November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

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chasing you go girl.

isles You do make me laugh. Only you could slip into conversation that you've bought a house! Love the kitchen.

bplp To answer your question of many moons a go, E is also terribly fussy about who feeds her. If I'm in the vacinity she won't let anyone else feed her, apart from DD1 (strange child). If I'm not around she is isn't fussy at all. We joke that she is a mummy wuss but she generally won't let anybody else do anything if I'm there. She sort of gives me this weird look as if to say "I can see you so why the hell is this joker feeding me/holding me/changing my nappy instead of you". It's fine for now but hoping she will grow out of it sooner rather than later.

Due to E's feeding issues she has never had a bottle right before bed. We do milk downstairs then it's up to her room for stories and cuddles and then she goes into bed awake. She normally goes to sleep straight away, or at least drifts off in her own time without crying. Occassionally she will shout or cry a bit and I go up after 5 mins. I either stroke her back or if she's really worked up then pick her up. But she's only ever really worked up if she's in pain for one reason or another so I don't leave her to cry on these occassions. I'll cuddle her till she falls asleep.

Well operation reduce the meds didn't go so well today. But she had an odd combination of foods at a childs birthday party today (inc loads of salty japenese crisps) so going to persist a bit longer to see if I can work out a pattern.

Lol det I read that as O sometimes has a cup of tea at bedtime! isles I must have missed something I thought you were still biding your time and leaving soon? House looks amazing!

Morning. Just marking place as took a while to catch up.

Eurrrrgggghhhh in the office

Good morning quiche

Happy Monday

So today marks the day that I start trying to teach O to self settle at bedtime. Just realised he has jabs on Wednesday so not the best timing but never mind. I am starting by making sure he is very tired out today - I got him up early and am taking him to baby group this morning. Fingers crossed it works...

We made it out the door today in time. But drop off with childminder was horrendous She clung to me as soon as we got out the car and screamed as soon as I handed her over. I imagine dp will be collecting her before 10 as I have a meeting this morning. I hate hate hate this

stormy. Try not to worry. O struggled to settle on his real sessions but was brill at his settling in sessions. He would look knowingly at me when we pulled into the nursery driveway. But now he is fine and has much more confidence. I know a lot of other quichsters have had the same, it just may take a while. And, she will probably cry when you pick her up too. They just all do that. Lots of love. Do not worry [easier said than done emoticon]

stormy if you have no reason to believe the CM isn't less than great then don't worry, T will adapt. They very often bawl just until you leave.

Cost of registering the girls' births with the UK FCO: £105 registration, £65 for a British birth certificate plus €132 consular fees.

Per child. Plus passport fees if they ever need one of €160+

But has to be done.

When we registered them in France it cost nothing. No consular fees in Lux. And their ID cards which allow them EU travel: nothing. And if we ever get them French passports will be about €80.

Not sure how the embassy can justify those fees.

Pr isn't cheaper to travel back for a visit and do it in the uk? I refused to go through the hassle with the Hungarian embassy in London as the cost was horrendous. Not like I have the chance to register her anytime soon here either but at least the registration is free.

No as we are resident in France we have to do it here. It's unbelievable.

Guess who has forgotten his son? That's right, ex.
Grrr"............
Evil

evil I am so angry on your behalf

And pr that's a crazy amount of money. How annoying but understand why it needs done.

House is great. It is a much nicer plot than the one we could buy now and I am prepared to wait so I can choose everything. I don't need to sort mortgage until June at the very earliest so have plenty of time to back out if dp starts being a prick again, but since most of the stress of the last year has now gone things are back on an even keel. We are both trying and it shows.

I am on the verge of tears thinking about wee m should I phone the childminder before I go into my first meeting at 1030 to see if she's settled or just leave it?

det part of me is thinking fuck it, it's not like I need a reference from him. Given we don't even have a tenancy (despite asking several times) there is very little he can do if we stop paying altogether.

But then the nice part of me probably couldn't go through with it

Isles call before your meeting it'll reassure you. I hate heartbreaking drop offs. I'm so sorry about today's

I'd say not paying rent if (big if!) he fixes everything would just be inviting unnecessary drama and bad karma into your life. He sounds like he might not play by the rules either and you don't want it escalating with him I dunno retaliating by damaging your property or causing shit for P or you professionally. It really doesn't have to be you and P against the world - is the rent avoidance his idea? Is he addicted to drama or has he noticed it bonds you and keeps you by his side? V glad to hear for you and M that things are on an even keel but you don't need the stress of messing with the village psycho IMHO xxx

No my idea. He actually doesn't want to rock the boat and thinks we should just pay him regardless of the problems. If ll fixes the issues (or even some of them) I have no problem paying rent. But I am damned if we are forking out nearly a thousand pounds a month for a house with unreliable heating and a barely working washing machine (amongst several other things )when the greedy bastard isn't even declaring it.

If it weren't for a dog and the hassle I would be tempted to rent somewhere else for a few months. But hey ho, email has been sent and ll knows what needs done. I will just sit and wait for the fall out.

I'd threaten him with the taxman and then on leaving inform HMRC. Unless you have any outstanding tax or he might do the same! Legally you can withhold rent if there is no heating or hot water - not sure where you'd stand if it's intermittent. As for washing machine that's a PITA! Good luck. Have you called the CM. Hope LO has settled. J is back in nursery for a half day on Wednesday and I know he's going to go thermonuclear

Oh no pr, hope you can sort it out.

evil keep records of everything.
isles you need to talk to him. Heating system is the first to sort out, washing machine also important. But I still wouldn't withhold the rent.

Trying to teach O to do a jigsaw. Hahaha. Not being successful.

The consulate in Paris have phoned the one in Lux and they've agreed to bend the rules and let me register the girls via the Lux one which means I won't have to courier my passport to Paris only for them to courier it to Lux and then back again. Which is great and should speed things up and cut down on costs slightly.

Bureaucracy at its finest, eh PR. It will be worth the peace of mind though.

isles S has just moved rooms at his nursery so is a bit uncertain again, like he was at the very start. He wailed this morning, real tears, clung to me, reached back for me as I left him. Heartbreaking. But by the time I had scooted DD up to her room and taken her for a wee and said bye, he was fine. Bashing the crap out of a saucepan. Babbling to a little girl. Having DD is an advantage because I can pop back and check he has settled (but don't let him see me). And he always has been. Every single time. Within 5 minutes. I hope this reassures you.

Sounds like a right faff pr

He may suprise you yw O walked in all confident last week after a week off. I also was expecting him to turn into a small power station.

stormy renting can be stressful and only as good as your ll it seems. I think your aim to get on the housing ladder ASAP is a good goal and that house seems like a great family home. I may have missed something, have you reserved it? When would you need to make a deposit? You may need to be patient with the build but I would stick with it.

Thanks zamboni I held off phoning but will hear from dp in half an hour.

sophia I have provisionally reserved one. They are being officially released in June so will pay a deposit and start to organise mortgage then. Already have mortgage in principal approved and see no changes other than potential pay rises for both of us before then. They are hoping for a build completion of September, but realistically I will be happy if it's done by Christmas. There is one ready now but I don't like the plot and don't want to stretch us just yet.

Evil hope you're feeling better about Ns drop off this morn xx

PR a small victory over HMG bureaucracy - I'd be proud!

I think after two lots of food poisoning and being off my food this week with my lurgy I've lost a chunk of weight. My size 10 jeans which I brought optimistically on holiday and which I normally need to lie down to fasten are baggy . Woo can't wait to get home and hop on the scales! I love accidental weight loss. I'm definitely well under 11 stone, wonder if I'm under 10.5. My goal is 10 but had given up trying due to planned updiffery this summer - sods law I finally get back to a weight I like just before then .

isles that's an amazing house. well jel You are within your rights to withold rent but I don't know if I would. If he does evict you what will you do between then and when your house is ready? Bearing in mind it could be delayed.

woohoooo chasing. Great plan as well about seeing him at weekends and still having Oscar time and me time in the week.

C slept through last night from 8.30pm - 7.45am. He has only done that a handful of times and I was overjoyed to get a decent night's sleep. He has been really crappy lately because he's teething again I think.

I met DP in a library just before my 16th birthday. I was studying for my GCSEs and he was using the internet to email his family back home. His friend noticed me eyeing him up and DP came and asked for my number. I refused to give him mine but took his. I wanted to appear cool and leave it a few days but ended up texting him on my way home. We had our first date a couple of days later at the park and immediately fell for each other.

He was an asylum seeker at the time and my parents weren't best pleased about it and stopped me seeing him so I used to bunk off school to go and meet him. Eventually I had enough of my parents trying to stop me. One day I had been to see DP and it was time to leave. I told him I didn't want to go home. "Come and live with me then" he said jokingly, not really expecting what came next. So I went home, packed a bag and went back to his. I called my mum and told her I wouldn't be going home, cue lots of tears. This was a few months before my 18th birthday. My parents eventually came round when they realised he wasn't after me just for a passport and it was the real deal. We have now been together nearly 11 years and are getting married in June. DP's parents think we are already married because in Iran living together when you are not married is unheard of so he lied and told them we were married years ago

I'm about a 20 at the moment or so it feels, my only clean jeans are my tightish 12s and i cba with tights and frocks even though i might be more comfortable bleugh