1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

[lubeybooby]

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

old thread

Oh he is J E L on my fb, if he hasn't removed me yet... I've been off doing some work and didn't think to take him off. It's a crap pic though you can't see him really, he is with his kids at warwick castle in it. However on okcupid he is j a s_ 1 9 7 2 not really much to look at but he seemed a nice guy and we got on well chatting. It was worth a date to see what he is like in RL... with the STRONG emphasis on was ... no longer!!

Chaotic I love your smail too :o

Zany nooo don't reply!

Watch I feel very much the same way as you with regards to sharing my space. I can't see myself ever wanting to live with a bloke again, especially after reading the thread where the OP has just moved in with her DP and can't even have a bath in peace!

I've just been thinking about this on my walk into town and suddenly wondered if this is why I have, subconsciously, chosen emotionally unavailable men as partners. Just a thought.

Are we having a competition for tackiest, whackiest message cos if we are I would like to enter this one "hi jordan, I'm peter andre. i believe we have met previously in another life on those dreadful reality shows.
Anyway i just had to stop by to congratulate you knowing that your search is finally over as i believe I'M THE missing link in your life.
as im sure your itching to agree with me, why not let me know so we can make another series together. i really could do with the money honestly lol.
ps. you're sooo hot i got an instant suntan just by looking at you! You look well sexy!!!"

For me sins I am still enjoying really good conversation, via Smooch, with the 25 yr old. Very mature for his age. And cute. But too young, unfortunately

Definitely out of his league lubey!!!

Bin him off. Standards!

He is binned don't worry :o

So, what shall I say to Mr Friday? He hasn't been in touch, he has looked at my profile a couple of times though

I want to send him a message and maybe suggest meeting again or a gig, but I don't know if I should say anything about just being friends or not because I don't want to put that idea in his head if that for some reason isn't what he is thinking.... I dunnnnoooo... help!

Oh, wow, Time the class of that message should have you swooning...not

I agree Shiney. Leave the ball in his court now. Remember boy time is very different to ours. And try and move on mentally from him. that way its a nice surprise if he does contact you.

Oh really... you think?

See, that's what I'd usually do, and have done many many many a time... as per what I was I was saying earlier in the thread about giving a little encouragement and making it clear I'm interested... but then leaving it totally. I'm not a hanger onner! I'm just definitely up for a friendship due to his excellent taste in music and I do need a gig buddy. I've wanted one for months. I was also wondering if he may be a slow burner due to his break up being quite recent

I will leave it though if you really think that's better? [shrugs]

It had me curling my nose up Chaotic What a prat!

Lubey I would set a deadline for Mr Friday to call/text and if you haven't heard from him by then, move on. If he contacts you after said deadline, depending on how long after, tell us reassess the situation because you do not want to be this man's time filler just because he has no one else on the go. standards iyswim?

See, now its complicated cos it's switched from possible relationship to friendship! I would say, if you have no hidden agenda and want him purely as a friend then there is not harm in texting him. Why lose out on a potentially good friendship?

I have to admit that these men do us a favour by sending these messages as at least we then don't waste time talking/going on a date with them

lubey - id leave it. without a doubt, if a man is interested, he will conatact you. no amout of reminding him you exisit ( even in the form of a gig buddy) will change things. Dont settle for second best, you want to be with somone who wants to be with you.

lubey - you could see his pics, looks arent everything but you are way out of his league!

time - god. that message!!!
and yes, probably why i do the same as well.

the stupid young boy is seriously pissing me off because hes texting me about every 30 mins, about how hes brought this rum ( what, between 7pm last night and 8 am this morning, when its not stocked in most places) and how its my fault and he will have to drink it all and its my fault if something happens.
Honestly.
WTF!

i cant block texts, only calls :(

totally agree with shiney.

she speaks sense.

Shiney -so, whens the big day then? lol

I wonder if the blokes receive similar messages from women?

watch if you can manage it, just delete the texts without reading. Don't respond. He will either get tired of being ignored or run out of credit!

My ex H took AD's for a while and they made him sweat like a pig! They also affected his ability to climax, took him aaaaages!! He could be on anti anxiety meds for the OCD.

He has been open with you about his problems, seeing the psychiatrist etc so I don't see a problem with you asking if he takes medication. He might welcome the chance to talk about it before the wedding

unless he is on a contract. im just ignoring them.

so - you are 'ok' with seeing him, the phone thing is ok now? if i was seeing someone i would want to know what was going on regarding meds and any mental health issues i think.

blimey shiney, he could be a midnight strangler.

If he has ocd, he might well be on an SSRI to lower his stress levels. And some do affect the libido.

I have to say I am not feeling it with your fiance.

I can't help feeling he's not the one for you, especially after your last sentence.

I swear OKCupid is becoming more like POF

In my 'you might like'... username: sucmeslowly, pic: from waist up, topless.

I suppose I should be glad it's not from the waist down