Dating thread number 48 :-)

[MirandaWest]

Here's the latest thread for everything dating related. All welcome :)

However I am taking no chances .. My flat is spotless in the off chance that a spark has materialised since last week

I would like to say yes Kirsty But, I turned up for a date late, soaking wet and deaf. Was having ear trouble at the time.

Oddly he was keen. Nowt strange as folk.

Rainy and Pom Have a bad feeling about your guys.

I have RSI from texting. Was good though [bublush]

Sneaky nameless is coming a day early.

Excited! (Just as well I did all the cleaning today...)

All the more delightfully tidy space to sexually frolic in, Snape [bugrin]

Does that mean he's coming today ? (snigger)

• no, he's coming tomorrow. [bugrin]

I've just thought of something I'm unsure about. When do you think is the best time to tell someone you're dating that there's a 50/50 chance of you having huntingtons disease? And that if you do have it you have about 15 years at the most before it starts?

I can't decide whether before the date or after a few or once you're in a relationship?

When i starting seeing my ex i was a lot younger and it was so far away it i told him before we got involved.

Snape and 48 it's lovely to see you both so happy.

Oh bloody hell Rainy so sorry you're in that position.

I think once you know you'd both like to carry on seeing each other, but before it gets too serious. I think LM told me about his depression on date three or four, so maybe around then?

Still, coming sooner than you expected. ( sniggering more than is seemly for a 46 year old mother of three )

Rainy that's a very difficult one, isn't it ? and I'm sorry you're in this situation in the first place.
My own feeling is that I would be open about a 'serious' issue like this at the point where the relationship seemed to be moving from just dating, onto a more concrete basis but that's because I'd want to feel closer to a man before I opened up about anything sensitive.

I know it's getting the balance right between too soon and too late. I should really get tested, i always said i would once i was 30 but it's a bit scary now it's here and I'm 31 now and haven't started the process.

It's a difficult decision to make, Rainy. Have you had counselling about the testing?

Happy Easter threaders

rainy it's tricky. When and how to tell him are very difficult conversations to have, as you will need to explain how it may effect you and also him if that's relevant. I also think not straight away but don't wait too long either.

48 I really like your upfrontness and R&R knows where he stands now as he may have been worrying about the arrival of Mr Oz. This is such a good thing. Go forth and embrace it.

velvet you are fab. I love your posts. Can no one give you a lift home? the 3 hour journey sounds an irk.

I'm doing ok. The depression comes and nearly goes, then comes back again. Im seeing the GP again next week. Im dreading going back to work as i now feel incompetent. I've booked a holiday in the UK with fireman in a couple of weeks. I only see him once a week due to his work patterns, child care etc but we talk and text a lot. I have been feeling uncertain about everything since this started and today he told me that he loves me more for knowing me 'warts and all' which is nearly literal! I guess with all my barriers down, Im totally exposed and I've not had the strength to enhance my more favourable personality traits and play down the less wonderful ones. They have all been out on show.

snape thanks to you I'm going to start watching DW

Hi to everyone else.

No once i start the testing process I'd get i think 6 months to a year of counselling before i had the results. My sister has been through it and she says it's fantastic support from them. It's just taking that first step and having to think and talk about it for ages. I can pretend it's not real at the moment except for once a year when my sister has a check up and we panic that it's the start.

scatty you have to watch DW (I'm converting everyone,... One by one)

rainy I know it's very scary, but testing means you are best informed and can then proceed with as much information as possible. No point in discussing with anyone else until you are in full possession of the facts. It sounds like a supportive process though.... And best do it before the NHS is completely privatised

rainy I think I agree with snape, although just getting tested is a massive deal so get yourself very well supported before you make any decisions.

snape can I just start watching now? Will a girl like me (anxious, unable to take on anything complicated, likes a bit of action and a moral undertone) get the just? I really liked primeval but not sure that's relevant.

Has anyone got dates in the pipeline? Even FWB?

Bunny ears for snape and nameless [bugrin]

Scatty Similar story here. Mr R&R has experienced the vulnerable me. It wasn't pretty at times. I am glad though.
Do you love Fireman?

Rainy I agree with Snape Nothing to tell at the moment.

Scatty start from now because he's just got a new companion and it's a new series. You can always go back and watch the old one's later.

Thanks for the words of wisdom again. I just feel like I've just got over my ex after seven months and i don't want to depress myself by being tested now. That does sound wimpy i know and i really should find out one way or another.

Scatty I'm very glad you're getting periods of feeling a little better, as far as I'm aware it takes a little while for the ADs to build up to their optimum level so hopefully your mood should continue to improve and stabilise.

Rainy that doesn't sound wimpy in the slightest, you have to choose when you feel strong enough to embark on the testing process and then get all the support offered from all agencies.

I'm packing to go up north and mithering whether I should take any of my more slutty fancy underwear in case I decide to tup Mr Software. Hmmmm, tricky

Hey everyone, I've been talking to a guy for a couple of days now, he mentioned meeting! I said I'm on crutches and will meet if he comes to me! Now he has asked for my number! Problems are:

1. I'm on crutches so will have to wear jeans, nice top and uggs

2. fake nails are in a mess! Might try to paint over them

3. feel stupid on crutches

4. probably can't have much of this

but still want to go if he wants to come here!

Also a guy I messaged days ago looked at my profile then didn't reply until a couple of days later with a not very chatty message, he looks quite sexy tho, should I message him back?

Thanks Kin, go on take it you never know when you'll need it.

My ADs took about 5 weeks to completely kick in.

Take your very best underwear Kin, I would. Ordered a lovely aubade bra today, need someone to model it to!

I am not really missing LM himself but I'm missing having someone there and be able to text or call or send silly stuff to. And missing the sex. I just want someone proper, had enough of rubbish blokes. Where are all the good ones? I'm feeling a bit bored and lonely this weekend.

Oh now the guy is asking me to send him a recent picture of myself, I said I don't really have any recent ones and all of my photos are on Facebook, which he's on! He said so take one!

I hate it when people keep asking me for bloody pictures on whatsapp it annoys me! He's seen enough bloody pictures!

There is something in the air snape Mr R&R has just texted. Coming home tonight or early tomorrow morning.

Seeing him Monday night. I am very happy [busmile]