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Disturbing footage on phone

113 replies

Cococrazy · 28/04/2015 21:05

I have been suspicious of my partner. So I looked through his phone. I found a video taken a few days ago literally running after a girl, getting right behind her and then video her bum walking. I really don't know what to do or think. It's not actually cheating but it's really weird. I feel odd. How should I be reacting? Think I'm a bit shocked

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BitchPeas · 28/04/2015 21:09

I'd be so shocked I wouldn't know how to react tbh. It's definitely not ok and would disgust me.

How long have you been together? Do you have DCs or live together?

scarletforya · 28/04/2015 21:11

That's scary OP. Very predatory. He was running after her?

I think that's an offence of some kind....

AuntyMag10 · 28/04/2015 21:12

How terrifying for the girl. Predatory behavior and I would be very worried.

MelonBallersAreStrange · 28/04/2015 21:16

Did it seem like she was a random stranger? That would be very weird.

Or did it seem like she was a really good mate he was having a stupid laugh with? Weird if you don't know her and/or don't trust him.

ALaughAMinute · 28/04/2015 21:19

How old is he? If he's a 15 year old kid larking around with a few friends then maybe I can understand.

It's certainly strange behaviour for a grown man, do you know much about his history?

Rebecca2014 · 28/04/2015 21:29

Pervert.

cleanmachine · 28/04/2015 21:31

This is really terrifying behaviour. It's predatory and abusive.

molyholy · 28/04/2015 21:34

That is totally pervy and creepy. Why don't you trust him? Do you live together/have dc's?

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Cococrazy · 28/04/2015 21:37

We have 2 dc together. Just had our 10 yr anniversary. He is 44, I'm 35. He did not know that women and she must have been in her 20s. Fair enough you want to look at another women, that's natural but to video it. That's just not right.

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Berrie1 · 28/04/2015 21:37

Definitely very strange and perverted thing to do. I imagine you're feeling uncomfortable after viewing it.

What made you suspicious about him in the first place OP?

Could this be OW?

Berrie1 · 28/04/2015 21:38

Sorry cross posted.

Was there anything else on his phone that was suspicious?

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Cococrazy · 28/04/2015 21:41

No he didn't know her. He just said something the other night that sounded too honest. We were talking about cheating and he says it is worse when a woman cheats. Said I can put my thing in anything if I have a condom on and it's not as bad as a woman cheating and having a man put his penis where she has had children. Thought it was a really odd comment. Am I right?

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Only1scoop · 28/04/2015 21:42

Yep ....damn right.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 28/04/2015 21:43

Good god he really is a sad deluded twat isn't he? Shock

Mengog · 28/04/2015 21:44

Get rid. I'm a bloke, that is so weird and he has probably cheated.

BumgrapesofWrath · 28/04/2015 21:44

I'm pretty liberal, but your DP sounds odd (at best.) I'd be running for the hills

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Cococrazy · 28/04/2015 21:45

Which bit mengog??

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molyholy · 28/04/2015 21:46

Yes. That is a very odd thing to say.

AnyFucker · 28/04/2015 21:46

Suffering Christ, this man sounds like a criminal as well as an adulterer

I bet he does "upskirt shots" too

ALaughAMinute · 28/04/2015 21:47

He's 44? I am shocked!

What are you going to do? Do you want to leave him?

Berrie1 · 28/04/2015 21:48

What a weird and one sided view to take on cheating!

No wonder you were suspicious.

Do you plan on speaking to him re the video or do you want time to see if any more appear before blowing your cover?

Carolineno · 28/04/2015 21:48

is it a youtube video or one he took himself?

TheEggityOddity · 28/04/2015 21:48

Come on OP, you have lived with / had sex with this guy for ten years and you're telling us these two things this week are the first ever odd behaviours? Doesn't stack up for me.

SelfLoathing · 28/04/2015 21:48

I am a member of a running club and the "hard core" runner guys often joke about choosing to draft behind the leading "hot" women so they can watch their arses.

The spirit of it isn't that weird. Straight men wanting to look at attractive female arses is pretty normal heterosexual behaviour.

The videoing is weird.

Mengog · 28/04/2015 21:49

The bum bit. No way does any normal, well adjusted man do that. I look sometimes, but to record it is sinister and probably illegal.

Plus he has just justified his cheating on you in a sly way.