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[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

When is it your Birthday

I dont know about Kirk, but I am keen to find out because its my birthday on the 3rd of April and Im wondering if we share a birthday.

No not its my sons 21st 4th April , mine is 15th may but so blessed to have 6 weeks of celebrations with different family and friends xxx ps I never thought I would be single at 50 so trying to enjoy it all , but between us I am still rather sad ❤️

Kirk Its a time of birthdays for us as well starting on the 25th of March and finishing 9 birthdays later on the 9th of April!

We also have one in May.

Here's to your sons birthday being a great one

Thsnkyou notonyour xxx

It's my birthday on the 15th April kirk , I'll be 55 and single, we'll raise a glass together, to celebrate being fabulous ...

Happy Birthday notonyur.
I am sure you will have a lovely day with your family and friends.
Enjoy yourself xx🎂🎈🍾💐

Hi Kirk,

I hope your son will have a very Happy 21st Birthday tomorrow.
You are lucky having your birthday celebrations spread out.
Oh to be 50 again!
Please try not to be sad. This might be your year!xx❤️

Good Morning Hobbit,
I am the odd one out here as mine is in December.
You can all celebrate being fabulous together 🍾🍷🎂😃❤️
Xx

Hello Hush
Just spotted your thread in Active, how are you getting on?
Hope your sons got home for Easter with you, that will have cheered you up a lot.

Weekends can be difficult for me, and I've woken far too early today! So I'm going to make tea and read till its a more civilised time.

Take care.

Hello Allalonenow,
My sons were home for a while over Easter.
It was good to have them here.

Sorry that weekends are difficult for you too.
Good idea to get a cup of tea. I am going to put the kettle on in a minute.
I will watch some news. I hate it being quiet. I can hear lots of birdsong though!

I cried and cried yesterday. I was a soggy mess. My eyes are so sore this morning. I must look a right mess!
Still have to try and be more positive today.
Enjoy your cuppa xx

So sorry to hear that you were very tearful yesterday, it seems to sweep over you so painfully sometimes, I know.
What about soaking some cotton wool balls in iced water to use as an eye compress or Optrex drops are soothing if you have some.

I hope you feel a bit better today, have you got any treats planned to cheer yourself up a bit? I've got a bit of smoked trout for lunch and a miniature bottle of spiced vodka to have with it. It's all a Rock & Roll Life here you know!

Thank you Allalonenow.
You are right it does sweep over you painfully!
I will give the soaked cotton wool a go.
Your smoked trout and spiced vodka sounds good for your lunch.
Obviously a woman of taste!
I will have to think of something nice to have for dinner.
I hope you have a good day xx

You also Hush

Thanks Allalonenow 😃

I hope you have had a Happy Birthday notonyur with your family and friends xx
🎂🎈💐🍾🍷

Hi Husha, and thank you. Yes, Ive had a really good birthday. I was at home till late afternoon but my Daughters in Law brought the wee ones to see me and we had chocolate chip muffins one of the girls had made and a cuppa. The wee ones get to drink theirs from the saucer because its what we did in Scotland years ago and I enjoy doing it for my wee ones.

Then later on I went round to one of my daughters and we had dinner that I'd retrieved from my freezer. It was homemade tomato soup, then pasta with home-made pesto sauce. They'd also got some desserts from the Patisserie. It was all lovely. We were supposed to watch a film after dinner but we were nattering so much we forgot all about it.

I got a lovely card that had a badge on it saying Queen For The Day. It also said inside that April was going to be officially declared as my month. I loved it all because Im a big fan of the Queen and Im quite often in Queen mode according to my lot because I always have nice bed linen and tea made properly in a pot and served in nice cups with matching saucers.

Im also quite bossy but they were nice enough to deny it when I brought it up during the pretend investiture they'd also organised

So a lovely day, and whats more my eldest son who I don't have the easiest of relationships with because of whats gone on over the years phoned me from far away, unprompted by his siblings or his wife, and we had a nice wee blether.

But just one other thing. For quite a few years I'd get birthday cards from my children and they'd have the usual bits about being the best mum in the world etc but I'd never feel like the best mum in the world because of the situation I was in. It really did impact on how I was able to be a mum even though I always tried (but quite often failed) to be a good one. And I do believe that the kids didn't really think I was that great at being a mum for quite some time and they were just saying I was. But this last year its been very different. Ive read the cards Ive been given on Mothers Day etc and I really do believe that Im everything to them that they've written inside.

Im looking forward to being 58 for lots of reasons. I'm happy we're sorted and that my children know they have their mum.

Hi notonyur. I am glad that you have enjoyed your Birthday.
It made me laugh about drinking tea out of the saucer!
Queen for the day! That sounds really good.
I am glad that you got to hear from your eldest son too.
I am sure that your children have always thought that you were a great Mum.
Maybe you have just become even better!
I hope this will be a great year for you and your family. You deserve it.xx💐

Happy Birthday notonyur, your day sounds lovely. It's good to hear that you believe the things written inside your cards from your children, I'm sure the nice things they write are well deserved. You have given them love and stability.
We used to drink tea from a saucer too! Someone from the telly used to drink tea like that as well. Was it Steptoe?
How are you doing Hush?

Notonyour happy birthday to you , happy birthday to you , a truly special queen every day , it sounds like you had the best day, as parents we are learning all the time and with age becomes knowledge and as we mature we become fantastic mums !!! And as our children become parents too they begin to appreciate us more and more ❤️ For my sons 21st tomorrow I am going to put my best foot forward and have a nice day with him 🎉 Good night queenie sleep well tonight , and hush you sleep well too and all my other mn friends , we are all princesses xxx

Hi Pisco,
I am okay thank you.
I am trying not to think about him and her.
I hope you have had a good day?
Don't mention the football!
I hope you catch up on your sleep tonight.
Good night xx

Hi Kirk,
I hope your son has a Happy 21st Birthday tomorrow and that you enjoy the day together.
Sleep well.
Good night xxx

Good morning Hush,
Damp and grey here with lots of tedious chores to get done. Hope that you slept well and that the dog walking is not too muddy?
I see that you did some clearing and painting over the weekend? That's a good start.What are your plans for today?
One of mine is to complete the insurance form to claim back the cost of dog's vet treatment. Hope I've not left it too late. xx

Good Morning Louisa,

It is damp and grey here too. Heavy rain and thunder forecast for later!
I slept okay but was awake early again.
Just when you think it is drying up underfoot we had a load more rain!
So still muddy for dog walking.
Yes I did do some clearing and painting over the weekend. Will try and do some more today.
Have to arrange to have my hair done as starting to look like the dogs!
I am sure you will be fine with your pet insurance claim.
I better go and get showered as I haven't achieved much after waking up so early.
Have a good day xx

Hi Hush. Sorry you've been a bit low. I feel the same at the moment. I thought the lighter evenings might have lifted my spirits but alas not yet.

I 've been away for the weekend and DH came to stay with DD and the dog. Part of me secretly hoped that he'd come to realise what he's letting go but no. He's back in his room again. I feel as low as I did when he first left. I believe he thinks I should be going out more and having fun - probably to stop him feeling guilty. I did try to talk to him in the car yesterday (so he couldn't escape ) and he says that he understands! He didn't say any more than that. I ended up drinking too much wine after he left, making a very emotional phone call to my friend and breaking down in front of DD. Feel as if I'm back to square one but with less hope. Still can't understand him going when he's got nothing to go to. Doesn't do much for the confidence I can tell you!

Also I did post on that other thread where the women aren't in awful marriages but want to leave their husbands. I won't be doing that again.

Hey Ho. Today is the start of a hopefully better week for us all xx

Hi Madame,
Sorry that you are feeling low too.
A bit of sun would be nice today but it doesn't look as though we are going to get it!
I am sorry that you feel that you are back to square one. I felt like that on Saturday. I cried the whole day and evening. I just cannot see the end to this pain. All my MN friends assure me that it will get better and I am hoping the same for you. These men are so selfish! How can he understand how you feel?

You stick with us on this thread. We will support you all we can.
Let's hope this week will be better.
Take care xx💐