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Bad news at 20 week scan, please help.

365 replies

No1worrier · 10/03/2021 09:02

I hope someone can tell me their experiences from something similar. I have just been told at my 20 week scan my little girl has something seriously wrong with her heart. I have been referred to the fetal medication unit to see a specialist cardiologist tomorrow. She is moving so much, heartbeat has been strong since was 6 and a half weeks pregnant, everything else like her brain, kidneys etc look fine but something is so badly wrong with her heart. I'm so confused 😥. The consultant at the hospital didn't say what he thought it looked like but he said it was serious and I will probably be given options, one being it is fixable, another is ending the pregnancy which we refuse to do! I am 21 weeks pregnant now so more than half way and I can't even think about ending it. All I know is she doesn't have the normal 4 chambers etc like a heart should have. Sorry I don't have much more information than this, we don't get to take notes away home with us at our hospital. Any input would be appreciated 💗

Sorry forgot to mention my down syndrome screening bloods came back as 1 in 99,000

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Iamdobby63 · 11/03/2021 19:44

I’m so sorry. X

Sprig1 · 11/03/2021 19:47

Oh, how sad for you all. I hope that giving birth is not too painful and that you get to spend some precious time with your beautiful baby. Be kind to yourself through the difficult times to come.

3AndStopping · 11/03/2021 19:47

@No1worrier I am so, so very sorry.

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MrsB2019x · 11/03/2021 19:48

Sending so much love to you and your beautiful girl 💖 x

Lochmorlich · 11/03/2021 19:50

So sorry to hear this sad news.
Wishing you strength to get through it all.Flowers

wasgoingmadinthecountry · 11/03/2021 19:51

OP, so sorry to hear your update. Nearly 26 years ago we received the devastating news that one of our twins had hypoplastic left heart. In three days it went from finding the pregnancy was twin to hearing about an umbilical hernia to finding one had a lethal problem identified by a team at King's London. It was a very difficult time. Writing it all down and good friends helped. We saw fantastic people when we were referred to Guy's in London.

Our baby didn't make it (her twin did) but it's still a very special time for me. In any future pregnancies I was lucky to go straight to Guy's. Please do take care. It's so hard.

Crosstrainer · 11/03/2021 19:55

Oh - I’m so sorry. Life can be so cruel sometimes. Please take care of yourself.

DollieBantrysPantry · 11/03/2021 19:55

Oh no, so so sorry 💐

Incogweeto · 11/03/2021 19:56

I’m so sorry, sweetheart.

She will always be your precious daughter and you’ll never stop being her mum.

Chosennone · 11/03/2021 19:56

So sorry to hear this 😔 sending you love and strength. Thinking of you and your little girl Flowers

Hopeisnotastrategy · 11/03/2021 19:57

Sending you strength. x

ChickenSoupForTheHmm · 11/03/2021 19:57

So sorry op absolutely heartbreaking.
I’m sending you love and strength for you and your precious baby xxxx

WombatChocolate · 11/03/2021 19:57

Very very sorry to read this. Our thoughts are with you xx

doodleygirl · 11/03/2021 19:57

Im so sorry for you and your family.

FolkyFoxFace · 11/03/2021 20:00

I'm so sorry, OP. Sending you so much strength. You're in my thoughts tonight. Xxx

2018SoFarSoGreat · 11/03/2021 20:02

I'm so sorry to read this. It is devastating news, and you must feel entirely broken.

That little girl has been loved from the get go; has known nothing but love. You've already been a great mum to her. That won't be forgotten. Flowers

KBILLY · 11/03/2021 20:05

I'm so sorry.

Dulcinae · 11/03/2021 20:07

I'm so sorry. Flowers

Hollywhiskey · 11/03/2021 20:07

Oh no, I'm so so sorry.

PopcornAndWine · 11/03/2021 20:08

I'm so, so sorry OP. That is devastating Thanks

Idbemonica1 · 11/03/2021 20:08

So sorry to read this OP, we are all here for you xxx

TH22 · 11/03/2021 20:09

I'm so sorry to hear this OP 😔 xx

Chica1990 · 11/03/2021 20:11

This is such sad news OP, I am so very sorry and wish there was something we could do. Please be kind to yourself and wishing you strength in this tough time ❤️

Cormoransjacket · 11/03/2021 20:14

I am so sorry.

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