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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

999 replies

RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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Techgirldating2018 · 28/02/2018 17:19

That’s just it ignoring after hours boredom

ignoringthechoc · 28/02/2018 17:20

Well a friend send me one woman's profile photo, she was stood in a tip of a living room in her pyjamas (old creased baggy pyjamas)
Maybe she wanted someone who would love here for her personality, but I was pretty Hmm

Kinunir · 28/02/2018 17:21

Being in tech myself, any photo that lacks a Mac or iPhone is pretty scary to me Grin.

Seriously, nothing too freaky about the female images I see, though I never, ever, click on anyone in the mid-40s - mid-50s range who uses SnapChat filters.

ignoringthechoc · 28/02/2018 17:24

Not just the women there Kin had 2 men recently message me who had flower filters? Obviously didn't reply :)

MargoLovebutter · 28/02/2018 17:26

Seriously, 40-50 year old women with Snapchat filters. The human race will die out!!!!!

Kinunir · 28/02/2018 17:28

WTF @ ignoring, that's ridiculous!

I'm in Essex Margo, SnapChat filters are almost as common as white stilettos Sad.

ignoringthechoc · 28/02/2018 17:30

I guess they think they are funny/ ironic as opposed to moronic

Techgirldating2018 · 28/02/2018 17:32

Oi Kinunir Essex girl here
And I’ve seen 50 something men with Snapchat filters Shock

lastnicknamefree · 28/02/2018 17:34

kin just an observation but you seem to have a good amount of replies to your messages! I’ve read of people sending a ton and never, or hardly getting any response.
It looks like more often than not you do hear back, so that’s both positive and unusual! Keep at it! You’re obviously very witty and good at first messages, or super hot. Or both 😉

Kinunir · 28/02/2018 17:36

That's the bizarre thing tech, the profile is how you sell yourself and so many people use horrible/weird/unfriendly pictures (not that I'm saying mine are any good) and skimp on the description.

I always wonder if that's because a) they aren't serious, b) they're clueless or, c)they're female/attractive and the Snapchat/cleavage/car/fish pics are all that they need.

Kinunir · 28/02/2018 17:39

I thought my response rate was pretty normal last. I'm a writer by trade (and not just IT security either Wink) which helps and have no real issues when I meet someone in person, it's just that finding someone who interests me and transitioning to coffee/drinks that I get stuck on.

Techgirldating2018 · 28/02/2018 17:41

Kin I have a limited description/profile waffle because I can’t think of much to say about myself. I have only one photo most men just say “I love your green eyes”
Most are going on looks to be honest anyway.

ignoringthechoc · 28/02/2018 17:42

What's the wink for Kin what else do you write? ;)

Kinunir · 28/02/2018 17:42

Erotica ignoring

Techgirldating2018 · 28/02/2018 17:43

And that’s exactly it, they have to be pretty special for me to want to bother to meet/risk being stood up/disappointment

ValMc1 · 28/02/2018 17:46

Forgive my lack of knowledge but are snapchat filters the naff photos of men with bunny ears? I'm sorted for the snow - 2 boxes of red wine and 5 kg of chicken - bring it on ( although I've got tickets for the Stereophonics on Friday at Wembley so need a couple of reasonable driving hours.

Lovemusic33 · 28/02/2018 17:46

Kin I probably get a one date per ten people I actually talk too. I rarely message anyone unless I really like their profile and they tick all my boxes (I’m fussy) but most do reply. I was first to message Mr Camper but he takes ages to reply to my messages so will probably be a no go. I haven’t heard from any of my irons other than 2 messages from Mr Camper today. Maybe people are busy panic buying bread, milk and snow shovels as we might get a cm of snow tomorrow.

Kinunir · 28/02/2018 17:46

That's the disconnect I feel tech - for me the profile description is way more important than the photos as I'm looking for long-term and want to meet someone I'll connect with - but most men just want a 'hawt girl' and so many women have realised they don't need to 'sell' themselves beyond a couple of good pics.

ignoringthechoc · 28/02/2018 17:46

Ha ha that's how you get all the replies :)

ignoringthechoc · 28/02/2018 17:48

Oooh Val enjoy the concert, bet its great!

Techgirldating2018 · 28/02/2018 17:49

I get that Kin but if I put I have an interest in circuit boards and country music I’m sure that would scare off a lot of them.
Oh and my white stilettos Grin

Kinunir · 28/02/2018 17:54

Val yep, they're the photos we're talking about.

Love Same here with the 1-in-10 normally but lot more flakiness this time around, albeit I've only been back on OLD for a week.

ignoring nah, don't really show that side of my personality to many people, and certainly not full-on on a dating site!

Tech AND, OR, NOT, NAND, NOR, EXOR and EXNOR gates get me going almost as much as my own industry speak that includes wonders such as penetration testing - be true to yourself and find someone with similar interests Smile.

ValMc1 · 28/02/2018 17:54

Ignore - I just hope I can get there so I can enjoy it - just hope the shed load is snow doesn't come! Hoping fir a snow day so I can leave early and worry about getting home after - not seen a live band for at least 6 months so getting withdrawal symptoms!!!

ValMc1 · 28/02/2018 17:55

Kin photos?

ValMc1 · 28/02/2018 17:59

Kin - ok just read back - get it now - red, red wine, goes straight to my head