((((((Bit late to the quiche hug but joining in anyway from the back))))))
sophia It must be so hard having to deal with xh. You are so very right to remain the bigger person here, you'll not regret it. I did type a long post about my experiences when my parents split but it's so hard to put things into words. We stayed with my dad but we had little choice as my mum walked out one day. Just went without any warning. Your girls know that although you're not with them everyday that they are very much loved by you and wanted. You are doing all you can. Don't lose hope.
On a lighter note, loving the wedding chat. I walked down the isle to a string quartet playing "all I ask of you" from the phantom of the opera. We both love muscials (which I was very surprised to find out as he was a 6ft 2 rugby playing tough nut, stereotypical moi?) and this song just seemed fitting. I did at one point want to walk down to "past the point of no return" (also from phantom) or the music from star wars that is always played whenever darth vader appears. But thought I should perhaps take one bit of our wedding seriously. As a nod to our geekiness we walked back up the isle to the Star Wars music.