Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

I'll ask him & report back!

314, I agree with your approach and think I might reply to a couple of messages I have ignored, for distraction and self-protection!

Yes, one message from H today, and I replied. That's it.

But just to check in is enough for me. I had work today today. Not that I was busy. But now I'm going to tidy up and order a thai takeaway and relax. I'll be looking forward to twiggy's loo update! Hope it goes better than last night!

waving it's weird, just before H contacted me I had had a long word with myself and said, right, you're not having much luck here not with the right type of men, what are going to compromise on ? and I thought 'no' to older men, 'no' to men with boring profiles, 'no' to men who look unattractive even in their photo, no to overweight men. Do I sound awful? so I reduced my minimum height to 5'8'' thinking that would mean 5'7" really :-p

Evening all!

So we only have one date tonight? twiggy best of luck!!!

mississippi that's good re H staying in touch.

waving did you ever decide re the hols with soho? And don't give the unmatch another thought.

gast brilliant response!

prizey you go girl! When you seeing him?

tanya Happn is packed!!!

Re height. I'm as tall as waving. Not even considering anyone under 6ft short term. Shallow yes. Don't care. It's my non negotiable. I like climbing them!

314 did you ever see this thread? http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2534440-OLD-and-your-personal-no-nos?pg=1&order= It gives some good ideas for what to avoid....for example I now avoid men called Lee
Thanks sassy I deflected and said 'it would be lovely for us to meet up, I'd like that' bitchy enough? Did you like my use of the word 'us'?
Can't wait for Twiggys loo update...hope tonight's is more successful than last night's. It has to be!! Good luck Twiggy!

Just got reply, saying hopefully we can try and sort out something for next week, I have kids next weekend.....and now he wants to WhatsApp

prizey that thread is brilliant!!! I'm so new to OLD....it's all an education!!!

Slaves.
Cock shots
Slagging off the ex (seriously???)

Who knew.....

Oops missed your last post prizey why wouldn't you move to whatsapp? What's your concern?

Okay ladies, it's date 3 of 4. Not had a chance to catch up with all your activity, will probably read the thread when I'm silently crying into my vodka later. Hope everyone is sticking to the WMLB rules - and obviously bending them when approprate!

I'll post from the loo - surely it can't be as bad as last night....

Sassy it's a good thread isn't it? So funny and such an eye opener.
I don't know about the WhatsApp thing, I have to give them my phone number, which is also my work number I'm self employed work from home and it would take them right to my website if they Googled it, but I'm sure it would be fine and I'm just being paranoid. Also I've found that when you move to WhatsApp they start fishing for dirty talk and photos, which I'm not into. But maybe I've just been unlucky, I guess I can always block them cant I? Well I've just told him unless he wants to meet during day, I'm not free until weekend after next, let's see if he's keen enough to wait until then. I don't have evening childcare so it's a bit of a pain, to arrange dates and I live fairly out of London, where most of my matches are from. So it's a bit difficult.

God speed Twiggy!

Fingers crossed Twiggy

Look forward to a much better loo update

twiggy I have sooo much respect for you right now! Looking forward to an awesome loo update!

prizey hmmm, I'd be reluctant too in your shoes in that case.

Anyway you can hold off on switching to whatsapp until you've done f2f?

What's f2f??

Face to face?

Yup. Face to face.

Twiggy, your persistence is awesome. Fingers crossed after last night's non-starter!

Aaah yes that's a good idea. As long as it doesn't make me look too uptight for not giving my number out?

Maybe I should get a cheapie pay as you go for OLD?

So fed up witty married men contacting me on OKCupid. I know they're married as they have no face pic and then a few weeks later they've deleted their profile! What's wrong with these men..??

Either a cheapie PAYG prizey or simply say you don't switch to whatsapp because it's a work phone. That doesn't make you appear uptight.

Given your number links so easily to the rest of your life I wouldn't give it out either.

Yes you are right sassy my home address is on the website and business directories. Google hangouts is an option as it just uses email or just plain email.

I thought as much prizey. 110% do NOT give that number out until you've met them. Personal safety and all that.

I'd get the cheap phone and use that until you know someone much better