have no one to tell and im feeling very bad also newley wed last week,and need some advice

[vvvvvvv]

well first i wanna say im very ashamed and angry with myself,my husband is from dominica i met him over a year ago in england but his visa run out feb so he went home,we was going to get married but at a later date but what with his visa running out i flew over there and married him a lot sooner then we planed. i married him on the 24 april and came home having to leave him in dominica till a later date hopefully only 2 weeks till he comes home.well the bad bit is and i feel very upset about it i got very very drunk on friday and a friend of mine that i have know for over five years came to watch the wed video with a glass of wine,well i ended up haveing sex with him and now i feel so so bad i cant tell my husband coz it will mess everything up but it was a very big mistake and i cant belive it happened i just cant get what i did so wrong off my head and i love my husband very much i just need a chat as im alone and have noone else to talk too please help??

Can't we just let this thread fade away....... hopefully

maybe we could have a mumsnet AGM at AGM's

oh i doo feel a bit of attention seeking is going on. Vvvvvvvv you are a silly girl for getting yourself into this situation, and very niave to think that we are really going to give you our complete support without a few honest comments.

Either that our your just trolling for an arguement??

Is vv going to tell us where her daughter was while she was having a drunken shag with her "friend" in front of her wedding video? I can't believe any of this is for real. vv, are you Mike Leigh?

i asked that already

oh squid it took me ages to type that

Sorry, SquiddlyDiddly, must have lost the will to live somewhere in the middle of the thread.

no SA2 not what you said...what muminbrum said

lol @ squiddlydiddly!

vvvvvvv - can you stop shouting please, the kids are asleep.

I too got married last week, vvvvvv, but not having had any adulterous thoughts just yet, I'm afraid I have no advice

Goodness me.........

I would love to read this thread, but it is worse than text speak.

SHOTING OH SORRY DIDNT RELISE IF YOU ALL WANT TO PICK ME ME THEN YOU AINT GOING TO GET VERY FAR ITS A COMP TALKING TO ME HARDLEY GOING TO GET UPSET.LOL. NONE OF YOU KNOW IF THIS IS FOR REAL ANYWAY SO ALL FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO JOKE ABOUT.LOL.ALSO WATCHING THE WED VIDEO AND HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE NOT LIKE THAT AT ALL

noooooo ...walk away....nothing to see here.... hurry past folks......

I would like a youtube animated version - would be less painful to read.

Chavtastic

Hey, LGJ - have accepted your MSN invitation. Sorry, only go on it about once every three months, so just saw it!

So, now can I say to you, 'Oi! LGJ, get on MSN'? I've always been too much of a Billy to be able to do that on here!

YES I DO I MIGHT SAY NEXT THAT MY HUSBAND JUST DIED WHEN I JUST TOLD HIM WHAT I DONE

Ok move along, move along, nothing to see.

Tune in for next weeks edition of Nonsense

Where we track VVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVV and the fallout from her sleazy one night stand.

We then go straight to.........the DR to see who her DH has been shagging... quid pro quo...doncha know.

vvvv - I am sorry you are having a bad time. Please take your capitals off as it comes across as shouting.

Don't tell your dh what you have done. It would do nothing except salve your conscience. You would lose a husband that you seem to love. It was a drunken mistake and you will have to live with it.

TO FIND OUT LITTLE DID I KNOW HE ONLY WANTED ME FOR A PASSPORT

I am not picking on you VVVVV. Are you of such sub standard educational needs that you can not see you are not in love with the man that you married. You shagged a man whilst only being married for two minutes, well that shows commitment!!!

if this is a genuine thread, i dont see what there would be to gain by telling him, other than offloading your guilt, and hurting him in the process

i'd stay quiet and ask yourself why you allowed yourself to do what you did, and make sure it doesnt happen again

if you love him as much as you say, you would not have slept with another man a week after you married, whether he was in another country or not is irrelavent, wedding vows stil mean the same in those circumstances

Why Oh WHY call yourself vvvvvvvv?

It buggers up when i search for posts in my name

vvvvvv a few people have suggested you don't tell your husband. I disagree. If you can't have honesty 2 weeks into your marriage what hope is there?
I think you need to work out the reasons why you did this. If you don't really love him (and to me it sounds like you can't love him that much), I think it's kinder to end it now than have him move to a new country and a new life and have it all fall apart in 6 months or a year.
You know you've done a bad thing and now it's up to you to be brave and put it right.
Who know's - he may forgive you and you'll get through it.