Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

U r making me half regret to agreeing to meet saturday. But i will / am busy .
Thanks for reminding me what is in the book.

re whatsapp

I think it shows you online if you haven't exited out of the app properly, on a cheap phone anyway. I have a samsung not an iphone and I noticed that Bear who also has a cheap(ish) phone too, it looks like he's on viber ALL the time, and last night I was saying good night to H and I noticed that my DD was ''online'' except she really wasn't. She was asleep.

toosassy I think there are some men who would be put off by the thoughts of you concurrently dating other men. Some might think, well, what the hell am I doing here and leave you to it. I see that it's good that they know you have other options though and that part I will be mindful of, but I think H's type would back away if he thought he was just on a rotation. Bear's type on the other hand would be relieved so there's only a type of man in between those two types that would be 'motivated' in the right way knowing he's Mr Wednesday night. I hope I'm making sense here.

Have definitely learned a lesson from last night. I wasn't overinvested because I always thought he was too young for me, but he certainly wasn't what he seemed so will be proceeding with caution in future.

waving your experiences with Soho are so similar to mine. I'll call him Coffee, so he can become BFFs with Soho, Popcorn and Bear; they seem to have similar MOs. I saw him when he asked because I was free and I wanted to. Seemed stupid to pretend I was off for a yoga session when I was actually watching a box set back-to-back and eating mince pies - why wouldn't I want to go out and have a social life?

There is such a fine line between letting someone know he's not your only option for now/letting him think he's just one of many.

If a guy I was talking to was doing what I'm doing and seeing four of us over as many days I think I'd be a little tbh, but if he then 'chose' me I'd be pleased that he had seen something in me that he thought was worth pursuing, rather than he was with me because I was his only choice iyswim.

Date 3 of 4 beckons with Mr Blond. Feeling slightly jaded, will need to give myself a good talking to today to get in the right frame of mind.

Coffee has just texted so clearly wants a shag tomorrow, am tempted to say yes because he's VERY good I know where I stand with him and don't harbour any hopes of a relationship at all.

Prizey, so I caved and swapped numbers with Bee, despite what I said last night. Quick Google, what little there is stacks up with what he's told me, so doesn't appear to be a crank.

He texted me last night so I had his number, and after to say goodnight, then a sweet text a little while ago.

He's either playing the game expertly, or genuinely lovely, I so hope the latter.

Though I realised I'm inadvertently channelling McBitch, the date has been on my availability terms, I tend not to message until he does. Not because I'm game playing, just my innate fear of rejection!

Not surprised you're tired Twiggy. But you're half way there. You're at the 13 mile point

I know what you mean. I just want to be straight forward enough to say ''that suits fine!" because I know I don't drop friends, rearrange things for a man. If a man thought I did that he'd be wrong. If I'm free I can make it, if I've got something ''real life'' on I can't. I do see dating as secondary to the essential stuff.

I definitely wouldn't drop plans, my friends, my kids and my horse come first! And wouldn't want a man that would think I would be at his beck and call all the time.

Plus I work for a voluntary organisation, so I work out of hours quite a lot. Actually, how the hell am I going to have time for dating?!

It's so interesting isn't it.

I never indicated I was dating lots of other people. I have no idea how he made such an assumption. I have a full time job, a house to run and DC's that I have 70%-80% of the time. How he thought I had the time is beyond me.

I've ditched bumble, just not enough users on there. Switched to Happn.

Who's got upcoming dates this weekend/ tonight? Back to living vicariously via you all!

tanya I think you are playing a blinder and Bee sounds like a sort! keep doing what you are doing, yes and definitely keep in mind not to drop things for any man, I've been there, done that, now picking up the pieces, never, ever, again.
Meanwhile....in Prizeyland. Mr Curly (the only one I'm vaguely excited about) has messaged me today with pleasantries, so I've obviously past his height restrictions. Yay! Go me and my height!

I wonder if he suffers from a bad back? And the 6ft of him wouldn't be able to bend down to kiss anything over 1ft....

*passed not past - duh!

You're doing us proud tanya, wondering now if I should just go for one man rather than have about six on the go at any one time.

Danger is that I'll get too involved emotionally and will take it badly if he turns out to be a twunt.

Well done for passing the height test prizey!

Maybe Mr Curly LIKES cute wee women, Prizey.

Aye, Sassy, Bumble is just too new, I got an email that I was one of the 'early' users in my area, so I'm only getting matches from 150 miles away. So....what's the point! Too slim pickings.

Thanks Prizey and Twiggy! I didn't mean to get so focused in on one man like this, I'm registered with three sites, for goodness sake! But it's just sort of happened. The middle line of your post, Twiggy, is exactly the danger I'm very much in.

Twiggy, I must say I find it difficult talking to more than one at once, it gets too stressful for me, but it does happen sometimes. One or two at a time is my preference.
Tanya I think we've looked at so many profiles and seen/spoken to so many douches that when someone half decent comes along its like a striking gold, but we still need to determine if it's fools gold or not, no wonder you are worried about investing too early, but remember you are still determining if it's real, and if it's not then there is still the real stuff out there, so it's really no biggie if it doesn't turn out quite as you hoped.
Look at me getting all philosophical, think the lack of sex is starting to affect me .....is it o'clock yet?

Actually what I did was reply that I'd give myself 10/10 because I was fucking awesome at it, then blocked him Childish I know but I'd had a couple of glasses of wine.

I'm sulking because Mr CS has gone quiet and he was the one I really thought phwoar over. I've a few more irons in the fire as it were but no-one that I'm really that into. I'm not going to delete CS yet but might need help later on not to message him again.

Waving unmatch! I do it all the time, quick and painless, far kinder that stringing it out with more convo or explaining why you don't think you are suited. Do it!

Gast I love your answer! how long has CS been now since he last messaged? Sometimes they leave it ages to see your reaction. Hang in there.

It's only been 2 days but normally we exchange a lot of messages daily. Plus we were meant to meet up last Saturday but he had his kids. Plus his picture keeps popping up on POF.

Currently exchanging messages with a 29 year old stripper in Wolverhampton, no chance of it going anywhere but it still boosts the ego!

Prizey, that's not a height difference! I am only 5'2" and my x was 6'. It's not been intentional at all but 'the teacher' (a real life bf, thefirst after my x) was 6' and Bear is 6' . That didn't make me feel weird but I have to admit, I feel like H (6'2") must think I'm a midget. I don'tworry about that with men of 6'. Not to be a bitch but when Iwas setting off on date with H, Bear was here and for some reason asked what height H was and when I said 6'2" he was put back in his box I think. Bear, although he is the one who rejected me , then said like a little boy "I'm the perfect height for you" andthen like a man thinking about sex (that'd be the regular type) said "I'm the perfect weight for you too" I laughed though. So anyway prizey my point is 5'4 and 6' - there is nothing to worry about there!!! NOTHING.

Ha ha gast ha ha. He'll be rubbing his paws together constructing his reply and then he won't be able to contact you.

twiggy I think the way you are doing it will protect you from giving too much of a shit. You will be so dying for a night in now on sunday night!?

I think I ought to go back to the site and nurture something else so that I don't get too invested in to H and so that if/when it dies, I have another in reserve

Sounds ruthless but it's the only way to protect yourself from caring.

Thanks 314 ive not been out with anyone over 5.10 ever...despite me liking taller men, so I'm rather excited at this prospect. He's just texted to say he's having a quiet weekend and we should meet in real life sometime ( with obligatory smiley face) Bitch response needed please ladies.
I agree 314 with regards to irons in the fire, it does help when one goes tits up.
Oh Gast that is hilarious! I wonder if he does the full monty