Dating thread number 48 :-)

[MirandaWest]

Here's the latest thread for everything dating related. All welcome :)

Juilette - I just googled it which says 25mins! I would say more like 40ish

Juliette I can confirm the underwear is now packed.

This guy is annoying me a little, after sending my pictures he asked when do I wana meet up, I asked when is good for him? He said I don't mind whenever you want to and can move around!

I already told him I can meet tonight if he wants to come to my area, of not then another time!

Did this guy have a picture? How long have you been chatting?

Hope you don't mind if I join in? I have been lurking and trying to get up to date with what everyone is up to since I first looked on Thursday...

I've seen his pictures on Facebook and Pof and whatsapp! We have been chatting for a few days!

Feel free lobo. What are you up to?

Moving. Along with the other red flags I'd be cautious. Him coming to you may make him think you owe him something ('but I came all this way! Just show me one of them' etc etc)

Or he may just be a genuinely nice guy. If he's pissing you off though that doesn't bode well

Hello and welcome Lobo [busmile]

Moving I dislike the sound of this man even more each time you say something else about him, be very careful.

I decided to dip my toes in at the beginning of February with the OD....

The first guy I met up with - born liar...luckily I have a nose for smelling them out (to a certain extent) and I have been on a couple of dates with others since.

I have a second date with one this week that I am quite excited about.

I have a question as I am not sure if its a good thing or not - he texts throughout the day (all the way from late morning into the evening) - Is this a red flag???

Kin - Glad to hear you have packed the underwear - I hope you have an enjoyable time

Moving - If he is pissing you off already and you haven't met him I would tread carefully (however I also hope he turns out to be a good one!!)

Bant - How on earth do you fit in dating with being based in two places??

Bant 'just show me one of them'. So, so true

utterly agree with this entitled FHM culture bollockness. it's a general pornification of society, entitlement nonsense. [rarrrrrgh!]

my sons will be sodding excellent BFs. we don't hold with that shit in our house.

bant really glad you're not being a dafty about buffy. I have a stifled romantic side that desperately wants one or the other of you to turn up at an airport with flowers/ring, but that is a really bad friends plot-line and i think it's nice to celebrate that there are people who exist who are fucking-awesome and geography is a bastard. [wistful glance at chicago]

I read something interesting on Cracked the other day - Why modern men are trained to hate women

It's provocative, but interesting. And rings true in some ways. I've been the 'nice guy who can't get the girl I like to fall for me no matter how supportive I am' type bloke before, in my college days. Now I realise it's just a matter of confidence and chemistry.

Lobo - I only date in Hungary these days, as when I'm in the UK I have my DC and really no spare time to go out. I've got most evenings free when I'm overseas. If the balance shifts I may look to date over here again, but I'm enjoying the expat community at the moment, I'm still a novelty there :)

i tried reading that, but kinda ended up arounda bout the second paragraph intoning 'it's the patrirachy'

women. date feminists. problem solved nameless likes that i dont shave my armpit hair, he seems to think it takes too much time, when in reality it takes 30 seconds and i'm slightly concerned that there are grey armpit hair things going on, but. oh. i like him

On okc there is a question 'do you think women are obligated to shave their legs'

On okc people chose the questions they want to answer. I'm consistently shocked that by far the majority of men answer yes. I've only ever dated men who have answered no as this one question says everything I need to know about a man's attitude to the 'role' of women. Even if they haven't thought about it, that in itself speaks volumes. I want a man who gets this.

It doesn't matter whether or not I shave anything, that is my choice. It's that word obligation which demonstrates the level of entitlement some men have, so much so that they don't even think about it.

Women are not 'obligated' to do anything, other than to protect their children.

Ok were not meeting tonight but he said he will come and pick me up tomorrow or another day! I said he could be a murder so that's prob not a good idea! He's seems ok I think but maybe couldn't be bothered today!

I just got this message from a 27 yr old, with a picture of him looking about 12 with his oversized baseball hat on backwards. Your missing words round starts with

Hey sweetheart you look really lovely. So pretty... Was just wondering do you ???? or ??????? ? Im curious. :) bless x

Bless indeed .

Also I feel like everyone has someone right now and I want someone!

After exp Saying he was going to propose he has now backed off. But a couple of days later put a photo of some girl as his profile picture on his whatsapp! Then messaged me on whatsapp so I can see the picture! I havnt asked who she is, but I know he has probably put it there for my benefit!

I know I only come on here to moan lately but I am reading, just can't keep up with the general chat

I am loving the love though, so nice to see happier times for some

WFF, you are doing brilliantly and Velvet, I think you do what is right for you. You did have rotten luck with OD, through no fault of your own. C is right for you, right now and that's all that matters. I really hope he comes good soon though and can give you what you deserve

Now the moan - white van man, chatty, nice for a few weeks through text and phone. We were going to meet last week but he got manflu. So we penciled in tonight. Fri he asked to see more pics - I sent him what I have. He was after saucy ones. I said absolutely not, never with someone I have never met but have been known to if I'm seeing someone

Text yesterday morning to ask if tonight is going ahead - nothing all day. Text him last night to say he is lacking manners and if you don't want to meet - that's fine but the ignoring thing is not polite - text back... 'chill, I've been at work all day and no access to phone' Except he was showing up online on whatsapp and POF, so lied rather than be honest

Text him tonight to say he is rude, goodbye and good luck

Pissed off! I have no idea why people act in this way and why they think they have the right to ask for a boob shot from a stranger

And MrCM messaged me again last night - another flake (who I fancied the pants off - grrr)

on the OKC obligation question I was rather surprised by how many women said it was 'True' - I said false personally, with a comment about how I'm not obligated to shave my beard, so it'd be hypocritical really. But there are a lot of women who think they have to shave. Odd that.

I must admit, I have, in the past, asked for candid pictures. That was of my girlfriend in a LDR though, so I thought it was okay.

Having lots of fun tonight with Cakey and Deffo - no moves to suggest a date yet though. Come on, boys!

I am a lazy leg shaver.

I tell Mr R&R prepare to be sandblasted

Cakey has asked me out - excellent man! Pool night sometime next week. He sounds like he will be a really good laugh and doesn't mind me taking the piss a bit (very nicely of course). Could be good!