Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Can you report him Vet? They might be able to block his IP address.

Vet- i am just

Apologies for being a dick last night - I'm on a bit of a bad roll but... onwards and upwards!

Stay safe if you're traveling today - it's nasty out there!

You weren’t at all kin
Oh wait, we’re you meant to be on a first date with me then got all lame and half arsed? have a better day

vet I had a very similar message to that a month or so ago, probably the same person as I think your down south too? I have blocked several people only for them to set up another profile and message me again, I had a stalker for a while who I kept reporting to POF, they did nothing, in the end one of the lovely ladies on here tried to set him up and then reminded him that I knew where he worked (it was someone I went on one date with). He still keeps adding me as favourite when ever he sets up a new profile but doesn’t message me.

Hi all!

I was on a previous dating thread probably nearly 2 years back now. Ended up in a very horrible relationship and throughout the dating he was a master manipulator - I'd forgotten how much better it was to have this thread to vent my confused side!! So I'm back.

Went on a date last week, seemed to go well. Seeing each other again was mentioned in conversation but no precise plans per se. Got a text from him pretty much instantly after parting ways, starting up conversation again which has been toing and froing since but no mention of going out again. I don't want to ask him because he made a comment on the date when discussing why OLD hadn't worked so far, that 'a lot of girls go on a first date and then get all needy and possessive'. So I feel like it's either some sort of game, or he's just not that keen and wants to keep me on the back burner. I'm starting to feel like I'm wasting time and energy.

What do you reckon?

Also last, id have done the same. He might have been trying to play it cool, but it doesn't look good really and I wouldn't have gone out with him after that!!

kangamam, how about just asking him if he wants to meet up again. That way you'll know one way or another. It is not needy or possessive to ask that question.

So, I liked Mr Wales. He was a tall and a bit cuddly and made me laugh. I told him I was nearly blind and had left my glasses in the car, so he waited outside the bar for me in the freezing cold, in case I wouldn't be able to find him inside!!!!!!!! At the end of the date, he asked me to dinner next week.

Morning

Pog how you feeling today? Sorry you had such a shit day, you sound very mature and so nice about OW, you deserve a medal for that alone.

I'm going to ask the dutch english guy if he wants to meet Friday, plus I have my afternoon of kitchen surface fantasies tomorrow with Mr A. I will enjoy being driven around by him in the car, my hand might even slip (mwhahahaah)...it won't, really it won't.

Oh and I have a lunch date with a "friend" on Friday too. He is a friend of a friend I know here, he likes me I know he does but he is so not my type. When it was Carnaval I went out with him and his sister. i think he thinks I like him too but I am just normally friendly with him. I do like him as a friend but nothing more. He is "safe" though so if he made a move, I think he would take rejection well..........why is it the ones you aren't interested in are, but the ones you are, aren't? Is that just life??

margo Mr Wales sounds promising :)

kangamam asking if he wants to see you again isn't being needy in my eyes. Maybe just say you enjoyed it and would he like to do it again sometimes (I understand what you mean though).

Hey pud I feel better after a sleep, thanks I messaged FWB to say that's not continuing but I wish him well.

Realise now I'm expecting a response... Message had nothing in it for him to respond to but yeah I guess it'd be nice to get a similar 'have a nice life' thing. That aside, feeling some closure.

Pog That happened with my ex FWB, we had months of seeing each other several times a week, and then when it ended, he left it with a thumbs up emoji and no closure. I wasn't upset so much about it ending, but he could have reciprocated. i left it very cool, saying thanks and how much I enjoyed the time we spent together. We have hardly communicated since except for the odd emoji he sends and then sending me a message on tinder asking if I have a lot of fuck buddies on tinder (we matched recently, then the fucker unmatched me). part of me thinks he is hurt, the other part thinks he is a vulcan and has no feelings........

Well done though, remember not a reflection of you but of him if he doesnt reply.

Yeah I mean I'll miss how hot he is but I can't believe how foolish and selfish he's been. We were only having safe sex but apparently there are multiple other women who were not... So in fairness he's probably quite busy today...

Kangamam I agree with Pudding. Far better to know and it wouldn't come across as needy in my eyes.

Margo Glad things went well with Mr Wales. Sounds like a promising first date.

Pudding I hope you manage to get something arranged with the Dutch/English guy.

Pog Glad to hear you are feeling a bit better. Sounds like you had a rough day yesterday.

Generally in my part of Yorkshire we escape the snow but sods law that when I have a date arranged we aren't so lucky. Weather forecast isn't looking good but the snow has stopped for now so hopefully we will still be able to meet as planned.

I also have a first date arranged arranged with Mr Bull who is smart, articulate, funny and we have shared interests. It has been a pleasant change to have an iron who as well as being a good conversationalist also makes me laugh. He lives a but further away than I would ideally like but he is driving to me on Friday.

Once again I should really proof reading what I am posting.

Just to clarify have a planned first date with Mr South Africa this evening.

Kanga If you're anything like my age, one follow-up message from you would be seen as a positive rather than needy.

Margo Hope it continues to go well with Mr Wales.

Pog It sounds like you're feeling at least a tad happier than yesterday so that's a positive.

Vista He sounds very promising, hope the distance isn't a dealbreaker.

So typical I start to feel free of illness then all the snow in the world descends on my local area!
This hasn’t been a great week despite joining Tinder no new irons to speak of.. and my first ever speeding notice yesterday. Like a baby it made me cry and no one to hug and say it will all be alright.
Right onwards and upwards, there must be some good men out there??
Must be right ??

I've reported Mr Porno Namechange Sleaze and blocked (again!). Weirdo doesn't even come close. Love I'm in Devon so yeah, it could be the same one; if that's his standard approach I can imagine he'll have been on there for a while 'looking for his soulmate' (not envy).

Margo sounds good with Mr Wales!

Kanga I don't think suggesting a second date is too keen. Tbh if a man thought or said that, it would be a big red flag to me, it smacks of laying down low expectations - you're already worrying and controlling what you say to him lest he think that you're needy/demanding/possessive when you're actually behaving totally normally.

Pog glad you're feeling better today. I don't know if I would be expecting a reply from him - will it make any difference given the circumstances anyway?

Pudding why is it the ones you aren't interested in are, but the ones you are, aren't? Is that just life?? This is literally the story of my life just now.

I'm sure there are Tech, just as I hope there are some good women too, it's just a case of wading through all the non-suitable dross to find them!

After coming back on Sunday and saying I had a great date with Mr j. How I felt a connection I'd never felt before it turns out he is married and still living with them. Why do they go on dating sites?? Feel so fed up today

Oh eating that sucks, but don’t feel stupid, it’s absolutely him not you!

kanga did you message him?

margo great date! Hoping number 2 is arranged soon and it’s just as good

pog glad you got some sleep and feel better today

pudding get that date arranged with the Dutch/English man! I think it’ll be a good distraction from you know who...

vista Mr Bull sounds promising! Nice that he’s driving to your area too
Good luck on tonight’s date with SA, you are on fire this week! Looking forward to the loo update later

eating That really is rubbish. If you don't mind me asking how did you find out?

I on the other hand am most certainly not on fire, but seeemigly a damp squib of the dating world.
After my non date last night with renamed MrHalfArsed who I haven’t heard from since, another iron who I was messaging sent me a text saying what are you up to this morning, fancy a coffee?
Sod the ironing and shopping I thought, I don’t start work until 1 today why not. I say yes, where and when shall we meet. He phoned me, says he’ll drive to my town and call me then. See you in 20 minutes.
I waited an hour. Called him. No answer.
I sent nice text saying I was parked up, will give it another 10 minutes...nothing.
I’ve been stood up AGAIN!!
Seriously wtaf is it coming to when people seem to treat this as a game for kicks and waste people’s time. It’s the second time in the last month I’ve been stood up and seriously making me question bothering anymore

That really sucks last and I've no idea why people do that - not even turning up is extreme dickish behaviour. Even if, like Monday night, I see someone and think "no way" I'll still stay for a drink - it's just common courtesy, something that is very lacking in people these days.

Maybe it happened for a reason though... the next date may well be the one you were waiting for.

Hi, I'm just popping in to say I'm taking a break for a while. My head is messed up from seeing the ex from last year so publicly announcing his new girlfriend, who he's only been seeing for a couple of months (supposedly), after keeping me a secret for nearly a year.

I know I am still angry at him because he gave me no closure and this has made it worse. But I can't think of even meeting someone for a coffee right now. It wouldn't be fair on them.
Plus I've just started the training course he generously bought me which is a daily reminder of him. However, it's something I wanted to do for ages so I decided not to let it go to "waist". It will keep me busy for 6 weeks, possibly longer and could be just what I need (a contradiction, I know).

Also wanted to say that if anyone is in Cambridgeshire and is thinking they might like to try a Meetup but are a bit unsure about it, there's one happening this Friday that is very good. For new people only, very friendly, the hosts are great at making sure no one is left out. I might go if the weather improves. PM me if you want to know more.