This all sounds horrendous. DS is 31. KCJS was a local school, we missed the 7+, nearly missed the 8+ but John Evans' secretary let me submit the application late.
The exam used to be in January. I got DS to do a practice paper over the holiday. We just dropped him off and collected him. He came out happy. They finished early and he said it was great because the head got out a pile of board games and just watched from the back.
He did have an interview after, with Dylan, who I think is still there, but they just talked about cricket.
In those days we got a proper letter with a handwritten note from the head.
If he hadn't got in we'd have sent him to Ibstock or St Johns. We only applied to put down a marker and get an idea of how he was likely to do.
It was a fab school and he has such close friends from it but reading this thread, all I can think is your poor, poor boys. Such awful intensity for seven year olds.