I did this before but let's do it again today

[Ledkr]

Things you have done or achieved since a break up to inspire anyone in a painful place.
Ill start.

Went on holiday abroad with just my dc,
Danced on a beach till dawn in Ibiza.
Lost three stone.
Had long dark hair cut into a blonde bob.
Had a lot of sex.
Reconnected with or made loads of lovely friends.
Drank beef in the bath.
Had weetabix for tea.
Went to lots of festivals with or without dc.
Laughed and laughed.
Traded in the family saloon for a golf convertible.
Got much closer to my children.

I could go on.
Share your stories to help others see there is life after heartbreak.

I was thoroughly enjoying this thread until beachside popped up. Jeez.

If your at a party beachside and a group starts to laugh, do you go over and remind them that children are dying in Africa, or women are being killed in war zones?

Anyway.......

I lost a ton of weight after I left my violent ex. (Which was mostly down to the fact that my nervous disposition -acquired a stutter, gave minimal eye contact, and got the shakes when meeting anyone new) had given me irritable bowel syndrome.

I danced around the house rather drunk, the 1st night I got my home back (had to flee with dd and 1 bag, 8 months previously)

I went back to University (without him) and got my PGCE.

Earned double what I had previously

Made some new friends.

Danced a hell of a lot even in the kitchen with dd

Had a fling with a toyboy

Had my one and only ons with a absolute hunk!

Had great holidays (had none with ex, in 9 years)

Swam with dolphins, snorkelled with manatees and hugged a sealion

Drove a speedboat and a dunebuggy

Rode a camel

And still have a million other things to try and fit in between being capable and non capable!

But my greatest achievement isn't all the things I've done, it's the change in me.

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Enlightenme - that's fab! Well done you.

Overit - what a terrible experience.Bastard.

Bastard he was. However ive passed my driving test now so if I see him I can always just run him over

I've now been separated for 9 months and in that time I have:
Redecorated my bedroom (immediately!)
Got a promotion
Realised how amazing my female friends are and had lots of mid week drinking sessions putting the world to rights
Went on hol solo to dubai to see my friend who lives there
Sold the house and bought my own
Booked a hol for me and DD
Started online dating
Had sex with someone other than my husband!
Interestingly also seem to have more money to spend on myself than I ever did before!
Lost weight
Got fit

Thanks for this thread, was having a period of feeling crap and this has made me realise that I've actually done quite a lot in 9 months!

It's only been ten days so mine's not as exciting..yet!
Moved back close to my family
Regained control of finances
Redecorated every room instead of the dreaded magnolia!
Felt more relaxed and calmer
DC's happier
Laughed more
Cried less
Eaten lots of cake
Made a lot of noise with DC's (he hated noise)
Changed tv channels
Turned the fire up
Ignored phone calls and questions regarding reconciliation
Remembered I'm actually quite fun and outgoing and not at all boring, as he had me believing
Discovered people actually don't hate me, something else he had me almost convinced of.

This is a lovely thread! I hope to add more thrilling things to this list as time goes on..I'm certainly looking forward to the nicer men and sizzling sex some of you have had..it's been a while!

Picked a new car
Went to the cash point knowing roughly how much money was left and not having a nasty shock
Realised I can live on my wages
Got a better job
Had books and toys out
Picked a lovely new DP
Had the sex I wanted to have
Smiled a lot

Zombie thread resurrection - since the split in February we've sold our family house and I bought a little 3 bed semi last month, which I'm slowly decorating to my own taste, without having to consult re money or colour!

Hee, I was just reading through and thinking I don't CARE if it is a zombie thread! In no particular order, My list includes:

Had all the fantasy sex I ever fantasised about. (Enough it got dull, admittedly, but I am still friends with that dp!)
Rescued a tiny baby kitten from a parking lot.
Gone back to school and retrained for my dream job
Done my dream job
Met and married an amazing man, whose career path has allowed us to live in or travel to interesting places.
Travelled to Italy on my own.
Raised DDs who learned what a decent man was from that dp and my dh. (They were both able to spot the charmer turning into an arse sequence sooner than I did, and got the hell out before they felt trapped.)

No naked swimming, though it almost happened with the fantasy sex dp.
Actually gained weight. The first bit was likely good, as underfeeding myself was a negative coping skill with ex. But then I kept going.

The to do list for now includes learning a foreign language, figuring out new ways to apply my dream job training now that i can't work the hours my dream job required, raising a son to be a good man, and more travel. And I suppose I should have a go at losing some weight.

Beachside - I was a wife carrying extra weight. I laughed and smiled plenty. I dumped my trim ex husband because he was a bore. Hope that helps.

This is an excellent thread. You are all amazing.

Huzzah for all of those enjoying post break up life!

I have:
Changed my wardrobe from mumsy to, well anything I fancy really.
Lived independently for over a year now. I love my financial independence.
Danced a lot too.
Lost loads of weight-break up stress, but am putting it back on again
Enjoyed my double bed on my own. Not dreaded bedtimes next to exH.
Had tinsel on my Christmas tree-frowned upon by exH.
Bought a bikini and lay sunbathing in the garden.

•Lost weight
•Built my confidence back up
•Worked hard for and got my degree
•Took my DC on holiday alone
•Had lots of fun with old and new friends
•Had amazing sex also, who knew?!
•Loved and lost a special person, but don't regret a moment
•Spent years alone, which I needed as met exp at 16
•Made all of the decisions without a PA bully to manipulate me
•Met a wonderful, gorgeous, kind and funny man who is honoured to be part of mine and DC's lives.
•Raising two lovely and bright girls who drive me mad and make me proud in equal measure every day.

I remember thinking I'd never get over exp leaving. It broke my heart. However now it feels odd to call him exp, as I can't imagine ever being a 'partner' to him.
Probably because I've changed so much and he has sadly remained the same.

akawisey I also went to Italy by myself, it was wonderful.

• got a new job
• started planning to go to university
• began saving for a year of travelling
• had amazing sex with many men and women
• could talk about my hobbies and interests without being ignored or made to feel silly
• left the house regularly

This is such a great uplifting thread - glad it's been brought back to life & sent to a very dear friend who's going through a horrendous time right now as her husband has recently walked out leaving her with 3 young children (& is generally being quite horrible right now), so great for her to see the light at the end of the tunnel that others have found. Thank you!

LOTS of fantastic sex with much younger sexier nicer fuckbuddy man
lost weight
started a degree
went to glastonbury and had a ONS with a circus performer
decorated my lovely house
morning snuggles with my kids
girly holiday in NY with my best mate and had a 3'some
Developed a social life!!
Ha! Great sex features highly!!