November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

[StuntNun]

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Pass that's the poem we had! So accurate for me too . DH reckoned it was the bridezilla test - if you have that poem you can't be a bridezilla.

As for lurgy I'm functioning at 60% today (have been as low as 10% earlier this week - the worst I've felt in years: fever, night sweats, exhaustion and basically a strep infection of my whole head!!!!!) and the ABs are kicking in nicely. I'm on a v high dose of penicillin but J didn't react and the BF network said it is ok but might lead to a reaction, whereas cocodamol is a SIDS risk ( v low) but I daren't use it whilst nursing. Thankfully my ear drum didn't pop. For those LOs who have had that happen - no wonder they squeak - I woke up so many times in pain! Really horrible feeling like having a drill in your ear. I imagine!

VQ we find oatly best for savoury cooking, koko for sweet and strawberry / chocolate koko for him to drink in any quantity. So he'll be going from the goodness of BM to actual utter processed shit!!! But it's the only way to get calcium / milk in him.

It's the register office, i don't think it's a very long aisle the D major canon is a bit slow to kick off. The Fugue is pretty cool, although I'd prefer something a bit more obscure music graduate snobby cow Any particular Einaudi?

Vows will be bog standard do you i do i think.

Not ignoring anyone honest, i just have nothing useful to add

I feel like that a lot pp

I feel like if we were all out together I would be sitting nodding my head but saying nothing very much

It's not the lawer speak, it's me.
It brings up so many unhappy memories, what I want is to have the money and be left alone with my son.
But I know by law that can't happen. Would n hate me for leaving his dad? Will he understand? Will he blame me? will he want to live with his dad when he's older? Cause if he did it would break my heart. Of course his dad can afford all the fun stuff when he is older, and on the surface he seems ok.

Evil

I think you are right stunt . Thanks all for your pragmatism. I don't ever really talk about the realities of it because I am sticking with it in the hope that eventually I will come out ok. We did always say that the girls opinion is always important. I think he banks on because they have their life there and their friends etc then that's it. I always just love them, never expect anything while at the same time trying to let them know there is always a place for them here ( I have to be v careful as to how I phrase stuff as if it were to get back to him that I had said something (fairly normal) like "I would love if you were here all the time and there is always a home for you with me" well, hell would break loose. Honestly. He would say I was manipulating them etc.) so you can see what a difficult balancing act it is.

vq I never had any advice over weaning Dd1 off the goats formula she was on and onto cows. So I just went to regular goats milk. I used to go to a goat farm ran by a man and his son and the son would come out with half his teeth missing and grin! and hand me bags of frozen goats milk into the car and I would pay (from safety of car). It was all a bit like Hot Fuzz. AnywAy, then I went onto soy and that was a disaster, I think have mentioned before, ambulances and blue lights and HDU. horrible. So then rice milk. Oatly seems to be the popular option at the mo but we have stuck with rice milk with added calcium as she likes it, a I use regular cows milk in cooking. I just watch if she is worried or stressed I keep dairy intake v low as she can get a bad reaction then, which with her is terrible terrible constipation and very bad stomach pains.

Sorry to be woo as me. It's just taken me off guard.
Evil

PP IF we ever get married - long long long way off even remotely happening but I'm an optimist - we have decided on 'love will tear us apart' by the cure

We have no tenancy here. The bastard isn't a registered landlord (as we discovered recently) and hasn't been declaring tax on our income (a bombshell I am saving up). He has also borrowed against our house through my work to fund his latest house purchase without declaring it is a buy to let. Prat. He is looking at fraud and a possible repossession at best. Anyway, I am withholding rent until the boiler is sorted, and putting it in a high interest savings account instead so I can at least earn a little out of his crappyness. Collateral damage?

Stunt I think I would eat dairy up to 33 weeks but then quit everything other than trace dairy - as I need to rebuild my calcium stores fill my face. I definitely wouldn't try dairy back into my diet until the wee one would be a min of 3 months but I'd try to keep traces in - if the baby allowed this time as that is meant to help them get over it quicker. The big NHS study reports this year. I would expect to see a reaction when I try dairy. If we can avoid those two months of screaming hell whilst you're adjusting to a newborn so much the better.

Isles I think how you feed babies is one of those topics the world feels it has a say in - however you do it. I've explicitly had two GPs tell me I shouldn't be BF the bear. Whilst there's all the prebirth pressure to BF I don't know of any GP to explicitly say that about FF. Societally and in the media FF is the norm. I've never seen a soap mum BF for example. I do think EastEnders would do a better job in preventing teen pregnancies if they showed one of the teen mums stuck in every night nursing - rather than out on the lash whilst Billy Mitchell bottle feeds their tiny baby like a month after labour!

I should stress that one of the reasons MIL's comment made me so emotional earlier is she's a fully paid up member of the 'baby is cold / hot; hungry / full; underdressed / overdressed' ie exactly the opposite of what I think' club . She thinks J should have been on cows milk months ago to see if it could 'flush' this allergy business away.

Evil no-one can answer those questions. But staying in an unhappy relationship for kids breeds far more unhappiness and long term damage than for those children who get the opportunity to see happy parents.

Will N want to live with XP at some point? Possibly. No-one can say he won't.

But you did the right thing. You gave you and him a chance for happiness. That you wouldn't have had otherwise.

evil and sophia big hugs to both of you. sophia I could cry for you when you talk about missing your girls, I can't even imagine how that feels

pidj I walked down the aisle to the piece of music which is the theme from the film Ladies In Lavender. Partly because I love it, partly because it was the film my grandfather had loved and watched several times in his last few weeks. He was the only person missing from my wedding, and would have loved it, so I guess it was a way to bring him in.

yw glad you're feeling bit better, hope you're back to 100% soon.

An evening of decluttering here tonight in front of a film. Anyone watched The Terminal? I think it is meant to be a comedy but it's making me sad. Bloody hormones.

And let zamboni or your lawyer or someone on the legal boards read it and help with practical advice xxx

Is it the film with Tom Hanks and CZJ?

Hated it :o

pp have a listen to Le Onde they are all really really touching and memorable.

(Having said that I really wanted snow patrol, set the fire to the third bar, at our wedding as it empitomised our early relationship, anyway ended up with zadok the priest)

Yes evil happy to translate if necessary.

Am assuming pass will be translating school reports for us all in a few years...

yw for having a MIL who thinks the opposite and not having your mum

Yeah PR it's shit but his alone-ness is making me sad. I am expecting AF so think this is making me

Sophia (D)P went to school with Gary Lightbody . Apparently he became a prick and ditched all his friends when Snow Patrol became famous

evil you are in the midst of the most difficult time. You defo have done the right thing my love. The legal, financial and access stuff seems like a mountain to climb I know that and that overwhelming feeling is partly why I ended up in the mess I am in, because I had lost my mum too and my dad had met someone else I was just at complete rock bottom and had nothing emotionally to fight with. If I had my time again I would have fought and fought and got my girls. So gather it all up, put your stiff upper lip on and fight for the way you want it to be and be In control, and rant here if you need to, but don't let him see through any gaps.

I have a feeling all Ls school reports will be...must sit down and pay attention

Sophia and evil just massive massive cuddles xxxx

isles that's terrible.
sophia how you cope from day to day! I don't know. I'd fall to pieces.
Evil

I will be all over that shit.

I have a close family connection to the composer of the ladies in lavender music. He would be delighted!

Can we just quiche hug please. Just right now.

The true story that vaguely inspired the film is sadder, if you're in a maudlin mood zamboni :)

LO is on amoxycillin for a possible ear infection. Since Monday. I remember pre weaning masses of sharts on that stuff. Anyone have more recent experience? She's quite unsettled since Thursday evening (the fateful flouncing night). Prescribed a spoonful every 12 hours for 10 days in total. Am not talkkng horrendous nights except Thursday but just unsettled.

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