Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads part 9

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New thread!

Delighted to see more ladies joining this thread! It makes me so happy to see our pregnancies progressing!

Had the day from hell today - my GTT test... It was like being in the Jeremy Kyle green room. I arrived at 8am for the first blood test (witch couldn't find my vein) after which I joined a load of vicky pollard-like chavs all downing copious amounts of lucozade. After drinking my lot, I was then told to "sit and relax" (WTF) in the waiting room for TWO painful hours before my final blood test. Due to not being able to find aforementioned vein, she massacred the same vein twice. It hurt. Next one will be the anti-D jab - Pink - didn't you have it today? How was it? Mine is in two weeks time.

Awww Daisy.... My DH has said all along he won't be fully intimate as he is petrified of something happening to the pg (after previous MCs). However, on a number of occasions I have suggested "all sorts of other things" we could do to be intimate but without going, erm "all the way". I can confirm we've done absolutely nothing even remotely intimate which leads me to believe there's more to it and he's put off me in some way. He's forever telling me / everyone we know how good I look pregnant and how attractive he finds me but the fact remains, we've not been "close" in any way. It actually pisses the hell out of me as I have been feeling extremely "physical" (sorry - can't bring myself to use any of the other words, especially as I am going to be meeting FOUR of you on Sunday!) I do think it's really important for the well being of our relationship, particularly as after little one is born, God knows how long it'll take before we revive that part of our relationship.

Enough of my rant....

Re. the antenatal threads, I read the relevant one regularly but have never posted. I just haven't bonded with the other ladies and feel it's too late. It's great to see what they're up to and get a less neurotic / fearful view of pregnancy (!). I confess I am a stalker rather than a poster.

Lots of my stuff arrived for the nursery - a big Amazon box containing the following items from the Kids Line Zanzibar range: a cot mobile, cotbed quilt (decorative), animal appliques for the wall, two cushions for the rocking chair and three wall pictures. The furniture will be white (Orchard range from M&Ps) and the colour scheme for the room is generally cream, a pale green and beige. DH thinks I've gone a bit jungle-mad as I even found some fab curtain ties for the cream and beige curtains that totally match the other stuff - www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Baby-Nursery-naugthy-play-monkey-curtain-tie-backs-2-/250852463360. I am also waiting for this rug to arrive - www.abbey-carpets.co.uk/product.php/2917/childrens-nursery-cheeky-monkey-rug. I may have gone extremely slightly OTT but I just couldn't resist it.... Yes, it is more for me than our little one who won't have a clue or care for many, many months.

Further to our list of unattractive pregnancy symptoms, I have some weird positive ones to post! 1) I used to have to wash my hair every day - I now don't (every 2 or even 3 days is fine) and 2) I now go to the toilet every day (after having horrendous constipation for years) -

Speaking of the Sunday London meet, I can't wait... BigMac suggested we have five minutes of decorum before we launch into uncensored conversation about fanjos and bumhold hair but I bet we'll all be quite conservative in the flesh. Collie - a tip for your northern meet - you might want to consider name badges (not necessarily to wear, can be placed on table!) I just figured that five of us at ours means ten names (online plus RL).

Yikes - have written a thesis... sorry All

Bollox, bollox, bollox - x-post with Lia66. I feel awful... Terrible news. I am so sorry that my post sounds so terribly trivial next to your heartbreaking news, Lia. I didn't know Magic but please pass on my condolences. Am so sorry. Words escape me....

Lara, don't be so harsh on yourself, you weren't to know the very sad news :(

lia thanks for letting everyone know - I'd come on here to tell people but am grateful you got here first. I think the list idea is lovely. I'm just trying to think of some appropriate wording to go with it - if anyone else has any ideas in the meantime, feel free to go ahead.

Lia, agreed and here is the list:

Wednesday 17th August 2011

Owlbooty - baby#1 41+3 weeks EDD 7th August
PrettyVacant - baby#1 38+4 weeks EDD 28th August
OrangeGloss ? baby#1 37+3 weeks EDD 4th September
Wombat33 - baby#1 36+4 weeks EDD 10 September
Daisybell - baby#1 36+1 weeks EDD 13 September
PinkFondantFancy - baby#1 34+2 weeks EDD 25 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 34 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 33+4 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 32+4 weeks EDD 7 October
IreneHeron - DS no 2, 30+3 weeks, EDD 23rd Oct.
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 30+2 weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 30+2 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 30+1 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 28+5 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 28+4 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 27+6 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 26+3 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 25+6 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 25+5 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 25+45wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 25+1 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 24+2 wks EDD 5th December
Minnie74 -baby1 22+6 wks EDD 15th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 21+6 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 21+6 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 20wks EDD 5th Jan

Waiting to join the list (lurkers):
Please add yourselves in if you wish!

MIA
Tigerbear - baby#1 EDD 14th May
Wobblewatcher - baby#2 EDD 27th June
Inbetweener - baby#3 43+3 wks EDD 17th July
emmywoo
Purplehibiscus
Lucysnowe

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:

Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Jacanne with daughter Lotta Eliza, 8lbs 5oz born 20th April 2010
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May, 9lb 1oz
Meita with son Ianto born 23 August, 7lbs 4
Boodleboot with daughter Alice Elizabeth born 10 Sep - 8lbs 2oz
LeeWT with son Andrew Anthony born 28th Sept 7lbs 14oz
TFLS with son Charlie born on 30th September, 6lbs 8oz
SamB with daughter Ruby Mae born 19th October, 7lbs 10oz
Effilump with son Arlen born 16th October, 8lbs
Sarahlou8 with daughter Emily Isabella born 21st October, 7lb8oz
Unbuffy with son James Anthony born 3rd December, 6lb8oz
HappyGirl with daughter Ciara born 10th December, 8lb2oz
Malteser1981 with son Eli born 18 December, 8lb 6oz
Zayja with daughter Winona born 19 December, 7lbs 11oz
Sparklyrainbow with son Alex born 28th December, 9lb 7oz
GoodLuckBear with son James born 25th December, 8lb
BunnyBaby with son Daniel George born 5th January 2011, 10lb 1oz
AlbaDeTamble - with son born 10th Jan 2011, 8lbs 10oz
Gilda - with son Ren born 10th Jan 2011, 8lb 4oz
WestYorkshireGirl - with daughter Hester Rose born 14th Jan 2011, 6lb 4oz
Redheadgal - with daughter Cecily Anne born 13th Jan 2011, 8lbs 13oz
Toomuchteaching - with daughter Jemima born 17th Jan 2011, 8lb1/4oz
Dorcas111 - with daughter born 4th February 2011 8lbs 5oz
Clareanna - with son Tobias born 10th February 7lbs 10oz
Muser - with daughter born 15th February 6lbs 12oz
Ba8y1 ? with son born Tuesday 15th February, 8lbs 11oz
Lotta123 - with baby born Monday 21st February
Magic8ballhastheanswers - Identical twin girls, born 27th February 6lb8 & 5lb15
Northerngoldilocks - with son born Wednesday 16th March, 9lb 6oz
Stuffedmk - with son Thomas, born Wednesday 23rd March
Hopefully - with son, born 29th March 7lb 12oz
Lia - with daughter, born 1st April 8lb 11oz
PenguinsMummy - with daughter Clodagh
VivClicquot - with daughter, Phoebe, born Thursday 28 April, 7lb 5oz
Ivysedai - with son, born Tuesday May 2nd 3.83KG
Loopymumsy - with daughter, born Thursday 12th May, 7lb 15oz
Caribou - with son, Caleb, born Saturday 28 May, 9lb 1oz
LittleMiss - with son- born Wednesday 1st June 7lb 1oz
appleblossoms - with son Malachi, born Wednesday 15th June, 9lb 4oz
crochetcircle - with daughter born Sunday 26th June, 8lb 4oz.
urbanlolly - with daughter born Tuesday 19th July, 8lb 3oz.
Nickster - with son Corey born Tuesday 2nd August
Tiggersreturn - with sons born Saturday 13th August, 5lb 2oz and 3lb 13oz

In our thoughts and prayers:
Louise with daughter Georgie born asleep on 10th October
Dachs with her babies Alexander and Felicia who left the world asleep on 21st May
Magic8ballhastheanswers who leaves behind her beautiful little girl, spiderbabies and DH. Blessed are those of us that had the privilege of knowing you.

We share the pain and and mourn the loss with:
Jollster, Cheepz, Freezing, BarrenBrook, MsJL, LadyBee, Banana87, BatteryHen, HairyTriangle and Waterplate

Lara as pink says, you weren't to know, don't be silly!

Lia good idea and Pink Hope you don't mind I went ahead and did the list.

Hope everyone else is well. I'm sitting on edge of seat cause its the only comfortable position to be in hoping for news any day now from Owl c'mon baby Booty

mamap thanks v much for doing the list, the wording is lovely.

Lara the anti-d was absolutely fine, nothing at all to worry about. It's really important to keep your muscle relaxed when the needle goes in and they are injecting though, definitely hurts less that way.

lurking for owl news also

ladies don't worry,

thanks mama lovely words. :) :(

Mama and Lia very thoughtful of you both to amend the list to remember Magic8s, I never met her but feeling very today as she was such kind, thoughtful and happy MNer. I will also post on the thread in chat.

Umm, also I just wanted to say I had my 20 week scan today and all was amazingly normal and unremarkable (in a good sort of way) so I am officially delurking for good Looking forward to some very unglamorous pregnancy chat (although typically I'm now away for the next 5 days so will put myself on the list and catch up properly next week).

for Hairy, it's brilliant feeling the kicks isn't it

Waves to all

Been lurking for owl news hope you are doing ok.....

But so shocked and saddened to hear that magic has passed leaving her girls....I didn't really know her except for lurking just after my bfp. Loved her posts detailing her ever growing bump with the spiderbabies.... May she rest in peace xxx

Just a quick de lurk. 15 weeks now but no bump yet! Although jeans no longer need belt to stay up!

Nice to hear all the positive scan experiences mine seems ages away as hospital does it at 22 weeks although they also have a standard scan at 32 as well!

Hope owlet makes an appearance soon.

So sad to hear about magic I didn't know her but seems to have touched alot of lives.

Hope to see you all soon.

Very sad news to read this morning about magic. My heart goes out to her family.

Freezing - hurrah on your 20wk scan! Fabulous news - have a great break and look forward to seeing you here soon.

Lara all is not well in camp Bigmac on the DTD front either. I'd be fine not actually going all the way but even that seems off the cards too. MrBigMac says all the same things as MrLara but doesn't seem to initiate even though he good humourledly jokes about our lack of action - which in turn upsets me but it's his way of trying to communicate I think. Hmmmmm.

My best positive preggers experience is not having to worry about holding my belly in at all, ever. Relief after about 20 years of being conscious of my tummy, keeping Spanx afloat and generally bemoaning my lot.

Hi purple - hopefully the next few weeks will fly by for you. 22 weeks... that's torture!

I didn't know Magic but can't stop thinking about her family this morning. My thoughts and prayers are with them all

really sorry to hear about magic - i didn't know her either but am very sad to hear of her passing and my heart goes out to her family.

purple - welcome over here, good to see you. 22 wks is a long time to wait isn't it - congrats on getting to 15 though, hope you're feeling blooming? My bump didn't really pop until 18 wks, now it's feeling very high and making me short of breath.

freezing - great news on the scan -have a great break.

For anyone that's interested, I often listen to the Womans Hour podcast when I wake up in the middle of the night. Last night was a bad night as the neighbours had a screaming row at 1am so I got through a few episodes (!), but the 12 Aug one had a researcher on talking about a study into threatened mc. I found it quite interesting, they've basically developed a 'prg viability index' to give a better indication to women who are bleeding in early pg whether they are likely to mc or continue with the pg. Apparently 20% of those with threatened mc actually go on to mc and although the index isn't foolproof it gives a better idea which camp you're in. They are also looking at the possibility that those 20% of pgs that do mc after bleeding can be 'rescued' with hormone intake (didn't give anymore details on this). Anyway, it's prob more of interest to ladies in the earlier stages, but just thought I'd let you know as it's good to hear of promising research and the man talking about it did so very sensitively, which was nice.

scooby this was also the view of the fertility doctor that investigated my MC-he was frustrated that the NHS don't even make an attempt to 'rescue' pregnancies when in his view some might have been saved. Hopefully if more research gets done it won't just be the private clinics that monitor levels and try to preempt potential problems. I like womens hour-downloading the podcast is a fab idea!

pink and scoob that's really interesting. If I'm right I think they give hormones to PG ladies with threatened MC (and those who have low HGC levels in v early PG) in the US. I'm sure I read that when i was going through it in December/Jan. I'll have a listen.

When I first got my BFP, the clinic felt that my progesterone was borderline high enough to sustain the pregnancy so supplemented my levels. They then monitored it weekly until 16 weeks and when it dipped, increased the progesterone supplements further. Who knows whether all of this was just preventative or whether it made a difference but I am very grateful to be this pregnant.

Lara if it makes you feel any better, we have done it a grand total of once since I got pg! I think he's scared of me, I look like a massive egg with legs and tits. He's also always saying I look beautiful, but he never says sexy. Doesn't bother me that much.

such sad news today, so sorry to magics family and poor children.

irene i'm the same we've dtd once.

i'm feeling so uncomfortable lately, between spd aches and pains and full tummy aches. Have my scan tomorrow, looking forward to it am hoping baby's not too big already, otherwise i can wave goodbye to my mlu hopes.

Hello all. Came on for a quick catch up. So sorry to hear the news about Magic

Sad news about magic I didn't know her but sympathies to her family.

Not enough time for a catch up i'm afraid as have spent the day in hospital. Movements have been reduced the last couple of days and got nothing at all last night/this morning so called up and went in for monitoring. Had to be on the monitor for two bloody hours cuz the trace kept knocking off. Suffice to say baby started kicking as soon as the ecg went ok so all ok.

But am now under consultant care not MW as they decided I needed a scan due to being large. Baby is measuring at 37weeks all over on the head, leg and tummy measurements which is actually off the scale on the centile chart. Baby is also breech, legs extended, bum down, head to side. I have too much fluid too. Normal level is allowed up to 20. I have 23.9. Apparently I'm high risk for premature water breakage and because he is breech that means high risk for cord prolapse. I don't even know what that is? They want me back for rescan in 2 weeks time. Bloods also taken to check for infections in fluid.

So was in hopsital from 11 til 4. Am knackered and starving and now going to google when I shouldn't. Worried and stressed is the diagnosis for the day!

Hope everyone is ok.

Oh coconuts sorry you have been in hospital. Is it a problem that baby is so big at this stage?

I don't know if it's a problem. One MW says they'll need to monitor it, another will say it doesn't matter so I'm at aloss with that one. I think it's the fluid that is the main worry, but after some googling and speaking to a MW friend, I am a little reassured that I definitely don't need to worry yet and they are keeping a close eye on things. Been a stressful day though all in all.