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Am i officially an idiot?

283 replies

lou33 · 05/09/2006 12:51

As some of you are aware, i split with exh in nov. I havent wanted any serious relationships, but am also not prepared to live like a nun, so i have had hook ups with people, where i made it clear that it was on my terms and just fun. There have been times when i felt the hook up was getting too attached so i have ended it there and then.

As some of you are also aware i have been seeing someone for the last month, and once again it started out with me saying it was nothing but fun, which it has been. However, last night i ended it with him, because i found myself starting to like him too much. I told him that as it was now starting to feel different to me, it wasnt fair on me or him to carry on seeing each other.

He says we should carry on having fun til he leaves next year to travel when he finishes the army, but i said the balance of the relationship is now not equal in my eyes.

We do have fun, we do get on, it's cheered me up enormously through a v difficult period of time, i like having him about at weekends. But i ended it. A male friend of mine last night said if i was a bloke he would call me a d*ckhead with the way i was behaving, that i was cutting my nose off to spite my face.

Soldier wants to still see me, but we wont this weekend, tho he has asked if he can come up overnight next weds to make up for it.

Am i being a twat or am i right to end it if my feelings have changed and i dont think his have?

Ugh at this!

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Molesworth · 12/09/2006 19:11

Well Done

lou33 · 12/09/2006 19:11

also i didnt know you didnt answer, cos it wasnt ringing at my end and i thought there was a connection problem, so i gave up!

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lou33 · 12/09/2006 19:12

i need tolook forward to saturday

dress up or dress down?

dd1 says dress up

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Molesworth · 12/09/2006 19:12

It was weird because it only rang two or three times

Molesworth · 12/09/2006 19:13

If it's a lunch date I'd say dress down (ish) - you don't want to look like you've made too much effort

lou33 · 12/09/2006 19:20

i tried calling a few times but it was just dead

dress down, ok

goodbye red polka dot fifties dress

UNLESS we go out in the evening too!

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lou33 · 12/09/2006 20:49

soldier wants to return my handcuffs

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Molesworth · 12/09/2006 20:55

PMSL

lou33 · 12/09/2006 20:56

on his new bike

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lou33 · 12/09/2006 20:57

he also says he owes me a fiver

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Molesworth · 12/09/2006 20:58

tell him to put them in the post

lou33 · 12/09/2006 20:59

i did that days ago

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Molesworth · 12/09/2006 21:00

has he emailed to tell you this, or are you talking to him on msn?

lou33 · 12/09/2006 21:26

text

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Molesworth · 12/09/2006 21:29

he just wants an excuse to come round

don't cave in!

lou33 · 12/09/2006 21:30

sigh.....

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Molesworth · 12/09/2006 21:32

think of 6 foot 2 comedy boy ...

lou33 · 12/09/2006 21:37

he wants to know who i am meeting on saturday, cos i said i was busy ,seeing a friend

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Quadrophenia · 12/09/2006 21:37

errr Lou can I have your polka dot fifties dress?? Seeings you won't be needing it!
Not an easy descision for you, if its meant to work out, it will do at some point, if you were my mate I would want you to be happy and would probably be cross if I thought you were throwing it away with no good reason, but if this is more than you want then you won't be happy x

lou33 · 12/09/2006 21:39

i'll find a reason to wear it yet!

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Quadrophenia · 12/09/2006 21:42

do you look like Minnie mouse in it??
sorry didn't realise it was all over when I posted, lots of young men out there for you Lou, sure you will have plenty of fun x

lou33 · 12/09/2006 21:59

its got a fitted knee length pencil skirt, so more like rizzo from grease, i hope!

thanks , i have a date on saturday

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Quadrophenia · 12/09/2006 22:00

sounds lovely, I love fifties clothes. have fun on saturady, i have a date too, with bloody x factor grrrrrrr

lou33 · 12/09/2006 22:05

This is the dress

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Dior · 12/09/2006 22:06

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