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Onwards and Upwards!

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Hushabyemountain98 · 14/03/2016 09:33

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

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PiscoSour66 · 04/04/2016 11:18

Good morning Hush. Good morning all.
Happy 21st birthday to kirkBoy have a super day. Oh, to be 21 again knowing what we know now!
I know how you feel madamehooch when you say that you secretly hope that he sees the light and comes home. Every time they leave the family home after having spending some time together the disappointment is huge and a little bit more hope gets eroded away. It's hard not to have them in the family home when you have young children and are trying to be civil to one another. I don't want to resort to doorstep pick ups and drop offs. The thought of that makes my heart sink even more. I'm sure my H just wants me to meet someone else and then he can wash his hands of me. It's not a nice feeling at all.
Me and the kids are off to town later. Have a good day everyone. Xxx

Kirk123 · 04/04/2016 13:23

Thank you for all your best wishes to Kirkboy which made him laugh , as I shared with him your lovely wishes , he said I don't want to see your dating site mum , I laughed and said this site is better than dating it's my life saviour 😇 Madam no regrets and don't beat yourself up , I have also had moments on to much alcohol and done silly things , but it's done now and no one will notice , hope everyone has a good day my lovely virtual friends xxx

Hushabyemountain98 · 04/04/2016 16:07

Good Afternoon Pisco and Kirk.

I hope you are both enjoying your day.
I wanted my dh to see the light and come home but I think it has gone beyond it this time even though my heart is broken.
I have been and had my hair done and my eye lashes and eyebows tinted. So have had an upgrade from an old hag!!
I have not achieved a lot today so I better get on.
I hope you both enjoy your day xx

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Kirk123 · 04/04/2016 19:10

You have achieved loads , having your hair done and eyes done hush , small steps it's early days for you on this roller coaster , it takes such effort to do the things which used to be normal and easy , hope you feel a bit brighter and I am sure you look gorgeous ❤️ Kirkboy back to uni to celebrate with his friends , I sit here along with my candle on and I am good enough today which is how I live my life as we all seem to do , one day at a time sweet Jesus 😇

Hushabyemountain98 · 04/04/2016 19:41

Thanks Kirk, I was well overdue for my haircut but it is an effort. Had a few tears at the salon but I have known by hairdresser for over 26 years.
I did feel better but then a certain dh has done something that has upset me again.
I hope Kirkboy enjoys his celebration with his Uni mates. Not too much though!
I hope you are okay on your own this evening. I expect you are a bit tired after your hectic few days.
xxx

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madamehooch · 04/04/2016 20:02

Hi Hush. I think hairdressers are used to tears. Mine's wife did the same thing to him as my DH has done to me so he had some sage words of advice whilst making my hair look good:)

Sorry to hear that you not so DH has upset you again. Hopefully he will also be igniting your anger with every selfish thing he does. I think anger is key in the healing process.

Pisco and Kirk - thank you for your kind words. I'm finding Hush's thread very supportive. Thanks Hush xx

Hushabyemountain98 · 04/04/2016 20:13

Hi madame,

Thank you for your kind message.
I think you are right about hairdressers being used to tears. I think it is a bit like the confessional!
I wish something would ignite my anger. I think you are right about it helping the healing process.
I hope you are feeling a bit brighter today? xx

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Hushabyemountain98 · 05/04/2016 08:22

How is everyone today?
Cloudy outside at the moment. Hoping for some sun!
I seem to have bitten the inside of my cheek and it is really painful. Not very bright!
I didn't achieve much yesterday so I better try and do better today.
Have a good day☀️Xx

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madamehooch · 05/04/2016 09:17

Hi Hush. Sorry to hear about your cheek. It's on a par with having an ulcer on your tongue :(

I'm at work today and then seeing my mum and dad which always gets me a bit keyed up. Do you have any plans for today? Xx

PiscoSour66 · 05/04/2016 09:58

Good morning Hush. Good morning all.
I think you achieved plenty enough yesterday, so don't worry. Quiet day here, just catching up with laundry and paperwork.
Have a good day everyone x

Hushabyemountain98 · 05/04/2016 10:33

Hi madame,
I seem to get a lot of ulcers lately!
I am falling apart!

I hope work goes well today. I hope your visit to your Mum and Dads goes okay. I hope you manage not to get too keyed up. Breath!

I do not really have any plans. I should go to the bank and need to speak to the Vet.
Should be doing housework and should cut the grass!

I have walked the dogs, so that is out the way.

I hope you have a good day xx

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Hushabyemountain98 · 05/04/2016 10:36

Good morning Pisco.
I hope you have a good day catching up with laundry and paperwork.
Are your boys amusing themselves?

I have walked the dogs. Just having a coffee then I need to find the incentive to crack on with the housework. Exciting!

Have a good one xx

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madamehooch · 05/04/2016 17:07

Hi Hush. There's a bit of sunshine where we are isn't there so hopefully it will help in lifting our spirits.

My visit to my parents went better than expected. It's just that I know they'd love to ask me loads of questions which I don't have the answers to.

Have just got back. Have a curry cooking in the slow cooker but I haven't quite mastered the art of the liquid management so I might need to get the cornflour out! Xx

Hushabyemountain98 · 05/04/2016 17:31

Hi madame,
We do have some sun now. Better than this morning!
Glad the visit to you parents went better than expected. I can understand how difficult that must be for you.
Yum curry! My favourite. I hope you have not overdone the liquid. I am not sure that cornflour is the way to go! Still needs must!

Enjoy!xx

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Kirk123 · 05/04/2016 18:25

Evening ladies , just in from work , Kirkboy gone out with his dad in his uni city it's straight to bed with my new book , getting past your breakup by Susan Elliot I will debrief when I have finished it for us ❤️

Hushabyemountain98 · 05/04/2016 18:36

Evening Kirk,
I hope work went well?
I hope that you enjoy the book.
I bought that book too along with Runaway Husbands.
How sad are we!XX

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PiscoSour66 · 05/04/2016 18:40

We can open our very own lending library just with relationship books!
We will become experts in our field. Still can't help ourselves though....Grin

Kirk123 · 05/04/2016 18:53

Lol hush and pisco we really could , I read them and still need all of you too ❤️

Hushabyemountain98 · 05/04/2016 18:58

Hi Pisco and Kirk,
Yes we could have our own lending library just with relationship books!
I think they might be in demand!
We are trying to help each other though xx

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Hushabyemountain98 · 06/04/2016 07:44

Good Morning All,

Was awake until 4am. So now it is time to get up and I am so tired.
I hope you all slept better than me.
Have a good day xx

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louisatwo · 06/04/2016 08:03

Morning Hush,
I had a cup of coffee at 10 pm (what WAS I thinking) and therefore tossed and turned most of the night. Gah!
So, you're setting up a lending library - what other plans for today?? xx

Kirk123 · 06/04/2016 08:18

Morning , I just dreamt about him and had about 4 major hot sweats woke up dripping !!!! How can I ever sleep in the same bed as a new man if I ever heal enough to look for one ??????🙈

Hushabyemountain98 · 06/04/2016 13:36

Afternoon Louisa,

Sorry that having coffee late gave you such a restless night!
My sister has been here for coffee this morning. So I have not accomplished much!
I have walked the dogs.
I am going to make the bread and try to do some ironing and sorting if I am not too tired.
I hope you have a decent day.

xx

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Hushabyemountain98 · 06/04/2016 13:40

Good Afternoon Kirk,
Sorry you had a bad night too.
Please don't worry about sleeping in your bed with a new man at the moment.

Tiny steps. You have to look after yourself first.
xxFlowers

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Hushabyemountain98 · 06/04/2016 15:19

Good afternoon again.
My day is getting better and better. My heart is kicking off again. I think I have overdone the coffee give myself a boost to keep going. Hoping the tablets will kick in soon. Can do without having to go into hospital. Who is going to care then?
XXX

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