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Termination around 24 weeks

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CherryO88 · 19/08/2018 20:28

Firstly I cannot believe I am even having to contemplate. I am currently 21+3 pregnant with a very wanted and loved second pregnancy. All hell broke loose on Monday at my 20 week scan- baby has a major heart defect and she queried increased nuchal and slight rotation of the ankles. I have since seen a fetal cardiologist who diagnosed a complete AVSD probably with tetralogy of fallot. We have a 80% chance of this being due to Downs, although in my heart I know it is.
I am awaiting the harmony test and will have an amnio done with the fetal medical team on Thursday.
Once chromosomal syndrome is confirmed we are 90% we are not going to proceed with the pregnancy. This is due to our belief that the baby will not have a good quality of life and the road ahead is too uncertain and full of pain and suffering.
Has anyone any experience of a late term abortion? I live in NI so will have to travel and die to the laws here no medical professional has discussed this with me so far.
Thanks

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Summergarden · 11/09/2018 21:40

Oh Cherry, I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. You say you’re not inspirational or amazing but you really are, you’ve dealt with it so thoughtfully and lovingly. I would have made the same choice too and I’m so sorry that it was complicated by your having to travel.

Remember too that your story will offer comfort and supportive to other women who have to go through the same thing one day.

Sending love to you and your family.xx

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 11/09/2018 21:40

I am so sorry Cherry and tomhardysnextwife and everyone else who has lost a child... Thanks

My thoughts are with you and little Edith tonight. Look after yourselves.

Worieddd · 11/09/2018 21:50

CherryO88 You are amazing. Your last posts have made me weep but in a good way. I too had a stillbirth at 25 weeks and can relate to your words. Edith is a beautiful name.
Flowers

Eloisedublin123 · 11/09/2018 22:22

Bless u all x

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