Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

I was just thinking how long we'd have to wait for your update.

Talking about condoms, do you talk about safe sex before having sex or wait until it's actually happening?

Like, not actually happening, but you know.

Usually if it's a hook up I bring it up fairly early on, even before we meet. I haven't mentioned it to Teach as I get the feeling it's not just a hook up (hope so anyway!) but if it looks like he's coming back for 'coffee' I will mention it before we're naked.

One guy I was chatting too on a purely hook up level asked if I insisted on safe sex, when I said yes he said 'oh well at least we didn't waste too much time' and unmatched me

Snort!

Yes I do seem to find the princes!

Well I went to the shop & was thankfully served by someone I've not seen before but I did have a little chuckle when he commented on me bringing a bag and I tried to say 'I like to be prepared' but as the words were coming out of my mouth he picked up the condoms and I just stuttered rubbish I think

gast and trills your outfits are FAB!!!

waving do they have anything on their profiles? My openers usually started with something personal. I didn't bother with overly witty and got a response from all of them.

red great question. I absolutely would discuss it before getting down to it. Not practising safe sex is not an option. Plus I'm not actually on any form of contraception. Which my girlfriends have been giving me a hard time about. I just don't want to mess with my hormones on top of everything else going on.

What do the rest of you do???

My girlfriends, slightly older than me, were aghast that I would mention it in advance

I thought it was an obvious thing to do.

They said if I insisted on a condom then I should lie about being on the pill.

Argh, he's just messaged me to say he'll be a bit late so I'll be sat at home for a bit longer fretting about how I look (feeling fat and a bit mutton-y)

Gast & 314 you are wrong if you think there is no way any date could be shorter than you: a long time ago I did not bother checking height because I am barely 5"2.I agreed to go on a first date with a surfer, a really jacked guy. He looked gorgeous in his pictures. When I arrived at the bar, dressed up from work and wearing my stilettos, turned out he was incredibly short. Like dwarf kind of short. I think the top of his head was just about reaching my boobs. Worst part is that I felt too bad and stayed for two drinks with him. Then he walked a bit with me and tried to kiss me. FOR WHICH PURPOSE HE WAS ON HIS TOES, HEAD LEANING BACK. Soooo, here is my dwarf fail. BEWARE!!!

I have the copper coil in which I had put in when I was in a relationship (11 months - lovely guy - copious amounts of amazing and incredible sex.... sigh...)

...and BACK IN THE ROOM

ahem. So yep. That's my backup but I absolutely insist on safe sex and would insist on a trusted, exclusive man and a full STI screen before considering otherwise.

But my chances of going anywhere near a naked man at the moment are slim to none.

Starting to regret binning off my hookup guy (I got scared!)

Grr. How late?

Im 44 so wouldnt get prg. I will override this feeling obviously but insisting on a condom when too old to get pregnant feels a bit like saying "your knob is riddled"
Ridiculous i know

Would you want to the results Handy??

Wow jolly!
Awkward!!

Plus would totally have the convo prior to any nakedness.

And why lie about being on the pill? Your standards are your standards and you shouldn't have to justify them!!!!

I can DEFINITELY reassure you that you look fab!

314's point about riddling was the argument about the pill deception.

Ok, well fingers crossed I get as far as having this conversation.

U r gorgeous gast. So young!!
U r brave with yr identity there!

Ive kind of read the whole thread! You ladies are all so confident, how do you do it? Ive arranged date number 1 for next Saturday!

Ps, you fab in the photo :)

I'm 41!

He's only going to be about 15 mins late but it's extra stress as I was about to leave and now I'm sat here!
I'll probably ask MN to remove my pic shortly, it only needs to be there for a moment

Gast you look so lovely - off the shoulders, such a lovely look

The riddled thing. Well yes but I would rather be realistic than get HPV/Herpes/HIV FFS!!!! And it they are offended then they are an immature twat. Hence convo needs to take place before anyone gets naked. Part of the assessment of that person's values.

And yes I'd want to see results! Within reason. Although my last chap had had loads of tests in hosp for loads of stuff and I knew that STI'a would have been flagged because they tested him for everything. Plus I trusted him.

Have a fab night Gast

Looking fab Gast,hope it goes well