Feeling shaken over DH's overreaction to my stupid behaviour

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Toddler and I were sat on the floor playing. I was feeling a bit ignored by DH, who was sitting at the computer while we played, so I jokingly chucked the wet nappy I'd just changed at him (it was balled up). My aim is shit so I accidentally caught his glasses and knocked them off (was aiming for his chest).

I fully expected him to be pissed off by my frankly stupid behaviour, but he totally overreacted. He shouted something incoherent and threw the nappy really hard at the floor, where it burst and covered DS and I in those little gel balls it's filled with. DS was upset by the mess as he got some in his hair and it was all over me.

I feel sick and a bit shaky but also stupid because I should never have thrown the nappy at him in the first place. Things have been quite tense recently as we are both feeling stressed so it shouldn't have been a surprise that he wouldn't have found it funny, even if it hadn't knocked his glasses off. But still, he was disproportionately angry and I hate that DS saw that. I'm also 7.5 months pregnant :(.

Have you actually read the thread and my last response Sabrina, or are you just here to attack me again?!

Morris, what's so horrible exactly? Compared to some of the threads I've seen on here about abusive relationships/ Partner's Op's relationship is a fucking picnic

I thought Op's post was against the spirit tbh

It's not on to compare one poster's problems to another though, is it?

I wasn't comparing, I was contextualizing and trying to give perspective

NoLittle
Aren't you a charmer. Hope you don't ever seek any advice on here for your little problems.

Just because someone is worse off, doesn't mean that the problems the OP is dealing with is not upsetting.

I bet you are the kind of person who answers a whinge about a headache with a 'be grateful you don't have a brain tumour'.

Nolittlebuddha I can almost see the venom dripping off your words. You are stunningly horrible but that's obviously what you get off on so I shan't feed you anymore. I don't think anyone else should engage either.

nolittlebuddahs - 'totally unreasonable and disgusting actions' - and you think the OP's reactions are ridiculous??

What the hell is going on here? I'm pretty new but I thought posting in 'relationships' would presuppose some serious problem, some deep upset. If she simply wanted to know whether she was being unreasonable about his reaction she could have posted in AIBU and people could have flamed accordingly.

The way this thread has gone I would certainly think twice about airing any problem here.

So to qualify for help on the relationships board you have to be in an abusive relationship?

Come on now you're digging a hole. It might be a picnic to you but its not for her so if you cant think of something supportive why even post.

Its not a competition to see who has the worst relationship.

Ok but is she is depressed then your contextualising is not going to achieve anything other than making her feel worse. How is that helpful or constructive?

She was wrong. She said, other posters said it. There's a bigger issue so what do you hope to achieve by being nasty to her?

*if

Urine= human waste. Throwing Nappy containing enough waste to burst into crystals, at the head of someone you are meant to love, out of annoyance, is disgusting and unreasonable.

Soul
in my experience, the reaction of MNetters to a thread depends on the first half dozen replies. It could go either way.

Please don't feel that you couldn't ask for advice on MN. This thread shows that at least some of the posters are willing to look past the initial OP and try and help find answers.

Its not anout the nappy ffs!

I'm really saddened by the unpleasantness in these responses. This is supposed to be a safe place to constructively discuss issues, and OP, whether she was right or wrong, has just been hounded off.

saycheese I never said any of those things. She was being v. self pitying and wanted us to justify her guilt by making DP out to be the bad guy, classic abusers trick.

It is about the Nappy, she was being spiteful because she felt ignored, childish

It can only be about the nappy, because we don't know what, if there are other issues

Bloody hell, Nolittle now you're accusing her of being an abuser?! Don't you think you're going a bit too far here?

If everyone stops engaging, it might go away

Whats wrong with self pity if you're potentially depressed, suffering from chronic pain and stressed.
Its a pretty common human emotion.

I agree she was wrong to throw it but to call her an abuser? Words fail me.

Extra it was abusive.

Proud - you are extremely rude to refer to me as it! ffs

Good idea Proudnscary.

OP I hope you are ok.

Self pity is useless, I say this as someone currently taking AD's btw