Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

This jumper, but with black shoes, dark denim skinnies.

I do have a wine coat. Hmm.

Gast, I've had that too! I messaged somebody ages ago because his interests seemed similar. I got a ''I sincerely wish you good luck in your search" message which seemed worse than being ignored as you say!

But then later he changed his photo to one of himself standing in front of the mirror showing off his 'abs' (rather unimpressive) and I thought, yes, you're right. We're not compatible. I thinkhe could tell from my profile I was after a relationship.

Oooooh 314 and Twiggy bet you two will knock their socks off. Outfits sound perfect. Are we to expect loo updates?
Oh mygast that is unnecessary, ignoring would have been preferable. I'd be tempted to write back with a sassy comment, but that's just me
I've blocked all the unsuitables/undercover perverts now, and have been messaging a lovely guy this pm, he's very cute looking. I'd definitely meet him if he asks. He's just asked me how tall I am (he's 6ft) - that's a first. Hope my 5.4 doesn't put him off

New to this, will enjoy reading the whole thread once the children in bed. Good luck to those on dates tonight. Have a question for you all that I hope you can give me some perspective on. I had been with my husband around 20 years, finally separated about a year ago. Marriage had been awful for years and i tried to finish it many times. It's been a bloody hard year with ex's mental health issues. I have lovely friends who want to see me move on a bit.

around a month ago they persuaded me to try and start living. One of them introduced me to friend who said he was ready to date after being badly hurt a few years ago. We talked for hours, got on great, ended in passionate kissing - probably sounds silly but I felt so alive again. He asked me out to dinner which was a few weeks later as he works away (I know this to be true). Again we got on brilliantly. Great evening, more lovely kissing. Then..... Nothing. I text him first - twice - and each time got a fairly chatty nice reply but no talk of seeing each other again. I feel such a fool, I was chatty, honest, open (ie I was myself!). It's not so much that I mind if he didn't like me, I'm cross at myself for my lack of judgement. I really thought it went well - clearly not! I'm dying to text him and just ask why he doesn't want to see me again (in not so blunt a fashion) but friends have said its his loss and I shouldn't do that. But I'm dying to know why he's not interested! I could understand if it was awkward but it really wasn't. What would you do? It's certainly put me off and knocked my confidence that's for sure. If a date can go so well and you still get knocked back what's the point?! Maybe I'm more fragile for this and not cut out for dating yet. But God I miss sex, I wasn't trying to bloody pin him down and marry him!

Meant too fragile for this!

Tulip my guess is you did nothing wrong whatsoever, daters can be fickle and change their minds. Only they know why. You need to develop a rhino skin. He's not the last man in the world, there are plenty out there, you just need to try and have fun while finding the right one for you.

Ffs, it's like I'm on the Undateables

Oh dear why Twiggy, not like his photo? Or is he weird? Can you make a swift exit?

Oh dear twiggy! I'm quite new to whatsapp, I think I'm missing something, can people tell you're online?!

Yes at the top under name it says 'online' or 'typing' or ' last seen xx mins ago'

That doesn't sound good Twiggy. I'm feeling fairly disheartened this evening. MrCS is on POF instead of talking to me, I made a complete cock up talking to someone else and put my foot in it totally, nobody I've messaged has shown any interest, and I've been messaging people I wouldn't even look twice at normally out of desperation.

Mygast do a constant right swipe on Tinder for a couple of minutes just to remind yourself that you are desirable. You'll get loads of matches, just delete the ones you are not interested in

Mr Curly not come back to me.....maybe I was not the required height

Prizey apparently Tinder has no new matches for me

Widen your area/age preferences.

I'm almost tempted to give MrA another go just for the ego boost. Luckily I deleted his number earlier so I couldn't even if I was honestly tempted.

Mygast have you tried midsummers eve? It's a weird kind of set up, bit like a forum for singles. It's completely free and apparently the longest running online dating site, may be worth a try?

Or happn?

So, I can't go into details about the convos this afternoon with Bee as it became pretty intensely personal on both sides, but in the last message, there were these two bits...

"I'm glad that we've got the ability to communicate really well on this level, so things look very promising when it comes to real life!

So, no pressure, and yes, whatever happens, happens. I feel the same regarding being able to talk the way we have been able to, in such a short time! Really looking forward to meeting you."

I'm so smitten. Don't want to be setting myself up for a fall! I know it's fairly full on, but we're both kind of those sorts of people.

Help, where has the BITCH factor gone on this thread!

Yours stressingly, Apprentice McBitch

does somebody need to read the rules again tanya? he does sound lovely though

The rules have gone out the window and rolled away down the hill with this one, Prizey!

Ha ha....Oh dear.
It happens to the best of us , be careful.

I feel like a bloody teenager, it's ridiculous.