Dating thread number 48 :-)

[MirandaWest]

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I hate that moving when they say take one now. It's usually when I'm at my most scruffiest with no make up and my needing a wash hair scraped back.

48 yes I do love fireman and I've told him. We have a slow burning thing going but I love his attitude, humour and just the way he is. Strangely because I've been unwell I've never thought about the relationship where it's going etc. I just think about him. I've had a couple of wobbles when I've asked him not to stay with me if he feels that I'm too much trouble but he says I've really enhanced his life.
Moving I think you should go on the date, don't worry about the nails and the casual attire as you probably will look lovely.
However that silly send a pic nonsense is irritating. I have no idea why people do it either.

Kin Oh yes take your underwear. If you've got it flaunt it [bugrin]

It is going to be tough at times OWW Stay strong.

I'm trying to work out if it's a good or bad thing that I don't miss buffy. I've got my DC keeping me busy for the week but haven't seen her since Wednesday and apart from a few texts we haven't chatted. She's leaving in a few weeks, I'm traveling for the next fortnight anyway do will hardly see her. I'm actually relieved I'm not all miserable for not seeing her.

Moving - personally I'd just tell him to f right off, demanding extra pictures would get on my wick especially if I thought they were angling for photos with fewer clothes involved.

OWW yes it's particularly difficult when you see something funny and you know they'd really appreciate it if you sent a link or something, boringly I think time is the answer to that one. It is bobbins though.

I'm slightly concerned that the more provocative of my underwear would scare Mr Software, whereas Mr Showbiz, I'm sure, would be chuffed to little mint balls with the whole waist cincher, stockings, lacy bra combo.

I'm actually, for the first time in my life, considering (a) having sex with a man I don't love and (b) having sex with two men ( not together, obvs, let's not run before I can walk ).

Scatty That is lovely. You have a good un [busmile]

Mr Showbiz seems to have a lot more about him, and he's witty, educated and unfazed by serious underwear. I'd do him ... Mr Software strikes me as a bit of a yearning, burning, puppy-eyed softie, and possibly the type who might think the sex means a lot more than it does - could get a bit complicated?

It will be great fun, whatever you decide to do, though Nora. Do it/him/them

I can recommend sex with a man you don't love Kin

Bant it is without doubt a good thing, given the particular situation here.

Scatty so glad it's working out for you and the fireman. Lovely news.

So I've tried taking some pictures i have got makeup on and my hair is washed but I don't like the photos and I feel un photogenic!

It annoys me when they do this! He has seen loads of pics of me, so why does he need anymore?

What do u think I should say?

OWW I agree with you, Software gives the appearance of starting to err fall for me, whereas Showbiz is going to be dirrrrrrrtyy.

I may do both and then decide. < shocks self and apologises to Pope, parents and nuns>

Moving As Kin said. Fuck off!

That's an easy one Moving - try ' go fuck yourself you irritating wankface'

I've just asked him why he wants another picture?

If he messes about I feel like I might not bother with online dating! They always do this crap and it's annoying!

I've got about 4 pictures on my profile plus loads of Facebook! That's enough

Moving - I think he's possibly angling for something naked or at least less fully clothed. He's just trying to be subtle.

That may not be the case, but it sounds like it to me. You could ask coyly if he means something like that, and if he says yes, then tell him to fuck off and block him. If you've got 4 up already then there's nothing he can learn from yet another one, he's just either trying to see you nude or begin sexting with him, or trying to impose control.

People seem to be having more than the usual negative OD experiences at the moment. I apologise on behalf of (some) of my gender. The twats.

"Take a picture now" no. Asking is ok, insisting is not. It's quite manipulative, demanding and shows him you'll do what he asks. In this case, I've previously used "No" as a complete sentence, these days I wouldn't even bother to answer.

Kin yes take the underwear, then you have absolutely no excuse not to have him

Rainy he doesn't sound like one of the nice ones, he sounds like one of the unstable ones putting on his best side to draw you in. Is this the one who doesn't have a picture?

Bant that sounds fine to me, you have had rather of lot of Buffy and you're now in an entirely different environment so it's not like you are sitting in your Hungaria apartment missing her.

Bant - he can piss off! I don't get the impression that's what he wants, but maybe it is! I just find it dam annoying! He kinda asked what I'm doing and implied he might want to meet up! Then I reminded him I'm on crutches and asked if he would want to come to my area, so maybe he wants to see if he likes the look of me enough to come to my area? Either way it's annoying!

Why are they all so annoying? Bant you seem lovely maybe we should all date you

I've found with the picture thing it's usually send me a pic of your face babe then it's now your tits! Um no!

Juliette he does have pictures and he's added me on facebook. He wants to meet. tomorrow now instead of Thursday. I do like him and he is really sweet but he does have the ability to annoy me.

Moving - I am, indeed, lovely :) but unfortunately splitting my time between Hungaria and EastAnglia.

Also, seeing as I have a wonderful bunch of women to ask on how best to behave while dating, it wouldn't be fair to date one of my Advisory Board. Not when they'd be able to look up my history with the Artist and SAfrican and Buffy etc.

The First Rule of the Dating Thread is: You don't date other members of the Dating Thread...

Moving I agree with Bant he is working up to underwear then sexting pics. I would try Bants suggestion of asking if that is what he has in mind, you will know immediately and save yourself some bother.

Rainy just keep your boundaries in place.

Moving how far away is he to come to your area?

Well I sent him two pictures both with scarfs on! He said do I Want a cuddle as I look cold! So I asked if he was expecting a semi naked picture? He said no of course not

These days I find pretty much every guy I speak to asks for pictures and it really seems creepy to me!

Ok Bant fair enough I understand he he

Moving I think some guys are very entitled, and think that women should have loads and loads of photos to titillate and encourage them. It is part of the FHM lads mags thing.