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Either I'm overreacting or he's a shit parent

86 replies

MagersfonteinLugg · 27/06/2015 23:20

Have just spent the last 30 mins cleaning DS2bedroom after he threw up all over the floor, bed, toys etc.
He's been off it all day so not a complete surprise. What did shock me however was DH's reaction. He was in bed watching TV. Threw the door open and said "do you really have to make so much noise!" Then slammed the door shut.
Surely any reasonably caring parent would have offered to help or at least console their child whilst I cleaned?
Or would all darling husbands react like that?
Am really growing to despise this arse with a passion.

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wannabestressfree · 27/06/2015 23:22

Nope he is a massive arse.....

pocketsaviour · 27/06/2015 23:23
Shock

Did he realise that DS2 had been sick? Is it possible he just thought he was messing about?

If not, he's a prize-winning arsehole for sure.

Is this sort of behaviour a regular thing?

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 27/06/2015 23:25

I despise him and I don't even know him

Starlightbright1 · 27/06/2015 23:27

yep shit parent

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MagersfonteinLugg · 27/06/2015 23:33

Yes this is regular behaviour and I am getting royally sick of it.
I was upstairs this afternoon and heard DH shouting downstairs. When I went down DS had vanished. I asked DH where he was. "No idea" he replied. I went outside to Sind DS sitting in the garden crying because DH had shouted at him for spilling his crisps on the sofa. He is extremely sensitive around DH at the best of times so it took me a while to calm him down.
But I was more angry that DH had no idea where he was than anything.

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TinyManticore · 27/06/2015 23:33

He knew his child was sick and you were dealing with it, and his contribution was to complain about the noise? Twat.

wrapsuperstar · 27/06/2015 23:45

Your poor children. How long do you intend to tolerate this?

Hope DS2 feels better soon.

trackrBird · 28/06/2015 00:48

Same as Bitter.

Your husband has a frighteningly callous attitude towards you, and your child.

Don't subject your child to it for too much longer.

wallaby73 · 28/06/2015 07:03

You say your child is "sensitive" around him, i think that translates as "frightened". He sounds like a massive bully. Am really hoping this doesn't develop into "he's in other ways a great dad and they adore / are eachother's world" because nothing can make up for his behaviour which is damaging to your son. He's making him feel humiliation and shame. So damaging.

karbonfootprint · 28/06/2015 07:21

You are not over reacting. Not that it makes any difference, just curious, is this your child's biological father?

patterkiller · 28/06/2015 07:24

He is a bully and your DS sounds frightened of him.

DoreenLethal · 28/06/2015 07:24

Shit husband, and shit parent.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 28/06/2015 07:33

He is a massive arsehat who is only thinking of his own self here.

I have to look at you though as well. What do you get out of this relationship with this man now?.

Why are you still together?. Don't just become royally sick of it; take decisive action now to rid your H from your day to day lives. You're probably afraid of him as well, your son certainly is.

What do you want to teach your son about relationships here?. Do you want your son to think that this is how men and women behave within relationships and for him to think that this is "normal"?. Poor soul is being emotionally harmed by his dad.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 28/06/2015 07:37

Yeah he's a shit parent.
Why are you with him?

Ledkr · 28/06/2015 07:41

He is extremely sensitive around DH at the best of times so it took me a while to calm him down

Sorry, do you mean he is scared of him?
Id fucking leave this idiot today! Sorry.

molyholy · 28/06/2015 08:56

I feel so sorry for your son. You are saying he is 'sensitive' around his dad i.e. scared of him. This bullying is harming his wellbeing. What are you going to do to protect him?

APlaceOnTheCouch · 28/06/2015 09:04

He's a shit bullying selfish parent. You're under-reacting not over-reacting.

goddessofsmallthings · 28/06/2015 09:07

I went outside to find DS sitting in the garden crying because DH had shouted at him for spilling his crisps on the sofa. He is extremely sensitive around DH at the best of times ... and at the worst of times I suspect this poor child is scared to death of his father.

Why are you allowing your dcs to live in fear of your dh? Don't you realise how damaging it is to them?
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LumpySpacedPrincess · 28/06/2015 09:11

You need to protect your kids from this idiot. He will continue as long as you allow him to.

Jacksonyellow · 28/06/2015 09:18

Put your children first. He's a bully and your son sounds frightened of him. Leave him.

Marmaladybird · 28/06/2015 09:21

He sounds very unpleasant.

Couldn't you have asked him to take care of DS, wash/shower him while you cleaned up his room? Did he know he'd been sick?

What happened afterwards? Did you hand him his arse on a plate or are you too scared to confront him?

Floundering · 28/06/2015 09:27

When someone shows you what they are like, believe them.

Your kids deserve better than this. YOU deserve better than this.

saltnpepa · 28/06/2015 09:30

This will get worse, I would be making plans to separate.

MrsEvadneCake · 28/06/2015 09:33

No child should be sensitive around a parent/partner. If your child is afraid and being yelled at for little things like spilling crisps then it is long past time to remove them from this.