have no one to tell and im feeling very bad also newley wed last week,and need some advice

[vvvvvvv]

well first i wanna say im very ashamed and angry with myself,my husband is from dominica i met him over a year ago in england but his visa run out feb so he went home,we was going to get married but at a later date but what with his visa running out i flew over there and married him a lot sooner then we planed. i married him on the 24 april and came home having to leave him in dominica till a later date hopefully only 2 weeks till he comes home.well the bad bit is and i feel very upset about it i got very very drunk on friday and a friend of mine that i have know for over five years came to watch the wed video with a glass of wine,well i ended up haveing sex with him and now i feel so so bad i cant tell my husband coz it will mess everything up but it was a very big mistake and i cant belive it happened i just cant get what i did so wrong off my head and i love my husband very much i just need a chat as im alone and have noone else to talk too please help??

am liking beansprout

My god.... I didn't realise chats like this existed! Here i've been happily planning MFM and looking at other bits and pieces on MN! (eyes wide open)what have I been missing!
Is vvvvvvvvv for real?
Jeremy Kyle may be interested! Originally I would have given words of advice and comfort but after reading on.... well. (stunned silence... ) i'm off for my tea.

i was having a shitty day until i read this thread. i almost pissed myself laughing at the replies, my husband asked me if i was alright.
i dont mean to laugh at someone's misery, but im not sure how serious vvvvvvvvvvv is about it all? it just doenst sound right from the beginning.

well spotted ellie. it did ring a bell about the 'am i pregnant or not' bit, but i just couldnt remember for sure.

anyways, i would say 90% of what has been said here is truly good.

and how on earth do you have sex with someone else while watching your own wedding video? they are usually so boring, and i would think that at least the bride would be engaged watching it and commenting on it. but clearly not! and someone to get turned on while watching a wedding video... sounds quite kinky to me too!

How did I miss this one?

watching my wedding video didnt even make me want to have sex with my dh. although the vicar was a bit of a dish..................

Drama !!!!!!

vvvv, you need to start this relationship with honesty and trust which can't be accomplished by keeping this a secret.

Perhaps its time to take a close look at things and maybe even see if you need to get some sort of help as there must be a reason for this sort of behaviour. Would you agree that you might have issues with self control?

At the end of the day, it has happened and sad though it is, you might be able to learn from it all. I'm sure you are hoping that your husband will forgive you in time (which he may or may not) but you need to sort yourself out with or without him IMO.

I get the impression that most people on here are the people who have suffered from this sort of thing being done to them (don't want to use the word victims) and I include myself in that. I know I came on here when my DH nearly strayed and found comfort in the fact that I wasn't alone. That would probably explain why you've not had a very good response from people to be honest!

look back at vvvvvv's posting history there are lots of these terribly melodramatic posts, I have often thought that they are attention seeking but have not wished to cast aspersions. I think this one says it all.

My eyes hurt.

you met him about a year ago, but you have been trying to concieve for over a year?
he doesn't even have a visa but you have married him and returned home?

why would you try and get pregnant after only just meeting a man? why if he is unable ot return to the country did you not stay with ihm in his country until you could both return together?

Im sorry but watching my wedding video wouldn't get me horney for another bloke. your either a troll or a complete slapper.

dont dare use your age as an excuse. there are plently of women on this site who are much younger than you but they have managed to reatin soe dignity and self respect.
if your not old enough to kepe hold of your knickers when drunk your not old enough to marry and your certainly not old enough to have a child.

Grow up and stop looking for us to make you feel better.

Save your repetitive strain injury girls. This one is a no brainer IMO>

what's an ooos?

I`ve been going through some bad times and mumsnet has helped me a lot.

But I have to say...

that Moondog`s "live on the comp" post,

Has made me burst out laughing and rediscover my sense of humour

Thank you mumsnet.

vvvvvvv - This is what you said on a thread last month:

"awww i feel for you asi have been dumped bye a very very close friend well she sleeped with my boyfriend and after a year he told me so it came from him and not her,of course i finished it with him and cut her off complety i was left feeling very hurt and lost all self esteam"

If you were so hurt by your boyfriend sleeping with someone else, why would you do it to your husband??

butterflywings.....she is a troll. pure and simple.....and i wouldn;t waste any more time analysing her previous posts !!

What a thread.

vvvvvvv You make my life seen uneventful, you really do.