Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Welcome Chatty

Ghast how do you feel re MrCS?

Waving so very proud of your WMLB ways.

314 have another lovely date and do be careful with Bear - men wit their 'easygoing' ways can reel us in....

Sassy I'm still here - work is busy & lost my momentum with the last two duds that needed blocking/deleting and now left communicating with some very plodding messagers. I actually sort of have four on the go but only the prospect of one date....

And after getting my fingers burnt am refusing to become emotionally attached to a bunch of email messages IYSWIM.

That's not to say I'm not harbouring high hopes for tanya tomorrow eve!!

Enjoy the weekend all....

Loving the Expert Bitch coming out in you, Waving!

Yep, good luck with your date, 314.

Handy, you're right, a bunch of messages isn't 'real' and I keep having words with myself to that effect! Real is tomorrow and I am so scared and replanning my outfit every five minutes, as you do!

So, last night...

Met in a pub and got that connection right away - really don't want to tempt fate or anything like that but it was so easy to be with Mr Blond! I think I'm hilarious in my messages to people, but not everyone seems to get my humour - the first thing he said to me was 'You're so funny, you really make me laugh.'

And it just got better. Lots of flirting and light touches, then we went to another pub and had our first kiss under an umbrella in the rain. Ended up getting more or less thrown out of that pub because the staff wanted to go home, so went back to his and DTD which, I am pleased to report, was x 100

Got a taxi back to mine, he messaged me to check I got home safely. Then sent another one this morning asking if I wanted to go out for lunch.

So I don't think date 4 will be happening - sorry Mr Pole. Realise this could all go tits up, but my heart wouldn't be in meeting anyone else for now.

Have skimmed the above thread gast - are you sure you are actually on a dating site and not in some sort of specialist chat room?!? Some of the messages you receive are horrendous!

waving good job - how will you feel if Soho starts upping his game?

Any decisions of the outfit yet tanya, or is there going to be a shopping trip planned for today

Definitely the more the merrier [chatty]

Need to go to work now and lug some boxes around - annual housekeeping of 10000s of files - so that will keep my mind off lunch, don't want to get too excited.

Apologies to those I've missed in this - doesn't mean I'm not there holding your hand virtually!

That sounds like a perfect date, Twiggy and what a contrast to the other one!

I ordered new jeans last night that will come today, and a slinky body to make me feel a bit less physically wobbly. (Can't do anything about the internal wobbles).

So it's between those and some Karen Millen skinny coated jeans I already have, and probably three different tops. At least I will get some ironing done out of my indecision.

Some feminist I'm being this week!

Ah I'm really excited for you tanya it's part of the fun - nothing unfeminist about feeling like - you know - a woman.....

Oh Twiggy that sounds like a dream date!! I'm glad though that you aren't available for lunch though because it's all to easy to fast forward through dating into that place marked 'relationship'. I think i have natural inner bitch tendencies!!!! Lugging boxes round will help keep you grounded. And give you plenty of opportunities to reminisce on a romantic evening. You must be v v tired though!!!

Does anyone else find that ZOOSK is an utter pain in the backside to use??????? Constantly swiping people then discovering they live 200miles away. Plus I don't get the chat permission thing because people can totally get in touch. And it's just a general faff - Hate it!!!!!

Feeling rough with a cold so is a good job no dates this weekend tries to convince self

sounds like you had a great night twiggy It's so lovely when somebody gets you.

Handy I think my dream was warning me the same thing. I often get really vivid dreams and they recur until I interpret the meaning correctly. Sorry if this is tmi, but I dreamt I was lying on my front in bed and bear was lying on top of me, with one arm over my arm and the other across my front, and it felt nice, he about to come inside me and I looked around a bit and it wasn't him, it was some shabby, dirty, smelly man with broken teeth and he was from a third world country. Naked, in my bed. I don't mean to offend, this was just how he appeared in the dream. So I tried to get up but I was sort of trapped, just by the position, but he reacted as though he were Bear. Just "what's up, you ok?" and his voice was the same, and the same accent......... and I felt so confused and then I felt like I owed it to this gross man to sleep with him. Luckily I managed to wake myself up first. Sorry for the downer. Fine now. Propped up in bed with a litre of tea. Phew.

Date chat later! sorry if that dream stuff was totally inappropriate.

That dream was last night btw

Thanks for the welcome lovely ladies. A quick run down on my old life.
Mr country boy. Started off ok (don't they all) 40 nice chatty kind of funny then tells me he's a virgin and "looking for someone to learn on" .... Nope blocked
Buzz first message was his number asking me to phone and ask him to tongue f* my ass but only when his wife wasn't home!!! ....blocked
Mr photographer ah he played a good game seemed normal if a little bit dirty but not too bad got my number then decided liked to take selfies of the oddest looking cock I've ever seen ..... Blocked
Mr loud funny gets me makes me howl laughing but a little hot and cold not met mostly down to cicumstances on my side.
Mr teacher we've had 3 dates and he's sweet and funny and caring. Spends hours kissing like being a teenager when your lips are tender the next day not dtd yet but next time I'm a sure thing lol.

Loving all your antics twiggy he sounds lovely.

Chatty I'm intrigued by the odd cock, but glad I'm not getting the sort of messages that you and Gast are. Teacher sounds good though!

Right, you lot can be my decision makers, the choices from my existing wardrobe are:

debenhams.scene7.com/is/image/Debenhams/007020510155_3?wid=1250&hei=1250&qlt=95
This top, but the one I've got is a dark plum colour www.oasis-stores.com/oasis/fcp-product/5525103
OR
This top with a cardigan over it www.lyst.co.uk/clothing/french-connection-harlan-top-black/

Also "Intrigued by the odd cock" is a phrase I hope never to utter again in my life.

I agree with tanya btw. Nothing anti-feminist about being a woman. 50% of people are allowed to be women.

I'm out with H tonight yes. At 8. Looking forward to it.

Waving don't let the X get in your head and ruin your date they are so good at that!! I hope you don't mind me saying but I think mr soho is a player and possibly an expert one at that. Enjoy your date with mr writer. I really do like teacher but I'm trying to play it cool I don't know why he hasn't given me any reason not to trust him but I'm half expecting him to be an arse ....possibly down to the X

I'd go for the maroon one, it's a flattering colour if you haveI love the grace top. I looked at that, but it could look a bit prissy. I nearly bought that top though! so I do like it. The french connection top woudl be nicer if you didn't need a cardigan.

if you have brown hair I typed. Where did the brown hair go1

Tanyadm. Think very large mushroom with a very short stalk or a door knob then you have the idea haha

Aye, it is more the "what shall I wear so that this (good looking, sensitive, clever, fit) man approves of me" thing that I am doing that is falling slightly outside of my personal comfort zone right now!

waving enjoy lunch with the writer

I have dark reddy brown hair, so maroon works well for me. The FC top is probably the sexiest of the three, but it is Scotland. And freezing right now.

Enjoy, Waving, look forward to progress update.

Just had to put a complete knob in his place on OKC. Fssss.

What did he say to you!

This was the exchange. Completely blank profile, no photos, no info, other than age and city.

Knob: "Morning,

Just joined the online dating world. You look absolutely stunning :-) x

Must confess thought of you inbuilt riding gear could be a distraction. Though am sure me in my rugby kit could distract you back x"

Me: "Not sure I can make anything of a judgement on your profile.

Anyway, I have met someone that I am seeing tomorrow, in the interests of honesty. Good luck with your search."

I've been quite lucky with seemingly genuine and seriously erudite messagers so far, apart from a few notable exceptions.

Morning all!
Tanya the black top I think. I like to show a little cleavage, or wear something slightly sheer, or the old rule of thumb: legs or cleavage, neither both at same time.
Twiggy!!! Knew it!! Last night sounds a lot more fun than previous, when you seeing him next?
waving good luck! Is it writer today?
chatty and gast what sites are you on?? I've never had an opening line like that, nor cock shots. Do you not mind the smut? if you don't then fair play and enjoy it I say.
314 that dream sounds like you think Bear is acting and deep down could be someone different, but I'm just guessing.
handy zoosk did not seem to bring up quality matches in my experience, bit like POF. Anyone on match? Worth the fee? Eharmony have a free trial I think.
Looking forward to hearing from Curly today, fingers crossed