dandy, you're really making me .
really need to make this short as have to get dressed, get girls to nursery quickly, off to the dentist. but wanted to say hope sausage is doing well in the days before the wedding. don't forget to breathe!
again, all, thanks for the advice. very, very sound advice.
ladyH/llare/dandy, I hadn't even thought of the house insurance.
dandy, i've calmed down and looked again at the email and you're right that it's not as bad reading again when I'm not so incensed. I've had a friend look at it objectively and she thinks it's wrong, that it seems like the manager is trying to push me into resignation. so at least I know that I'm not taking the thing out of proportion.
I will keep the letter. I will think of a calm, proper reply that isn't rushed. she still needs to respond to my KIT request from a month ago so I also need to address that. I've got a friend in empl law who I can ask for advice as well.
anyway, will do a proper name check later, i need to catch up on a few pages. anniv dinner was lovely, lovely champagne and chocolates as well.
thanks again to you all for your support as you really do lift me in my insecure moods. MN hugs all round.