Startingagain trying to move forward, without nightmare EXP

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New thread for my ongoing journey of trying to detached from my nightmare, exp while trying to hold on to my sanity :(

Old thread here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1437647-Starting-Again-Moving-Forward-Onwards-and-Upwards

Hoping that you are having some fun now the sun is finally shining, and that all is sorted about job start next week

starting, I am a bit worried about you now. Hope all is ok and you are enjoying your weekend in the sun.

Hi Starting, Hope you are just busy and enjoying yourself and I know you are starting your new job on Monday.
But hope you are ok. We are worried about you.

Yeah me too. Hope there's no fuckwittery upsetting you

I keep checking in too

Hi starting how are you doing? Nice weather at the moment.

Hi Everyone,

Sorry! , i havent updated for a while :)

Been busy, enjoying the lovely weather, sorting out the house,garage and garden- clearing out rubbish, hanging curtains, painting, sorting out crap in garage etc etc, spend yesterday and today in the garden. Went out for a lovely meal on Friday.......

Surprisingly I haven't thought much about arsewipe and the house thing- im leaving it in the hands of collaborate, he has asked exdp to put his case in detail, because basically the first letter received was just asking for money!! We will wait and see what comes back from him- until then im getting my proof together!!

Job start has been delayed, as the organisation i will be contracting to is finalising the contract with the end client- i dont mind waiting a couple more weeks....this week in particular i have started to feel the liberation of being able to do the things I want, when i want, im actually starting to enjoy myself! :)

Sounds like all is good on the starting front. So what was this meal friday?

So pleased you are enjoying life and getting on with things, you sound positive, bright & breezy :)

I am so pleased that you are ok. And like mabumble said, you sound happy, positive and are very much getting on with things.

Good for you. I wish you lots of fun and happiness for your future.

so, ex hasnt been in touch then?

Thank you!! :) Went for a lovely Italian with sailing girl, sat out on a veranda overlooking the beach, the weather was glorious.......cheered me up no end. There is a regatta on next week locally, and we will be going for a sail- (ill let you know if i survive)! :)

Jax, Im trying- i still feel low sometimes- but that is becoming less and less- twunt hasn't contacted me since Monday- Collaborate has written to his solicitor again asking him not to contact me (he seemed to ignore the first request as he was trying to call/ texting every day- looking to 'have a chat' or meet- looking for money of course.) I haven't replied/spoken to him since the day he forced his way into the house.

Saw him in a car with the OW on Saturday-(I have an idea of what she looks like) and he tried to lean right back so i wouldn't see him!!- I think he is actually quite ashamed of what he is trying to do re the house- he knows its dishonest and low- doesn't stop him trying though!! :)

I think that he and the OW are back together- as I have seen his van parked in the same place a few times this week- in an area where i know she lives...and im sure that it was her i saw him with in the car on saturday!!

Starting! so good to hear from you!

I dont think he ever did leave the ow tbh..it was all a ploy by him to get money. Im happy to see collaberate is doing a good job for you..keep on keeping on and big hugs X

Oh starting so pleased to hear you're having fun! Ha ha twunt busted with ow!!

TLNL, you could be right...he definitely was living with a friend for a while, but that could have been part of the 'poor me- please help' plan too.

Midwife...he was busted indeed!- his face was a picture- he was squirming in his seat - i didnt even acknowledge that i had seen them- i really didnt care i was singing along to the radio at the time! :)

I think i might order a Chinese tonight for doggy and I!

Oi stop it starting. No thinking about what he feels/thinks. You know full well he is all about himself. There is not a shred of decency or compassion with this man. No guilt in the slightest.

Glad you are getting on with things and having a nice time.

Seriously if he ignores Collaborate's letter and is still calling/texting every day send a letter to his solicitor and advise him that if he doesn't desist you will go to the police about harrassment. You can do this yourself without using collaborate and he will have to pay his solicitor.

Funny that as soon as she comes back from her mythical trip away alone they are instantly back together. A little like he didn't leave at all.

Poor cow what a lovely man she has that goes telling his ex he loves her, is sorry and wants to try again. Then the instant he is told where to get off goes back to her to keep his dick wet.

£20 says she went to visit family in Ireland for a couple of days (was too ashamed of him to take him or let him stay with her white carpets alone) so he used to opportunity to try to play you

Har de har! I can just picture it! You singing "I have a lovely house & car & a fab job in London tra la la la la"! Him "Oh fuck there she is, quick duck!"

dont dare feel sorry for him! He doesnt deserve it.

You have danced to his fiddle for years, now you are singing along to the radio - to all sorts of tunes. Good stuff.

I can imagine him squirming, HA! good enough for him.

Phew - glad you've been out n about enjoying yourself!

It's great to think of you having fun in this weather - and it's great that they'll have seen you singing along to the radio like you don't have a care in the world (even if you do have a couple) :)

"arsewipe" like it !!!!!!!!!!

Good to hear you are well and feeling happier

That all sounds good starting I'm glad you are moving on and getting things sorted xx