Feeling shaken over DH's overreaction to my stupid behaviour

[WonkyBookshelf]

Toddler and I were sat on the floor playing. I was feeling a bit ignored by DH, who was sitting at the computer while we played, so I jokingly chucked the wet nappy I'd just changed at him (it was balled up). My aim is shit so I accidentally caught his glasses and knocked them off (was aiming for his chest).

I fully expected him to be pissed off by my frankly stupid behaviour, but he totally overreacted. He shouted something incoherent and threw the nappy really hard at the floor, where it burst and covered DS and I in those little gel balls it's filled with. DS was upset by the mess as he got some in his hair and it was all over me.

I feel sick and a bit shaky but also stupid because I should never have thrown the nappy at him in the first place. Things have been quite tense recently as we are both feeling stressed so it shouldn't have been a surprise that he wouldn't have found it funny, even if it hadn't knocked his glasses off. But still, he was disproportionately angry and I hate that DS saw that. I'm also 7.5 months pregnant :(.

[pinguthepenguin]

Nolittle- your behaviour on this thread has been absolutely disgusting. I'm horrified.

OP I hope you come back and start a new thread.

[MadameOvary]

Definitely NOT MN at its best. It quickly became clear the incident was symptomatic of bigger issues but the OP still got lost in the ensuing bunfight.
OP sounded weary and vulnerable, not entitled and aggressive. Hope this thread gets deleted TBH.

[Ihatexmas]

Jesus, what a bitchfest. Poor OP. There were clearly deeper issues at play here and no need for the harsh comments.

[SirBoobAlot]

Fucking hell, some of you really should be ashamed of the things you have come out with on here.

A vulnerable, depressed woman in a relationship that she says is not okay and suffering with chronic pain badly enough for her to have to leave work early posts saying that she did something stupid, and her husband's reaction scared her... And some of you call her an abuser?

Christ of a bloody bike.

OP - that kind of messing around would have been totally normal in one of my old relationships, so understand that it would have been an average thing to do, which then got out of hand.

If you are still reading this, please speak to your midwife about the counselling that was suggested for you; it is possible to suffer from antenatal depression as well as post-natal, and even just having a support network in place to talk through the relationship issues you are (understandably) hesitant to post here may be useful.

Also, have you been offered any physio or water therapy for your SPD? I know how much it hurts, and how miserable it is.

And maybe consider starting a separate thread with a name change if needed to share the bigger issues within your relationship. This thread has been an absolute disgust, but MN is normally a wonderful supportive place to be.

[MTBMummy]

Just wanted to add my support for the OP if she ever comes back.

I completely understand that level of horsing around as DP and I have done it ourselves.

I think your DP's reaction was disproportionate if this is the way you normally just muck about.

Hoping you do find a way to resolve this wonky

[MardyArsedMidlander]

I think that the problem with any sort of physical horseplay is that it can get out of hand, and if the other person is not in the right mood- then there will be tears and shouting and much misunderstandings. Far better if you are angry with your partner, to tell them.
Frankly, if I'd been hit in the face I'd go bloody ballistic- and it wouldn't be very edifying for anybody...