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1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

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lubeybooby · 29/09/2011 14:40

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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lubeybooby · 02/10/2011 23:01

what number has he got on the end of his name? Only ones with numbers coming up here...

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HairyGrotter · 02/10/2011 23:03

Just comes up as muscletone...his title is muscletone : If Carlsberg did players. Theyd b my top students

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lubeybooby · 02/10/2011 23:04

Oh hang on will try searching again

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lubeybooby · 02/10/2011 23:05

Nope it's only bringing three up for me, two are the same guy with different profiles but all have numbers on the end

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TimeForMeIsFree · 02/10/2011 23:05

I've got three muscletones. One with ears like wing nuts

HairyGrotter · 02/10/2011 23:06

Wingnuts guy!

TimeForMeIsFree · 02/10/2011 23:07

I'm getting the same as you lubey I thought that was the same guy!

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lubeybooby · 02/10/2011 23:08

Oh that's weird, so it's him but of the two profiles that are his, neither say the carlsberg line....

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HairyGrotter · 02/10/2011 23:10

That is weird, because neither of those profiles matches the profile he sent the message from, so he has 3!

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lubeybooby · 02/10/2011 23:11

He must have hidden one, they don't come up in searches but you can still see if you have a direct link, like a message from them

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lubeybooby · 02/10/2011 23:11

Drop me a PM with the link....

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TimeForMeIsFree · 02/10/2011 23:11

Is that him?? Eugh, my nose is nearly on my forehead!! Those girls he has his arm around look petrified!

HairyGrotter · 02/10/2011 23:27

Sent you the PM lubes

TimeForMeIsFree · 02/10/2011 23:30

That just takes us back to homepage Hairy Grin

HairyGrotter · 02/10/2011 23:38

Fucks sake, maybe he has it on private or something.

adamschic · 03/10/2011 00:03

What's his username 'muscletones' ? Will have a look when I have nothing else to do Grin.

Did have to spell it out to my neighbour, think I was considerate. Got a message off someone who I've ignored 10 times already. Had the unfortunate experience of meeting him at the only POF party I went to 4 yrs ago! It's not happening mate! found the block button before I reached for the whisky bottle.

Who ever said internet dating was fun, obviously never actually tried it.

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lubeybooby · 03/10/2011 01:41

The link works for me, need to be logged in though. Most awful profile i've ever seen!

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hellsbells76 · 03/10/2011 09:25

Happy Monday all! How were your weekends?

I'm feeling a tiny bit gutted. Went out clubbing with friends from home on Saturday night, about 3 hours drive from here. There was a guy I hadn't met before and we just clicked straight away. Spent half the night outside smoking chatting. I sounded out another friend about him - she said she didn't know him very well but was fairly sure he had a partner. Bah. So towards the end of the night we were sitting next to each other and he did the old casual fake-yawn-accidentally-draping-arm-over-shoulder-thing (classics never die) and started stroking my face and saying 'oh why do you live so far away?'. I wasn't too pissed to have abandoned all my principles so I said 'er, aren't you with someone?' he grimaced and said 'let's not go there - I'm in the middle of a messy marriage breakup'. I extricated myself and went back on the dancefloor and had to leave soon after because our friend who was driving was ready to go. He gave me a massive hug, told me I was amazing and to add him on fb.

So....even though I didn't get a chance to find out the circumstances of just how broken his marriage is I know it would be deeply foolish to go there (he's either with someone or very newly on the rebound, lives hundreds of miles away etc) but I haven't been able to stop thinking about him all weekend. It's been ages since I met someone I liked that much. And I can't help wishing I hadn't been told about the possible gf/wife and could at least have had a snog in blissful ignorance...BAH and double BAH.

Haven't added him on fb but only because I can't find him. Just looked at POF and really can't be arsed with any of them. Oh he was lovely. This hardly ever happens to me and when it does it's always so bloody complicated. Sorry, just wanted to vent!

hellsbells76 · 03/10/2011 09:33

oh and I've had a reply from the tosser whose initial message was 'when will you get a job'. I replied remarking on what a strange first question it was and he said 'well yes but it got your attention'. Because I am pissed off this morning, he's just had this back:

"Well yeah, it got my attention in the same way a toddler
shitting on the carpet gets my attention. Most people grow
out of the idea that any attention is positive at about,
ooh, three?"

TimeForMeIsFree · 03/10/2011 09:34

How do men manage to move on so easily? He is in the middle of a messy marriage break up so he's not even properly broken up yet and already he is trying it on with you hellsbells. I wonder what it is about men that enables them to do this? Just curious. There is a saying though that men are like monkeys, they don't let go of one branch until they have hold of another. Could be some truth in that. Not that I'm relating you to a branch you understand hells Grin

Any way, don't fret, he is only 'lovely' from what you saw of him, console yourself with the fact that he is involved in a messy marriage break up so can't really be 'all that' Wink

lubey I'm not a member of POF any more so that will explain why I can't see Mr Muscles profile.

HairyGrotter · 03/10/2011 09:34

Oh Hellsbells, that sucks major donkey dick :(

I've had that happen a few times, it's always hard. It's so rare for me to 'click' with someone on such a level, and when it does happen, 9 times out of 10 it's too complicated due to other factors Angry.

Give it a few days, you'll be right as rain

TimeForMeIsFree · 03/10/2011 09:35

Grin great come back hells but Shock at his comment in the first place! How very dare he!

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lubeybooby · 03/10/2011 09:51

Hmm... well I was dating a month after I left my exh. I moved on so quickly because it had been a long time dead. I never shed one single tear in fact.... all the grieving had already been done long before I left. I did have my own place though, and we never had children so it was neat rather than messy. It might be worth finding out what the exact situation is... he could be still in the marital home and has not yet even informed his mrs they are 'splitting'. He might be seperated but still living there until they sell. He might be long gone but in a wrangle over divorce and custody etc.

And yes great comeback hells :o

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watchoutforthatsnail · 03/10/2011 10:06

morning ;)

This thread moves so fast, ive been offline a few days and i feel out of the loop.... ive read some, but then im at work and posting.. so havent got time. so if the next bit seems weird, you know why!

Zany - glad it went ok.. you seeing him again?
Shiney, so, are you all official with mr 3rd date now then?
lubey - you had a date? and...? and did i read you got unexpectadley laid? :)

I can report back that profiles do actually make a difference, i thought they didnt, but ive had a ridiclous amount of messages since changing mine, from better men as well.

Saying that, i hit a new low on saturday, when this beauty arrived in my inbox
'lovely pics even my 7yr old son said wow shes sexy daddy hehe xx'
WTF if anyone can come up a pithy response as to why its so wrong to be trawling for women with your 7 year old son and rating 'sexyness' of women... then please feel free and ill send it. FFS!

Aive been chatting to a few/about 8 men. All of which have my number. All of which have asked me out. Do you know how many date of those im actually going to go on? NONE.
One was 26 and still living at home.. and shallow of me it may be but he was not attractive on any level, despite being very funny.
One guy has been texting me and lovely as he seems i cant be arsed to reply, hes not interesting at all to me, so there is no point me goiing.
The rest, same thing, not really interesting. I cant even remember their names, ffs. So, im not going.

The post about slipping standards totally changed the way ive been going at this, and that has definatley been the case. Slipping standards and comments from well meaning family about being past it and looking for something thats not going to be there. Thing is, im quite happy being on my own most of the time, and im not sure a totally committed, full on relationship is something i could handle. With this in mind, and knowing that i want fireworks and could never be happy settling, ive decided not to even bother going on a date if i dont feel like its going to work for me. Which means no more ' giving them a chance because they might be a nice guy' and no more ' just going along to see what happens' Thats just never going to work out for me, and it hasnt in over 2 years.

I do however have two dates, one for in a few weeks time with someone who seems like a huge amount of fun and is definatley interesting. Im going off to his town ( hes just moved there, its a 40 min train ride for me) and we are going to get lost in the city and drink rum and talk about travelling and catch some bands and things. Hes a cool guy. ( he wanted to meet sooner, but im busy)

Then, ive been talking to this other guy who is really really interesting to me for about a week, and we had some time on msn last night. Hes scruffy, and stubbly, and has the most amazing hair, hes a guiarist and has a mightly big ego. AND a slight touch of arrogance. Needless to say im swooning. We have a ton in common and i can tell it would be an awesome night out. He has said in his profile hes not very good at long term and would rather say that up front.
meh - slaps self round face for being a silly girl - again!
We are going to go out sometime, hes asked, ive been vauge about dates.

adamschic · 03/10/2011 10:11

Morning, I'm trying to relish my Mondays off as they are coming to an end in a few weeks time. I'm going to be working full time Sad. Opportunity came up and as my DC is 18 soon I won't be receiving my small but lovely top up which makes it possible to stay home one day in the week. Got the dentist later!

Hells, it's great to make a connection like that but he is a long way away, you don't know if he is with someone and on the pull every weekend, and I'm a firm believer of if it's meant to be it will be. You will be right in a week. Love the comeback, send it.

I sent a message last night, he looked OK but it was more something he said in his profile that caught my eye. He hasn't replied so far. Seems to be the way. What is it with these men they seem to think you are worth more and do the chasing if it's them that made initial contact. Is that just my experience?