1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

[lubeybooby]

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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Wey Hey!! Love your post, especially the but about standards Quality is definitely better than quantity, well, imo

Morning adamschic Maybe the guy you messaged just hasn't had time to reply yet. Don't write him off just yet . If he doesn't reply then he isn't good enough for you. NEXT......................!

Cross post, Watch, don't give your number out unless you are really interested but I think you have already decided that. I couldn't keep up with all the texts. Creepy having your 7 yr old looking with you. I wouldn't reply tbh. Date no. 1 sounds really nice, no. 2 sounds like a total player so you will probably have a fun night with him but be cautious. Hope they both go well.

Better get dressed I suppose.

Cross post. Time but I do find them abit meh when you contact them as opposed to them contacting you. Will give him more time. He wasn't all that anyway NEXT!

i dont know adams - i think sometimes thats the case. or they are just not interested for whatever reason. impossible to guess.

hells - i agree with adams - if its meant to be, it will be. Ive had connections with people in the past ( and like you, its a rare thing. But complications have got in the way... its shit, eat some chocolate, sulk and feel better tomorrow)

am currently chatting to 'mr inappropiate gutiar player' on msn while at work. and swooning. #pathetic :)

Hey watch, I had been wondering where you'd got to! Pleased the profile is making a difference, and yes always remember those standards! Ignore family making crappy, negative comments. Internet dating has worked for loads who are very happy and have popped on to these threads to say so.

Agree with adamschic re: your number, only give it out when you are definitely interested and a date has been arranged... otherwise it will just annoy you.

I did have a date which was good but not heard from him since, I had a great time but I don't think he fancied me. it's ok though I will contact him and suggest a gig date, perhaps say something about no pressure just friends... because I need a gig buddy!

And yes i did get unexpectedly laid. An old FWB to thank for that :o

yeah. number will not be given out quite so randomly any more.
Ive had a few texts this weekend from a number i dont know, asking who i am. And im guessing thats something to do with some males girlfriend/wife or god knows what.
????

yeah. Im not sure that he is a player and isnt more just honest about how he is.
Hes spoken to me about it and says he ended a 3 year relationship because of it, because he needs time to do his own things too and it wasnt like that and hes not good with being forced into couplehood. he likes to do things he likes and thats how he would rather live his life.
To be honest, im a bit the same. Having been doing some thinking, i dont want someone around all the time, i would drive me nuts, as would sitting in watching tv with them, or doing things round the house with them. Ive been on my own too long ( i was married to someone in the army before.. so spend most of my adult life on my own). I dont want to share a house with anyone ( or its very very unlikely) and i dont want someones bags in my house unless ive said its ok. What i DO want, is someone interesting, and fun and fireworks and fantastic sex and a bit of company, but thats not going to encroach on the rest of my life too much.
Im not a player.. im just being honest about what i want. maybe its the same for him.
hes not been smutty, or really flirty or crude or sexual at all, hes just been really interesting.

Anyway, hes says he wants to call me, and is doing so this evening and we are going to work out a date or something from there.

Did i also mention hes scruffy, and plays the guitar AND has a very good job.

Sounds like it watch re: the odd texts... eek!

Well this guitar playing chap sounds fine. As long as you are both clear about what you want, and both know that even if it's true lurrrve and there are feelings, it will still be on the same terms (namely you both have your own space and time etc) ... then why not? Hope it goes well for you watch :o

Morning :)

Just had a message, on OKCupid. It was actually a decent message, just a pity he isn't a few inches taller

having never had a relationship actually ever, with someone in the same town, ie - ive always done long distance things, and then being with somone who was mostly not there ( i think one year i saw him for all of 6 weeks) im not very good at sharing the whole of my life with a man. I want to do my own thing and i dont want someone in my face the whole time.
Even if it was true love( which i doubt, because im not sure i believe in that at all) then that would still be the case.

interestingly enough, ive had the same ' who is this' message from the same number about 2 months ago. They wont say who they are either. But i think its weird.

That is weird re the phone number. Can you block them?

Just had a closer look at the profile of the man who's contacted me on OKCupid and he's a smoker. That's definitely a no no from me.

I had a telephone conversation with someone last night who decided to share the fact he really wanted to be dominant sexually, and then to swap roles so I could "mother" him in a rather disciplinarian way.

I told him I already had one child thank you very much.

Yikes Don! Another nice comeback though.

My date for Wednesday, the one that got rearranged twice last week and he possibly fibbed the time he cancelled.... the one that got himself busted on FB. He has just text me to cancel again saying he has personal stuff to work through and doesn't think it would be fair to meet.

Le sigh.

Le eyeroll.

Fine... NEXT!

nice don. Seriously, why?? and what on earth does he think your reaction is going to be?

anyway, i feel like a bitch.
I got messaged by a blank pic on pof yesterday but did reply, because the message was really funny, we chatted a a few messages, he said if i joined on his facebook i could see him. Being a curious person i agreed and man, yes he is young 26, but really unattractive. So, i thought i was being shallow ( because it is a bit) but then he said he wanted to cook for me and i could go over to his because his parents ( he lives at home) are not there this weekend. So i knew then i had to tell him no. Which i did this morning. I just said he was too young... and then ive had another etxt from him saying could he maybe lie about his age because he had the most fun talking to me.
I feel bad.
But there is no way i could date him. In a million years.

lubey - ah, yes, ive come across that type before as well. Cock!
block, delete off fb and next!

Don't waste anymore of your time on him lubey

yeah lubey - fb initals before you delete.
you are worth way more than that.

bloody stupid boy is now trying emotional blackmail via text to get me to reconsider. fuckwit.

Just got made a favourite of a seemingly nice man. In fact he is wearing chefs whites, but then admitted on his profile he only came across gruyere cheese for the first time the other day.

Standards tell me no.

"hello ! nice smail"

I've always admired your smail, Chaotic! Very fetching!

Hi Watch - wondered where you had got to.

Lubey definately a NEXT if he is messing you around even before you have met

I've had quite a few message on POF over the weekend but have deleted most if I simply don't fancy them enough. One of them seems OK so think I'll reply to him.

I was receiving texts from Mr Body ,most of yesterday but is very quiet today so is either busy or has changed his mind. We'll see. Before we met I had made a joke about bringing board games to play if we ran out of things to say so he brought 2 'connect 4' scratch cards for us to do which I thought was sweet and funny.

Why, thank you.

I've just looked at another profile where the man has a dog as his profile picture. He's also admitted he's only looking for casual fun and claims to be good at oral sex. I suspect the dog's pic is there cos the dog is the better looking of the two

Just about to reply so someone elso on POF when I noticed his profile says 'go kickboxing once a week and also gym so nice flat tummy and tight ass' 'he wants a thin to average woman' If that wasn't bad enough he has then put 'UPDATE: Is it me or are there so many fakes and players on here, time wasters and prick teasers and some women so far up their own ass they can see their tonsils......'

Ummm delete

Oh, yes, delete.