Liar liar bums on fire.

[Hesabawbag]

Thought I'd start a thread to pull tips on dealing with your gut instincts versus the crap that's spouted on discovering infidelity. So basically cues we get when we just know its bs.
Starting of with the same minimal repeated 5 word sentence that's. Never deviated from.

She meant nothing to me

Eh?

It's not you, it's me.
???

'She's going through a hard time and needed someone to talk to'

We are just friends

'I can explain'

She's just a friend.

She's just a friend/colleague

I didn't mean to hurt you.
It's not personal.

She's just a friend.
I love you but not in love with you.

I didn't tell you because I didn't want to hurt/upset/knew you wouldn't like it blah blah

She needed cheering up

There. Is. Nothing. Going. On. And you always over-react; that's why I didn't tell you about the drinks/dinner/texts/phone calls.

Don't start

You are crazy/ paranoid

I deleted the messages because I knew you'd think more was going on, which it obviously wasn't

We only talked about me and you, I was asking her advice whilst she was sucking my

She's weird

I was lonely because you're always putting the kids first

You deserve better than me, just to mind fuck you when their still lying through their teeth.

It was just stupid stuff that meant nothing, it's you I want.

This is where the MN mantra comes in handy - shove his stuff in bin bags and stick 'em in the doorstep

Out of character derogatory comments directed at you can be a sign they are trying to validate their own vile behaviour by making you out to be the ogre.

I don't want this., ironically mind fucking.

Over thinking their responses rather than talking openly and jumping on anything to go off topic and cause am argument about anything else that will deflect from them being taken to account.