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Dating thread number 48 :-)

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MirandaWest · 25/03/2013 23:36

Here's the latest thread for everything dating related. All welcome :)

OP posts:
mercury7 · 01/04/2013 01:27

I dont know about you but my species didn't evolve from the chimpanzee, we merely shared a common ancestor and I like to think that the frontal cortex has come along way since then :o

Bant · 01/04/2013 01:45

I never said we evolved from the chimpanzee.

Well, there are some people on POF..

KinNora · 01/04/2013 06:30

Morning everyone, up revoltingly early as I have a train to catch - yaaaay.

Bant I do believe you're crediting women with more restraint than they actually have, I think that research with the eyetracking camera shows them looking at eyes and then the genital area.

Now I would say, if asked, that I don't check out the genitalia of every man I meet, I certainly have no conscious memory of doing so but presumably that's exactly what I do. I don't think I look at big breasts either, why bother, I can do that any time I fancy (blasé).

The only time the hypno-breast effect ever slightly bothers me is when I'm trying to be taken seriously ( yeah right ) the rest of the time it's just amusing, I never wear anything low cut to a first date because I prefer to unleash the Breast Force ( like the Powah of the Vagina, only higher up and more acceptable to part-display in public ) to a potential mate when I'm pretty sure I want them to get some action.

Snapespeare · 01/04/2013 08:04

i've never noticed anyone staring at my tits....although i do recall a rack-check from nameless when we first met & i took off my coat...Blush

...and i do check out the occasional arseBlush because i cant be seen doing it...Hmm

i have never ever checked out someones genital area. Shock

Snapespeare · 01/04/2013 08:06

rainy this guy needs kicked to the curb pretty damn sharpish. he is disrespectful. Angry

didnt sleep well. excited.

WarmFuzzyFun · 01/04/2013 08:14

Morning Thread 48!

Sometimes I think I should metaphorically speaking sit at the foot of this thread and take in all the wisdom that flows from the hive mind. Wow. Kudos and Roar!!!Grin

I have stacked up lots of potential suitables (men). My nets will need repair, I will head back into the fray again today, for god and country, I am a brave courageous woman! Smile

I have a very carefully worded profile with no pictures. I have had only a couple of cockshots and found that nearly all the men who contact me have been very polite and pleasant...unless I direct them not to be Wink

Get your nets and get yourself a 'catch of the day'

KinNora · 01/04/2013 08:59

Blimey I'd nearly forgotten about Nameless coming back today Snape you must be beside yourself, how lovely.

WFF I take my cap off to you, I really do - you are indefatigable.

Mr Software, terribly right on, hugely respectful and non-smutty, not a hint of the inappropriate, even when given mild encouragement, had a good long glance at my breasts when we met, I'm not sure he realises I noticed.

Snapespeare · 01/04/2013 09:23

On profiles... I made it perfectly clear that I didn't date married men, or men in relationships, wasn't interested in polyamoury - with no judgement implied and whilst recognising that this would be terribly sad news for men who fell into those categories Wink I made it clear that I wasn't interested in casual sex.

I received two cock shots in the around 7 months that my profile was open (?) and around 600 or so messages. Of the two cock shots, one was from someone I'd met (the prof) and was after meeting him for the first time and one was from the guy who did a runner mid first date (catweazle) sleazy messages, the same two guys in the same circumstances. Maybe one or two rude opening lines from strange little men, who were immediately blocked... You grow a thick skin fast in OD.

Just because some random bloke off the Internet wants to share his genitalia with you, or ask you sleazy questions, does not mean that you have to engage....and then switching tactic to asking about what you want your wedding to be like is taking the piss.

48howdidthathappen · 01/04/2013 09:24

Snape Just sent a reply to Mr R&R.
'No didn't sleep well. Kept waking up. I want you'

We have got it bad Grin

Snapespeare · 01/04/2013 09:44

Grin at 48. I'm bloody knackered. Bet I'm asleep by half past nine. Might have a catnap after lunch so I am 'refreshed' for picking up nameless form the station at five or so.

KinNora · 01/04/2013 09:55
OhWesternWind · 01/04/2013 10:13
KinNora · 01/04/2013 10:31

Hello OWW, how are you today, chuck ?

OhWesternWind · 01/04/2013 10:41

Not so bad, although I've had a lot of tricks played on me today by ds. Only an hour and a half to go!

Got a babysitter for Thursday or Friday so will arrange things with Cakey later. I have (foolishly) challenged him to a game of pool.

Are you excited? Grin

KinNora · 01/04/2013 10:59

Hmmm, on the train and thought I'd answered you OWW, is Cakey the bloke who frequented the same places as you in the 80s ?

I'm not sure that I'm excited to be honest, both Software and Showbiz are nice men but you know how it is ...

OhWesternWind · 01/04/2013 11:04

Nice isn't very exciting ... Perhaps they will have hidden depths of charm and sexiness. Hope you have a great time anyway!

Yep, he's that one. Not sure from his photos if he's my type physically, but I think it will be fun (in a non-PoF sense) whatever.

KinNora · 01/04/2013 11:11

No, I know but my ridiculous heart lies elsewhere so this is pretty much the equivalent of me soldiering on.

Some uncomplicated fun might be just what you need, and he might be more attractive in person.

OhWesternWind · 01/04/2013 11:25

Just got to keep going, only way for it. I honestly believe there's someone (well, more than one someone) out there who is right for us and we'll find him/her in the end.

Have been thinking about LM and I do not miss his bullshitty crapness at all. I do miss having someone around, but that's a different thing and easier to sort out. I think I genuinely did love him, or was right on the brink of it, but then as I realised more and more about how badly he was treating me it got rid of a lot of those feelings pdq. The ratio of good days:crap days with LM was roughly 2:5, being generous, and that's just rubbish.

KinNora · 01/04/2013 11:46

Well 2:5 is just not good enough, is it really ? I think you recognising that you weren't getting what you deserved and then ending it was really healthy, it shows how brilliantly you've done to value yourself properly after all the shite you've been through.

The missing LM thing is difficult but I firmly believe that the brain takes the good times, almost magnifies them, ramps up the technicolor and tries to shove them under your nose, and at the same time, shrinks the bad times, fades them and pushes them into the background so it takes a real effort to view the relationship realistically. I'm just having a day where everywhere I turn there's some bastard with his accent.

I need a man who makes me laugh and who is excellent in bed. Not so much to ask for ...

Winefiend · 01/04/2013 12:07

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JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 12:11

OWW yep I have my own ECC for my LM, I just have to remember the bonkers behaviour, I have a stock of it where I was mortified in public which is a horrible thing to say but to be fair to myself, I'm not easily embarrassed.

Kin have a great time. If they are not great, you will be.

I have a few quality possibles in the pipeline which is unusual for me so hopefully some dates will come from it. One of them is seriously hot Shock. Unfortunately I suspect he is as arrogant as they come. It's been so long since I fancied someone like this that I still would.

I am also falling in cyber fantasy love with a lovely Dutch man who is looking for someone to sail around the world with.

The policeman keeps sending me cute notes, can't work out if he is a player but the only reason to think so is that he is sweet and open with me and also police. Maybe they are not all dodgy as partners. He lives in a different part of the country

There is also have Italian mother man and I have a second date with Musician Man who I had coffee/dinner with last month. Nice guy, attractive, no big spark but pleasant enough.

MsCellophane · 01/04/2013 12:27

I have a question - am I being ignored on here on purpose?? Last few times I have posted have been totally overlooked

I chose my name for a reason but it's becoming really obvious, been on this thread a very long time, longer than most of the current regulars

Not nice, not nice at all

OhWesternWind · 01/04/2013 12:31

Crikey Juliette you're lining them up! The policeman sounds nice, he could be the exception to the dodgy cop thing. Are you going to meet? And tell all about Mr Sizzlin' ...

I have a very, very dodgy ambulance driver who wants someone feminine and girly and I am winding up just for the hell of it (would never meet, red flags a flying everywhere I look), one who said he'd like to meet but doesn't seem to have been online since, a rather earnest social worker, a rather earnest IT guy, a few other floaters and Cakey and Deffo. Hmm.

OhWesternWind · 01/04/2013 12:33

Sorry MsC, really didn't mean to ignore you. I often overlook posts by accident when I'm reading on my phone. How's it all going? Has MrCM popped up at all again?

Snapespeare · 01/04/2013 12:34

Same here msC the are so many folk and so much is going on that if you have been overlooked, it really wasn't intentional how are things? :)