1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

[lubeybooby]

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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Thank you Watch that was a lovely message. I agree with having to be tough. Also I am aware that I need to lose a stone and I had my hair cut short in the summer which I don't like so don't feel very confident in myself either.

Oh zany - really, dont be down on yourself. You look fab on your fb pics. You really do.
Please dont let your insecurites make you think that that was why its not gone any further with mr body and that its your fault and you are not good enough.
That is NOT TRUE.
It probably just wasnt meant to be, ( and he still might ask you out again)
There are millions of other women who are way more unattracive, or fatter, or less clever, or less funny, or less ANYTHING, that manage to be in a relationship. Really, its not you. Please dont think that it is.
AND, ive seen mr bodys pics and i think you are way better looking that he is, by quite a lot.

possibly needs to take own advice

Zany - watch is right, you are being too down on yourself. A couple of months back I was involved in a 'thing' with someone that I really really liked. It didnt work out and I spent a while afterward wondering what was wrong with me, why he wasnt interested. The fact of the matter is there could have been any number of reasons, and most of them may not have had anything to do with me personally. I now know its because he is a player and especially likes vulnerable women judging by his most recent victim but the point remains that the chances are mr body and his hesitation to actually cement a date down, is probably nothing to do with your weight or your looks.

You need to turn the situation around. Remind yourself of what you are actually looking for...presumably someone you dont have to chase, drop major hints then actually just end up asking. You are better than that, you deserve a chap that will at the very least meet you half way. If you are feeling really low with your confidence, it may be that you are right, you may be better off taking a little break from the dating scene, focusing on you, then in a month or so, when you feel ready, get back out there. But whatever you do, dont let some bloke you barely know leave you feeling bad about yourself.

round of applause for stay ''But whatever you do, dont let some bloke you barely know leave you feeling bad about yourself.''

Fucking true!!!

I think online dating is really really good at helping you find out what you dont want... so, actually shows you what you do want. And that is ' someone who is keen on you, and shows an interest' not someone who faffs about and who you have to chase and then who STILL doenst comitt to anything.... ( because thats not going to make anyones self esteme feel good)
So - next time, you will have learnt this and at the first sign of faffiing you will either cancel the date, or just dump and move on.

You know dating is a two way thing, its not just about you having to be this perfect version of yourself to impress someone. Its also about them trying to make a good impression on you... and YOU seeing if YOU want to see them again.. if they are worth of YOUR attention.

Ahh thank you Stay as well for a much needed boost.

I was thinking that I'll have a last quick look at POF just to see if there is anyone worth looking at so I did a search but accidently put female looking for a male.....well....guess who came up as 'online now'.....

Is the suspense killing you yet.

My XH girlfriend who he has been in a relationship with for a year!!

well theres a surprise! Message her and ask her if she needs some pointers!

OOOOOH!! that's very interesting. What would happen if he were to get an anonymous email with a link to her page?

So tempted to look properly at her profile but then she will know I have looked. I have heard from the DC's that things aren't going too well for them at the moment

Give me her username, I'll do you a screengrab

at Hells - I am in a rather bitchy mood

Fuck I'm glad I'm on the same side as you girls! :-)

zany - if you log out, do the same search... then you will be able to look and she wont know you have.

( not that im a top internet stalker at all)

:)

Just looked at her profile ans it's not her, looks very simular though withthe same unusual nickname. Sorry gossip fest over

ah well. The messenger always gets shot anyhow

Haven't caught up on this yet but it's time for a new thread, I know we are not near the end yet but just trust me this needs to fall off the page.... someone start one please I don't wanna be the OP again :o

lubey - whats up?

started a new one.

link anyone?

Are we supposed to fill this one up first?

JUst got a text from Mr Body as he has just woken up after his night shift sleep. Mixed messagessssssssssssssssssssssssssss

Just received this from POF after I had very briefly replied to a message saying that he liked my profile.

'av bin good thanx. av got my children this weekend-so if you are up in newark-pop in for a cuppa-they go to sleep around 8 0r 9 ish depending what we hav dun in the day and where we hav bin'

Trying to decide what message to reply with, does he really think that I am going to drive round to see a complete stranger just because he has his kids and they are alseep upstairs@ I could be the axe murderer

No, you're supposed to move to the new one, you doofus

YES PLEASE MOVE ALONG TO THE NEW THREAD AND DONT BUMP THIS ONE THANK YE KINDLY CLICK THIS ERE HANDY LINK. CHEERS!