Anyone quite happy to not be in a relationship?

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Anyone else feel that they're quite content to not be in a relationship, and actually enjoy not having to make all the compromises having a partner brings?

Just the thought of entering another relationship these days is enough to make me come over all exhausted and need a long lie down with a good podcast

I can't imagine it ever happening

I am much better on my own .... very contented , no compromises, no second guessing . At the moment very happy 😊🤷‍♀️.

Good lord yes. If I ever do meet the millionaire of my dreams he'd better be satisfied with not moving in together. I can't picture anyone it would be worth giving up my independence for.

Yes I think I have reached that point. 18 months single and after the initial low period of feeling lonely, I've settled right into it!

I'm starting to think that relationships are a great big con that sell you a fairytale and deliver drudgery. Even when I observe friends and family with supposedly happy relationships I see lots of aspects that I wouldn't want to put up with.

I'm happy not in a traditional relationship, i.e., living together, shared finances, Christmas at the in laws etc.

Very happy! I have my own space, can do what I want, when I want, how I want. What's not to like?!

It's heartening to know I'm not the only one

It's just so much easier, isn't it? No aggravation. No miscommunication.

NellMangel - yes, what we get is definitely not what is stated on the box!

Yes, totally. Just cannot be arsed with a relationship and all those 'compromises'... sharing a bed, having duvet wars, snoring, cooking for someone else or having to 'agree' what you want to eat in the evening, having to put up with someone else's choice of TV channel... singledom is bliss! Have been single for 2 years now and cannot imagine giving it up again.

If my marriage were to end, I can totally see myself being single and happy. Sounds bad I know, as much as I love DH, I also know I'd be perfectly contented on my own.

Absolutely. I made my decision years ago and am very happy living on my own in my own home, doing what I want, when I want, with whoever I want, for as long as I want with no compromises, nobody moaning and my life is my own.
The feeling of independence and the freedom it brings is so valuable, I would not give it up for a the whims of another.
I'm happier than I have ever been.

Yes, another one here. Single for years - and very happily so. Absolutely no way I'm going to share my duvet, bed, kitchen or anything else.

Yep, me too. Single for 3 and a half years and they have been the happiest years of my life. Every decision my own, from where I go on holiday to what to have for dinner and I love it.

A couple of posters have mentioned sharing a bed - that's something I hate! I would become almost apoplectic with rage when contemplating having to share a bed . The snoring! Fuck off with that. The sweatiness of another body too. Nope.

Me too. The only thing I don’t like about being single is society’s insistence that I should be trying to find a relationship - that I am somehow not complete without one

I envisage being single forever - so much easier and I’m very much happier for it.

Yes. It's been 8 months and even though there are lonely moments, it's just so nice not to have to share things. Not to have to answer to someone, to defend myself, to be responsible for everything myself and not rely on anyone. I also like not having any drama of arguments etc that come with relationships.

Oh and the sharing a bed...yes!! Although my DC climb in with me which is annoying enough, but I love not sharing with someone after 8 years of sharing with someone...when he chose to actually come to bed.

Loved my single years, post divorce. You’re not alone OP

You always have to make at least SOME effort if you have a partner. If I've dripped toothpaste down my front and can't be arsed changing, it doesn't matter. If I had a partner I'd be self conscious, in case they were thinking what a slob I am which I am but that's irrelevant

Ooh you had high standards big I would just walk around stained!

I think communal decision making is one of the worst aspects of being in a relationship - trying to reach a consensus on food, what to watch, where to go. Then being given the responsibility to decide, and having to choose something the other person might like. It's tiring.

And snoring/bed sharing. That ruined many a holiday for me.

I was invited to a party last week. I was disappointed as I had an evening planned eating chocolate & staring at the wall

I like my space, I am so far beyond single

There will definitely never be another man in my house or my life. I am loving having my own space and being my own person. I can't think of one thing I miss about ex h or one thing that I need a man in my life for tbh.

I'm interested to read this post and all the responses which seem positive. I am in a relationship but often fantasise about being alone, but just wonder about sex...do you miss it? How do you deal with that aspect...have FWB arrangements? Just curious.

I wouldn't mind some sex. I've had 3 bad relationships over the last 8 years or so, 2 resulting in children. These 2 were with abusive men, and number 3 was my attempt at post- children dating, and he was just a bit of a twat. I really don't feel that I have the energy or time to devote to trying to find someone else in the hopes that I get a decent one this time. But.....some sex would be nice. Yet I don't feel that a casual hookup would be Quite the Thing, and anything more involved than that would be entering dating territory. Maybe I'll find some kind of earth god under a bush in the back garden or something?

Reflexella - - yep, that's about it

Just had a chocolate orange and stood up to find a melted bit attached to my pyjama bottoms. Also smeared on the sofa throw. I don't care (gutted I missed a bit though)