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Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

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tanyadm · 08/01/2016 22:57

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin
  3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens
  5. Trust your gut instinct
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  8. If it's not fun- stop
  9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.
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SquareRootOf314 · 16/01/2016 11:42

gast enjoy the date with Teach! It sounds promising too.

SquareRootOf314 · 16/01/2016 11:49

ps Exclusion clause. Grin Trills answer better than silence! (in response to the negging text).

tanyadm · 16/01/2016 12:02

Wow, I've a lot of catching up to do with your exploits! Busy at work yesterday, and horrible cold bug, so lemsip and duvet today.

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JollyXmasJumper · 16/01/2016 12:06

Happy Saturday all!*
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Gast did you agree on a specific time or just on the evening? You can always says you have an errand to do/to drop by a friend's or whatever and either tell him you are freefrom this time onwards or say you will have to push back half an hour or so. I use it all the time when I need confirmation.. Haha

Waving wow, looks like this one is such a nice catch not How about replying a "I am as boring as your message is rude. So, yeah,boring as hell" ?

Tea & Handy - sorry looks like you two ran a practice last night haha. It has not happened to me yet (though Popcorn was not too far from making me is job counsellor) but I think I would be tempted to make a snarky comment on how much more than risotto and chianti a shrink makes.

Scarf I perfectly see how you feel but I do not think you are leading him on. WMLB would tell you that he is perfectly aware that you are not attracted to him and that is precisely why he chose to chase you down to prove you wrong. Let him hunt the moose (sorry Grin). Perhaps he will manage to convince you, or not.

Lacoba haha looks like someone needs a cold shower. Enjoy your date with Diamond, hope it goes well!!!

Now following up in MrIKEA, he said he was happy to reschedule but has not offered an actual date yet. I am definitely not doing the asking out this time so either he will man up or there will not be a second date. He is quite a character, pretty nerdy and shy and I find that there is good vibe between us. He is not a native speaker though mind you neither am I and so communication is relatively hard as we both like humor and his English is not good enough for that! Argh, this is frustrating.

Other irons in the fire include a hot musician (FINALLY), four "nice guys" (including SappyEmoji), and MrHandcuffsBlushGrin. I still need to schedule first dates with all of them. This is so much work!

SquareRootOf314 · 16/01/2016 12:24

Could you do two a night? Like 7-8.55 and then round the corner, 9.05 til 11. That'd cut down on babysitting costs too! Jolly I would never have known that English not your native language! You must be French Canadian!? I am joking. I say that because of the moose analogy. French Canadian popped in to my head. What's his first language?

tanyadm · 16/01/2016 12:37

I have got one promising iron and a couple that are so so. Promising one, works for a charity, from Yorkshire but lives here, very sweet and articulate. At the nice slow introductory chat stage. Wondering why I am mostly drawn to Northern-English artistic types!

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TooSassy · 16/01/2016 12:57

Happy Saturday you lovely lovely people. I second Handy's comment. Properly luffs you guys! Grin

Need to play thread catch up and see who is doing what.

I have a blissfully lazy / chilled weekend planned. DC's are with their dad, I am shattered (how rubbish is Jan...) and nowt more strenuous planned than Apple TV bingeing/ trips to the kitchen!

eloquent · 16/01/2016 13:25

So, i've wittled my 16 down to 5, then also my "bears", so that's enough to be getting on with.

Do you lot ever get guys weirdo's wanting you to be their lifestyle sub? Or to cuck them? I'm getting sick of it haha.

WavingNotDrowning · 16/01/2016 13:34

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 16/01/2016 13:59

So I messaged him & he's confirmed 7pm. I said I was looking forward to it & he said ditto Grin

This is tonight's planned outfit (with black jeans) ok or are the shoes OTT? I'm so excited/nervous/terrified!

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RedMapleLeaf · 16/01/2016 14:18

I like them. Do you know how tall he is?

JollyXmasJumper · 16/01/2016 14:19

Looks perfect for a Saturday night date Gast, love these shoes BTW!

SquareRootOf314 · 16/01/2016 14:20

oh boy, I haven't had anybody offering to be my slave! I'd tell them to make me a cup of tea and then clean the bathroom.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 16/01/2016 14:34

He's 1.74m which I think is about 5ft8? I'm only 5ft0 so there's no danger of me towering over anyone!

I've had people offering to be my sub, but I'm not sure I can be arsed with all that!

eloquent · 16/01/2016 14:48

It's odd isn't it.
I did sub a guy for about a week. But he decided he was a dom after all and we lost touch as he went back to London.

I did seriously look into the whole sub/dom thing as the reality of if intrigues me. But it isn't for me.

gast that looks great! And those shoes are gorgeous!

HandyWoman · 16/01/2016 15:07

Ooh those shooooes they are gorgeous

Have a lovely time!!

Trills · 16/01/2016 15:10

Sounds like you have a good social life anyway Waving - any man would have to demonstrate that he actually enhances your life!

Gast the shoes look great as long as you feel confident and comfortable in them. The top is very pretty.

I'm out for birthday drinks with a friend tonight - mixed group and I won't know many people so hope there might be a man or two to flirt with.

Here's my outfit.

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HandyWoman · 16/01/2016 15:35

Gorgeous Trills have a good night and hopefully a chance to hone your flirting skills into the bargain!

PJs and sofa time for me

SquareRootOf314 · 16/01/2016 15:57

Lovely, looks very Ted Baker.

Trills, after all of this, this hoop we're all jumping through, it'd be lovely if one of us succumbed to a romance through more conventional channels!

SquareRootOf314 · 16/01/2016 16:01

Gast I'm short too, so nobody is going to be shorter than me, but there's something crucial in the proportions don't you think?. I could easily really fancy somebody short if he was athletic, lean not skinny. Or if they go too far and try to beef up to compensate then it's back to no way again. Or short and plump, it's like double dose of plump. Am I awful?

MyGastIsFlabbered · 16/01/2016 16:15

I'm usually attracted to lean, athletic types, which is totally hypocritical of me seeing as I'm neither lean nor athletic. Steroid-fuelled body builder types really don't do it for me.

SquareRootOf314 · 16/01/2016 16:20

who isn't attracted to lean athletic types I guess. Does anybody really prefer that steroid caricature of a muscle man look??

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 16/01/2016 17:16

God, why is it only just gone 5? I've just had a long soak in the bath but time seems to have stopped!

And could someone give me a gentle kick up the arse...I'm too embarrassed to go to my local shop for condoms...I'm not saying I'm definitely going to DTD but would like to be prepared in case. I've just realised the ones I have expired last month Blush

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