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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

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RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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Queenofthedrivensnow · 27/02/2018 21:12

Hi thread.
So I'm about to knock a dating thing on the head. Instinct got the better of me but there shouldn't be red flags by date 5 should there?

ignoringthechoc · 27/02/2018 21:14

Hi Everyone, Pog sounds like a tough day, well done for getting through it, tomorrow has got to be better :)
Love I am the opposite on pof tonight, finding it really slow, I think I have made things harder for myself by meeting the nice chap on Sat as I'm now not in the mood for online and want real life meetings where the spark is there immediately.
Been I hope I can be as savvy as you when checking new people out, think I might just pm you a brief rundown of each and you can tell me who to run from :)
Talking to a couple at the minute but not overly fussed about either- meh

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 21:19

Well Mr Fox is a no go. He asked me for a photo of my boobs.

Mr Camper has vanished, maybe his battery is dead as he’s sleeping in his van, or maybe he froze to death?

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 21:20

Queen I guess date 5 is when the real incompatibilities start to show...

Ignoring time will tell if I've got it right this time. It feels very very right for both of us but the acid test is time.

Kinunir · 27/02/2018 21:20

After ignoring 32 messages from Miss I I caved in and sent her one about some money she owes me. Last remaining iron has just revealed she’s not suitable. Nothing doing online. It’s never been this tough before 😰

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 21:29

Love why do I never cease to be surprised? At least he had the decency to eliminate himself early on...

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 21:32

Story of my life Been at least he showed his true colours early on, though he’s still messaging me even though I’m ignoring him.

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 21:34

32 messages Kin? What about? The holiday she wants or has she suddenly decided to find a nugget of passion with which to reel you in?

Kinunir · 27/02/2018 21:36

Been a couple about the holiday but mostly slagging me off for wanting a physical relationship so soon

ignoringthechoc · 27/02/2018 21:38

I'm hoping it keeps going well for you Been, sounds like it's been a while coming.
Queen I suppose it's better to know by date 5 than find out on date 50? (trying to find the positives)
Kin I'm sure we will all meet the right people eventually but will maybe have to keep each other sane until then as it might take a while. At least this thread males me laugh, unfortunately the bizarre messages are not unusual. I just had someone message 'lol', first message, my profile isn't really funny so is he just laughing at my photo? :) I will never know as that is not getting a reply.

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 21:48

32 messages slagging you off is one angry woman. I hope you see that as a lucky escape.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 27/02/2018 21:53

Thanks folks - if the other person has more issues than vogue it's a non starter right?

lastnicknamefree · 27/02/2018 21:54

Haven’t managed to post in a week or two, but been reading and laughing along. I think this thread has been consistently hilarious and far more interesting/exciting than anything else I might be looking at online! Definitely more literate, intelligent, amusing folk here too!

kin 32 messages of unjustified grief? No apology, or taking any responsibility whatsoever? Fuck that, bullet well and truly dodged Angry

pog Flowers Wine

SpringtimeSun · 27/02/2018 21:55

Cheeeepers Kin she's a proper fruit loop. The block button is a grand invention my friend!!!

Kinunir · 27/02/2018 21:57

I know, 32 messages of grief that have sucked what little sense of fun and humour I had left out of me. Think I need to give up on thoughts of dating or MB for a long, long time.

VetOnCall · 27/02/2018 21:57

Kin time to block and delete Miss Pisstaker I think.

VetOnCall · 27/02/2018 22:00

Queen yes! Run for the hills!

lastnicknamefree · 27/02/2018 22:01

So I was meant to be on a first date tonight. Chatted for about 5 days, he suggested meeting and picked the day...we didn’t arrange details just that we’d go out this evening. Today, radio silence until 4pm when he sends me a “we’re we meant to be doing something later?, can’t remember if we arranged it”
I replied, “we were. But good to see your level of enthusiasm”
He says “still can”
I say “ well Y’know don’t put yourself out like, seeing as you were obviously so looking to it that you couldn’t remember”
I might have been a little bit pissy but ffs it’s a bit insulting? He never replied so pjs and ice cream for one...
Was I out of order or was he?

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 22:03

Queen there's obviously something tempting you to carry on. Do you know what it is?

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 22:06

Last I'd say 50/50. You could have contacted him to be honest. Next time make sure you have everything agreed then it's just a check in on the day to confirm the time and place.

NewYear2019 · 27/02/2018 22:18

last if say he was more out of order. Maybe my judgement is clouded by similar experiences I've had with early dates not following through.

lastnicknamefree · 27/02/2018 22:29

I think his behaviour was very half arsed. I’d booked a sitter and stuff because he’d asked me on a date and said Tuesday was the best night. We’d confirmed, just not where/what. So then to come in late afternoon asking if we’d planned to see each other didn’t exactly make me feel like he was bothered and I was a bit insulted really
Maybe I’m just being precious but to me, if someone actually wants to meet you and go on a date, they will remember the bloody arrangement

userxx · 27/02/2018 22:53

Love - what is it with uti tests showing no bacteria but you just know you have one 🙈. I'm sat here in agony but dip test said nope, no infection. Could cry.

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 27/02/2018 23:22

last these men are pathetic - had a similar last week . Probably if you had checked he would have rescheduled . At least he remembered something though ! Grin I honestly think they just like to see how many women they can pull or have chatting to them .

Been chatting to this guy tonight - just when I said I was stopping all this business, I cave in - and he just disappears in the middle of the conversation . Where are people's manners ? At least say Goodnight or something .

VetOnCall · 27/02/2018 23:33

Omfg. Slightly different username, same photo, same message. I know I keep saying it but what the actual fuck?

Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step