then leaving her as soon as he gets a British Passport. He probably has a wife & kids in Domenica who are just as worried about him getting here.