Blackmail

[user21]

It’s tricky for me to go into detail but I think I may have just done this.

Has anyone else ever found themselves in this situation on either side for whatever reason?

I feel uneasy 😟

If you are blackmailing someone and they report it to the police you may end up being interviewed.

It’s not really a criminal/police matter though

Not that serious, just something that I have said/threatened to do that seemed appropriate at the time but I’m now thinking my be wrong.

Ah, ok maybe not proper blackmail then. Any more info you can give?

Blackmail probably too strong word.
Sorry, my head all over the place.

I suppose I would like to hear from others on either side of this situation so I can gauge if I’m being reasonable or not.

Probably not being fair as I’m not prepared to divulge more info myself.

What situation ?

How can we comment on this without knowing what you are talking about ?

You’re not going to get much of a response if you don’t explain what you mean. I doubt anyone is going to admit to having/been blackmailed anyway.

Nobody who has been blackmailed is going to tell you the blackmailer was justified and it was a grand experience.

Are you going to go through with the threat?

I wasn’t asking for comments on my situation just other experiences of blackmail and did say it probably wasn’t fair asking people to share.

Yes. I will go through with the threat.

If your doing this .........

Blackmail is an act, often criminal, involving unjustified threats to make a gain—most commonly money or property—or cause loss to another unless a demand is met.[1][2] It is coercion involving threats to reveal substantially true or false information about a person to the public, a family member, or associates, or threats of physical harm or criminal prosecution.

Then it’s a criminal offence.

Sorry- like everyone else has said, without knowing who you said what to and in what context, no way to give you an answer

Why should others open up to you when you are being cryptic and evasive? I'm hoping it's because you are ashamed but I doubt it.

Sounds like you might mean you gave an ultimatum?

So you're knowingly going to commit a criminal offence. Clever girl.

I was blackmailed as a child by a sibling.
I felt angry and powerless and desperate and isolated and lonely.

Usually when things are shit, you can talk to people. If money is tight, or your boss is an arse... you have a chance to talk it out wit people. With blackmail, you can't because you can't reveal the reason. Or feel you can't.

It's a particularly nasty way to treat someone.

Does that help?

I’m not sure I’m ashamed tbh but my judgement isn’t great atm. In my head it’s fair. He won’t report me to the police.

Ultimatum sounds better. Perhaps coercion
is the best description in this situation.

Oh well coercion is fine

nobody knows who you are.

what have you threatened and who have you made the threat to?

The thread is pointless without some detail. The same people who say one thing, may say quite another if they knew what you were actually talking about

Thank you for replying Elisandra
I’m sorry you felt like that.

But not sorry that you're prepared to make someone else feel that way?

It was 35 years ago btw - still remember those feelings of helplessness.

Coercive behaviour is also potentially a criminal offence.

If you’re sorry for what you said, apologise and take it back. If you’re not sorry and think it was fair to say, why are you here?

I’m here Angelfish because I’m trying to work out what to do. The threat will remain but it’s whether to carry it through I’m wrestling with as the time approaches.

Thank you for all the replies. I know I’m being unreasonably evasive.

I'm guessing it's threatening an ex/current husband with telling his workplace about his misdemeanours or some such.

Well enlighten us, is what you're threatening to reveal a personal behaviour or criminal behaviour on their part?