Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

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We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

choccy they are great!!!!

DereksCat nothing wrong with specifying which age range you prefer!

I prefer same age (44) or slightly younger or a couple of years older, preferably taller (5 ft 10 minimum) and preferably non bald...

I think casual chat with Mr Aviator is the way to go....

BornToFolk personally I think flirting can go really wrong... You can do too much coy glances etc... I think be yourself, ask questions, be interested in them. Otherwise you can try to hard I think. I have been told years ago by male friends to be elusive, give them something to make them wonder eg don't tell them everything (which is what I used to do years ago) - so I do try that now, and it works.

Date 2 with Teach is on Saturday

Ooh hooray hooray hooray bet you can't wait!!!!

Yeah gast!!!!!

Hi Balders

Welcome to the joys of online dating. It is up to you what you want to tolerate. For me if someone started straight away like that with the sextalk I would just ignore - but that's me they are clearly showing you what they are after.
One guy I had just started chatting to one night asked if I wanted him to come round???? Instant block

Thanks for your comments. I politely but firmly told him I was uncomfortable with the thread of the convo & i hoped he found what he was looking for but I was out. He said fair enough.

Thanks for the book recommendation Handywoman, I'll definitely have a look at it. I need all the help I can get getting back into the saddle

Friday has just tole "i have a spare room at mine if you wanted to crash here" do they really think we're that daft?
Haha.

Balders, good for you. Don't take no shit!

Excited for you gast (flags waving) woo hoo! X

Thanks i would really appreciate your girl opinion on this! :)
Ok would you say 9 inches and on the thick side is tooo big??
And you don't have to answer if it makes you feel too uncomfortable or shy... The reason i am asking is because i was under the impression that it was too big after some past relationships and from some online forums i read saying that anything over 7 inches would be too big and anything bigger wouldn't be enjoyable and some said it would even be a deal breaker....
bollocks

Eloquent LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have to admit (hangs head in shame) there is a side to me that secretly enjoys the smutty messages sometimes...clearly there is something wrong with me.

I like a bit of cheeky innuendo, but that as an opener?
waving turn off the notification that shows people are online. I did it because I was fed up with " who you talking too, why aren't you messaging me" etc, but it also means I don't obsess over them too!

Anyone got a date over the next couple of days?

I'm still smarting from my Sunday date not replying!

Morning laydees!

Yes red I have two dates on Thursday.

waving one of the dates I am seeing on Thursday has his turned off. So I can't see last online etc. But when he is online I can see that he is online and I can see when he's typing a reply. It may differ from phone to phone but on an iPhone that's what I see.

I couldn't care less when someone is online last tbh. I have a host of family/ friends/ school mums groups/ friends groups on whatsapp. So I can be in the app a fair bit and feel no need to message anyone I am dating. I just assume the men I am messaging are the exact same. I think the older we get the more chilled people get about this stuff. mrfrench was messaging morning and night after date 1 and quite honestly it put me off a little. No one should be that keen after one date.

but I haven't DTD with any of them and I think that can massively change the dynamic.

scarf does he know how to contact you/ track you down? If he knows your name/ mutual friends etc then I wouldn't pursue in all honesty.

eloquent ROFL at 9inches. I've never measured a guy I've been with. So have zero idea of 7 vs 9. I will however say this, really well hung/ large guys can give me cystitis quite easily. So my preference is just enough but not too much.

paddington nothing wrong with you. We're all different and horses for courses.

314 are you the only one on a date tonight?

We need a new thread! Who's stepping up?

We're 3 posts away from being full.

I've got a date tomorrow with mr no speak and one Friday with Mr spare room. I was hoping for an invite back to his bed spare room. So yeay, haha.

I've just sent London an essay telling him its over. He just can't give me what I want. And its killing me!

Well done waving and NO sneaking it on to check when he was last on!!!!

MrsL has he still not been in touch? I really do hate all this haha.

I'm on android and you can choose to have both the "online" and "last seen" on or off.

I'll do a new thread! oh the notoriety !!