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Last train to Loserville Part 2

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LoserNoMore · 07/04/2013 21:55

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

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piratecat · 11/04/2013 15:53

LNM i have been where you are. a good friend of mine has also suffered an affair or betrayal. she started a blog a few years ago. search for psychosoothing.co.uk it is very gentle and supportive. it might be of some comfort. x

piratecat · 11/04/2013 15:56

its .com not .uk x

mrssmartarse · 11/04/2013 16:34

Hope u had a good day at work? Smile we are all here for you day or night mind, there is always one of us about! X

NotSoNervous · 11/04/2013 17:26

Hope your doing okay today OP

swallowedAfly · 11/04/2013 17:57

i missed the rope link - can someone re-link it please - i can't find it

LittleEsme · 11/04/2013 18:02

swallowedAfly. Can't link or copy on this phone. Look up thread to yesterday (10th) and my post at 23.35 Smile.

Order before they vanish!

swallowedAfly · 11/04/2013 18:06

found it - thanks esme Smile sorry for hijack LNM.

cjel · 11/04/2013 18:16

Am I the only one who tightens the pelvic floor when posters keep saying 'wee' when talking about skipping?

themidwife · 11/04/2013 18:21

Nope - I'm at it too!!

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 18:49

Thanks piratecat, I'll take a look.

Notsonervous, work was torture. I'm going to have to go in on Saturday and sort a load of stuff out and won't even be paid.

Just going to order my rope now. That sounds morbid!

Loser is taking the girls out on Saturday. Just received an email from him. Must be taking time out from flaunting himself on FB.

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CabbageLeaves · 11/04/2013 19:07

Hmmm working when he has the girls is not good. You should be swimming or skipping!

lazarusb · 11/04/2013 19:20

LNM - Maybe as a friend if they will tell your other friends, just as much info as you feel ready for & to let them know you'll be in contact when you're ready.

Ask the other friend not to tell you about his FB status & updates etc. Whatever his reasons for writing his crap on there (mature!), you don't need to be second guessing him or wondering why he's said what.

You are still doing amazingly, you know? Of course you're having low times - it's only been a week. Still admiring your courage & strength.

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 19:20

I know cabbage, it sucks. I'm only planning going in for a couple of hours then I can skip and swim until my hearts content.

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 19:29

Thanks Lazarus, I'm just ignoring texts and I told my friend exactly that. I don't want to hear what's he's doing or saying.

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 11/04/2013 19:46

Good for you telling her not to tell you.

So when is he collecting and bringing back? Or would it be easier for you to collect, that way you are in control of the situation and he doesnt get to come in your home.

Just a thought. Or a third party brings them home...

Why is work so shit? Anything we can do to help/advise?

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 20:25

I'm dropping them off at his sisters and collecting them. I don't want to give him any opportunity to hang about my house waiting on an invite from the girls to stay for dinner/play a game.

Work is just terrible, I'm doing the work of 2 people. Someone left at the beginning of the year and they haven't rehired anyone.

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CabbageLeaves · 11/04/2013 21:14

Ooh Loser I'm in the same boat. I am also working on the two occasions ex has DC each month plus many evenings. It's killing me. I have said enough is enough to work. I am also refusing to work without pay. It's the only way I will get them to act.

cjel · 11/04/2013 21:32

NOt a good idea to tell us work is torture and you are ordering a rope in the same post we'll all be rushing around to talk you out of doing something daft (like skipping!!)

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 21:37

The only reason I'm going in unpaid is for my own sanity cabbage. Won't get any thanks for it.

Cjel :D Dont tempt me!

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 21:37
Grin
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Isabeller · 11/04/2013 21:46

Another admirer from lurkville here Smile wishing you and your girls the very best x

piratecat · 11/04/2013 21:50

lol couldn't help but snigger at your post of 21.37, imagine if there was a 'sanity cabbage'

I'd be straight down Tesco veg aisle!!

Where will the girls be saturday, if you have to go to work op x?

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 22:01

Thank you isabeller :)

Sanity cabbage! Grin

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LoserNoMore · 11/04/2013 22:02

Girls are spending the day with their dad.

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Cherriesarelovely · 11/04/2013 22:04

I was cheering for you on your other thread LNM. So sorry you are going through all this but think you are fantastic. I am a massive believer in exercise as a stress reliever so bet you will have a great time with your skipping rope. Hope you have a a good weekend with your girls. So glad you have found support here.